I’ll admit it: I had no idea what I was getting into when I decided to offer a $7775 scholarship to one lucky woman.
All I knew was that I have a long track record for helping women find love and I wanted to give my gift to someone who wanted it badly enough.
I should have known that I’d be flooded with responses; I just didn’t anticipate how much those responses would MOVE me.
Watch 100 three-minute videos from authentic, vulnerable, open-hearted women, and you, too, will absolutely melt. Each and every woman shared her pain, her confusion, and her frustration, and asked sincerely for my assistance.
That was the only common thread. Otherwise, it was all over the map.
• There were Facebook fans and blog readers who couldn’t resist the offer.
• There were Why He Disappeared, Believe in Love, and Finding the One Online devotees hoping to take things to the next level.
• There were current FOCUS and Inner Circle members looking for more personal attention.
• There were former private clients coming back for a second round of coaching.
• There were applications from South Africa, Germany, and the Philippines, and applications from right here in Los Angeles.
It was completely overwhelming.
At a certain point, my emotions got the best of me.
In sifting through this deep well of incredible candidates, I didn’t feel like I would be rewarding one woman, but rather punishing the 100 women I didn’t choose.
It’s not true, but it’s the way I felt. I want to help EVERYBODY, and yet there are only so many hours in the day to work for free, you know? ☺
Someone who is self-aware, someone who takes personal responsibility for her situation, someone takes coaching seriously, someone who is willing to date online, and someone who wants to share her story to inspire others.
That’s why I’m choosing Maria to join me on this journey. She and I have already spoken and she’s very eager to get started, document the process, and share her discoveries with you. Here’s her application video:
I do not make impossible promises to clients before working with them, and I will not make one to Maria – not about how many dates she’ll get online, nor about when she’ll find a boyfriend, or when she’ll get engaged.
All I promised to Maria is what I asked her to promise to me: that we’ll give each other 100% and do everything in our power to turn this into a fun, exciting and successful endeavor.
But you don’t need a full-time dating coach to make a difference in your life.
All you need to do is take one small step.
You ask questions. You get answers. And, as they say, it costs less than a cup of coffee a day to change the course of your entire life.
There is no point spending even one more second alone, sad, and confused, when there is a community of women out there waiting to lift you into a happier state.
That’s what FOCUS is all about.
In the meantime, have a Merry Christmas and Happy New Years, and I’ll see you with more thoughtful content in a few days.
Warmest wishes and much love,
P.S. Jennifer joined FOCUS Coaching when she was a “nervous, depressed miserable wreck.” She left in a much better state of being…
Looking back now, I realize I was a nervous, depressed miserable wreck. I survived a traumatic self-debasing situation which I called relationship but was really just me holding on to someone who was barely there. I felt so down on myself I could barely get out of the house, never mind be a good partner.
I needed to understand what had happened, why. I was desperately looking for a way to wrap my head around the man, my feelings, his actions. I just could not get it. But slowly, hearing all the stories from the ladies on the forum and the different reactions to my stories, I started to get it. Importantly, I started paying attention to what was really going on in my relationships – with men and also friends and at work. I started feeling more open and living more in the moment. The image of having my head in the clouds started feeling silly and even dangerous rather than romantic.
I learned to listen more closely. To suspend judgment. To be open. And to trust my gut. I have excellent intuition, and I’m learning to follow its lead. This helps me feel more secure and grounded and ultimately happier. I feel more empowered, more grounded. I feel responsible to myself of my own actions, how I use my time and who I spend it with. I feel grateful for the many opportunities life dishes out to me every day. I particularly feel grateful for the warmth, the patience, the loving support of all the women here. The feeling of being part of a group of peers, the feeling of being understood and not judged, encouraged and gently nudged along a oath of personal growth, is the biggest value I found in this community.
And I want to thank all the FOCUS ladies for your patience, your support, your earnest good intentions, your kind words. Many a time I have turned to you and felt welcomed and cared for. I’d like to thank Evan for dreaming this concept up and for realizing the value of peer support. And of course for bringing back to my love life a sense of stability, a level headedness that I was really missing at some point, a feeling of being in control of the big picture without having to control each situation.
Lots of love, above all xxx
Start 2015 with the support, love, and wisdom you need to turn your love life around. Join me in FOCUS Coaching. You won’t regret it.