So Much to Say, So Little Time…

Neat things that I’ve been up to during the past month:

1) Fine tuned my advice page on Shout-outs to Steve Bywater and Kelly Stearns for being the first online dating executives to truly integrate and promote E-Cyrano on their website.

2) Talked with the amazing publicists at Goldberg-McDuffie and FSB Associates about working on “Why You’re Still Single”. Shout-outs to Megan Beatie and Fauzia Burke for believing in the book and investing the time and resources to make sure it finds its audience.

3) Took yoga and salsa lessons. I’m terrible at both, to the point where my sister praised me for being bold enough to risk looking so bad. But still, the classes are tons of fun and they take me out of my head for a solid hour. In fact, that’s one of the best endorsements I can give: “You have to concentrate so hard in order to do it right that you don’t have a chance to think about anything else.” This is surprisingly therapeutic.

4) Starting writing an article that I hope to submit to the New York Times Modern Love column. I’m very excited about this and would love to even post it here, but that would sort of defeat the point of having it published, wouldn’t it?

5) Submitted some articles to, including one, “Don’t Call Me Sugar”, which got an amazing reaction and became the Editor’s Pick of the Day. Of course, any piece which debates whether a man or a woman should pay for a date is gonna stir up a hornet’s nest. Hmm… maybe I’ll put it up here, too. Yep. See the next blog post.

6) Put up a My Space page for Why You’re Still Single. Despite my online dating expertise, still don’t know how to make friends on there. I must admit that my first grey hairs (four of them, on my left temple) have made me feel a little old for the place.

7) Had dinner with my high school crush, who I found on My Space, living a few miles away from me in Santa Monica. It had been sixteen years since we’d seen each other which is probably why we chatted for four hours over dinner and drinks. Far more time was spent discussing our post-high-school careers, jobs, love lives, etc., but we did, in fact, talk about both my super-mullet and the bad poetry I wrote to her back in the day. Good times. Turns out my former crush grew up to be exactly who I expected her to be, which is a high compliment, indeed. And since she’s a film buff, she saw me on HBO during Project Greenlight. Crazy. Needless to say, she was surprised when she found out about my new career as an author and dating expert. And, considering how I did with girls in high school, my current job was as predictable as me playing QB for the Jets. All in all, it was a fun evening, one which will be repeated again – next time, with her husband and my girlfriend.

8) Found out that two very special people in my life passed away last week. People that I’ve known since childhood. One was like an uncle to me when I was growing up in Long Island; the other was a kindred spirit who was cursed with a condition that restricted her lung capacity to about 10% of what it should be. She lived twice as long as doctors expected and appreciated every day that she woke up in the morning. An obvious lesson to the rest of us. I can only wish that both of my old friends are resting in peace, wherever they are.

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    how nice of you to have posted a round-up. although your articles are often based on sharing personal experiences, this one has more of a homey, chatty epistle feel to it. makes the guru sound a little more neighbourly.

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