And The Winner of the 2015 EMK Commitment Course Scholarship Is…


I’ll admit it: I had no idea what I was getting into when I decided to offer a $7775 scholarship to one lucky woman.

All I knew was that I have a long track record for helping women find love and I wanted to give my gift to someone who wanted it badly enough.

I should have known that I’d be flooded with responses; I just didn’t anticipate how much those responses would MOVE me.

Watch 100 three-minute videos from authentic, vulnerable, open-hearted women, and you, too, will absolutely melt. Each and every woman shared her pain, her confusion, and her frustration, and asked sincerely for my assistance.

That was the only common thread. Otherwise, it was all over the map.

    – There were Facebook fans and blog readers who couldn’t resist the offer.

    – There were Why He Disappeared, Believe in Love, and Finding the One Online devotees hoping to take things to the next level.

    – There were current FOCUS and Inner Circle members looking for more personal attention.

    – There were former private clients coming back for a second round of coaching.

    – There were applications from South Africa, Germany, and the Philippines, and applications from right here in Los Angeles.

It was completely overwhelming.

At a certain point, my emotions got the best of me.

In sifting through this deep well of incredible candidates, I didn’t feel like I would be rewarding one woman, but rather punishing the 100 women I didn’t choose.

It’s not true, but it’s the way I felt. I want to help EVERYBODY, and yet there are only so many hours in the day to work for free, you know? ☺

Someone who is self-aware, someone who takes personal responsibility for her situation, someone takes coaching seriously, someone who is willing to date online, and someone who wants to share her story to inspire others.

That’s why I’m choosing Maria to join me on this journey. She and I have already spoken and she’s very eager to get started, document the process, and share her discoveries with you. Here’s her application video:

I do not make impossible promises to clients before working with them, and I will not make one to Maria — not about how many dates she’ll get online, nor about when she’ll find a boyfriend, or when she’ll get engaged.

All I promised to Maria is what I asked her to promise to me: that we’ll give each other 100% and do everything in our power to turn this into a fun, exciting and successful endeavor.

But you don’t need a full-time dating coach to make a difference in your life.

All you need to do is take one small step.

So please, join me and hundreds of other women in my FOCUS Coaching Community.

You ask questions. You get answers. And, as they say, it costs less than a cup of coffee a day to change the course of your entire life.

There is no point spending even one more second alone, sad, and confused, when there is a community of women out there waiting to lift you into a happier state.

That’s what FOCUS is all about.

In the meantime, have a Merry Christmas and Happy New Years, and I’ll see you with more thoughtful content in a few days.

Warmest wishes and much love,

Your friend,


P.S. Jennifer joined FOCUS Coaching when she was a “nervous, depressed miserable wreck.” She left in a much better state of being…

Looking back now, I realize I was a nervous, depressed miserable wreck. I survived a traumatic self-debasing situation which I called relationship but was really just me holding on to someone who was barely there. I felt so down on myself I could barely get out of the house, never mind be a good partner.

I needed to understand what had happened, why. I was desperately looking for a way to wrap my head around the man, my feelings, his actions. I just could not get it. But slowly, hearing all the stories from the ladies on the forum and the different reactions to my stories, I started to get it. Importantly, I started paying attention to what was really going on in my relationships – with men and also friends and at work. I started feeling more open and living more in the moment. The image of having my head in the clouds started feeling silly and even dangerous rather than romantic.

I learned to listen more closely. To suspend judgment. To be open. And to trust my gut. I have excellent intuition, and I’m learning to follow its lead. This helps me feel more secure and grounded and ultimately happier. I feel more empowered, more grounded. I feel responsible to myself of my own actions, how I use my time and who I spend it with. I feel grateful for the many opportunities life dishes out to me every day. I particularly feel grateful for the warmth, the patience, the loving support of all the women here. The feeling of being part of a group of peers, the feeling of being understood and not judged, encouraged and gently nudged along a oath of personal growth, is the biggest value I found in this community.

And I want to thank all the FOCUS ladies for your patience, your support, your earnest good intentions, your kind words. Many a time I have turned to you and felt welcomed and cared for. I’d like to thank Evan for dreaming this concept up and for realizing the value of peer support. And of course for bringing back to my love life a sense of stability, a level headedness that I was really missing at some point, a feeling of being in control of the big picture without having to control each situation.

Lots of love, above all xxx


Start 2015 with the support, love, and wisdom you need to turn your love life around. Join me in FOCUS Coaching. You won’t regret it.

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  1. 1

    go for it Maria!! Commit to you… 🙂

    what a great way to kick off 2015 with Evan’s expertise and guidance.

  2. 2

    Congratulations, @Maria!   You seem like a lovely person and a worthy winner.  
    Merry Christmas, Evan.   Yeah, yeah: atheist Jew and all that… 🙂   Still, MERRY CHRISTMAS to you and all your readers and your family.

  3. 3
    Judy Z

    I’m so excited for Maria’s journey. Cant wait to hear updates on her amazing process. 🙂

  4. 4


    Such a great idea to do this and help Maria! her journey is going to help inspire all of us! I want you to know that you are one of the best dating coaches out there…I appreciate your geniune real straight up feedback to help all of us! Thank you!  

  5. 5

    Good luck Maria. 🙂 Merry Xmas, Evan and everyone else! The Christmas season rocks 🙂

  6. 6

    I already like her, she says she is a Chemist junkie just like me! Well Im not that smart but my BS is in Chemical Engineering that you’ve said 100 s of times no guy is impressed about that. She looks terrific for 54, I thought she was 35 or something. I wish I also had the chance to marry the charming prince blue eye and everything, lol. Good luck Maria!

  7. 7

    whwt a great video Maria – bravo. The world is ready for you. Cant wait to hear about your journey and growth. And yes Latinas need the encouragement and example.  

    You can do this.   

  8. 8

    Maria seems great!   I’m so glad that an obviously lovely person is taking this great leap for the adventure of a lifetime.   Go, Maria!!!!   

  9. 9

    All the best, Maria. That is a great message you created. What you create with coaching from Evan is going to be… actually I cannot imagine but pretty darn amazing I bet.  You are so going to find love. A wonderful man is going to be over the moon to be with you.

  10. 10

    Great pick, Evan!

    Good luck Maria – I’m excited to see your journey!

  11. 11
    Fiona Atkinson

    Good luck Maria! I can tell you are an absolute sweetheart and clearly deserve this opportunity. Sending you the best of luck all the way from Australia x

  12. 12

    Enjoy this journey, and I am excited for you and can’t wait to read what you share. I’ve been talking to a guy from online and now text for a month. We have yet to meet. To read what you have to say will be a great encouragement.

  13. 13

    Wishing you all the best, how exciting!

  14. 14
    Joanne Sterling

    Thank you for sharing your video, Maria!   What a beautiful woman you are, and
    you inspire us all with your courage to realize your dream.   We will be watching
    and cheering you on from the sidelines!   It’s going to be a great year!
    Bon Voyage!!

  15. 15

    Congratulations to you, Maria! Although I’m
    disappointed  that I didn’t win Evan’s challenge,
    I am very excited for you and think your video
    was amazing! I wish you (and all of us) the very
    best for 2015! I think it’s going to be a very good

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