Women Are Racist

black man pursing a white woman

No, not really. But in John Tierney’s continued analysis of dating behavior, he cites some interesting studies that suggest that women are far less open to dating men of other races than vice versa.

African-American women said yes about 30 percent less often to Hispanic men; about 45 percent less often to white men; about 65 percent less often to Asian men.

Black women were the most averse to interracial dating, Asian women were the most open to it, and Asian men didn’t fare all that well.

I’m not going to hypothesize why – after all, I’m a dating coach, not a social scientist – but this very much corresponds with what I’ve heard from clients.

White women said yes about 30 percent less often to black or Hispanic men, and about 65 percent less often to Asian men.

With one exception. I’m a bit surprised at men’s openness to interracial dating. While I’ve personally dated women across the racial spectrum, I’ve only had a handful of clients who ever expressed preferences for women of other races. Then again, the demographics of my clients are probably a bit skewed towards upper-middle class white people.

Any readers with interracial dating experience care to weigh in?

Hispanic women said yes about 20 percent less often to black or white men, and 50 percent less often to Asian men.

Money quote:The researchers found that most women speed daters said yes (meaning they’d like to see a man again after the four-minute speed date) less often to men of another race than they did to men of their own race. Here’s how much less interested they were in the other races, as compared with their enthusiasm for men of their own race:

Asian women didn’t discriminate much by race (except for showing a very slight preference for Asian men over black or Hispanic men).

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But wait, there’s some “good news” from those same researchers.

A few days later, after looking at 300 reader comments, researchers sent some surprising news back.

Daters who discriminate by race… also temper these biases once they get to know one another.

“The researchers realize that their results can be depressing, but they also agree with the many readers who caution against reading too much into the preferences of online daters and speed daters. Yes, these daters clearly discriminate by race and height and looks and other superficial qualities, but they also temper these biases once they get to know one another.”

People who are terribly picky in choosing partners online will relax their standards if they spend just three or four minutes talking to someone at a speed dating session.

Click here to read the whole article.

What’s your view? To quote one researcher, Paul W.  Eastwick, “do those stated ‘turn-offs’ come back to haunt you later in the relationship, or are they permanently forgotten?”

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  1. 1
    Carrie Freeman

    Inter-racial dating is the majority of what I have done since I began dating! I married a black man, who I am now (17 years later) divorcing, but the point is that I think the world is FULL of potential, why limit yourself?

    1. 1.1

      Mudsharks are the  lowest of the low.

      1. 1.1.1
        Michael Ejercito

        What is a mud shark?  

        1. Ken

          a trashy white girl Ghetto who only dates black guys lol usually not attractive and have an IQ of 80 to 89

      2. 1.1.2

        That’s a seriously hurtful comment. Consider another human beings feelings. People like you have no grace about themselves. I’m guessing white is the closest mankind can get based on your logic. Mudshark is a derogative term for blacks

        1. Mitch

          I agree with you that it is crude and insensitive, but it is not aimed at blacks, but at white girls who exclusively date blacks.

      3. 1.1.3

        Ian just revealed how incredibly smart he is. I mean you guys must have missed the statistics and factual evidence he provided to support his claim. Sheesh!

      4. 1.1.4

        White trash is at the very bottom, just like ya

        Only if your dick was as big as your mouth

        1. Shabaaz Ali

          The largest penis in the world belongs to a Northern European white man. so you can nip that white dick hoax goodbye. The black dick hoax is the biggest fabrication known to mankind. Every female of every race likes white men, because they have a certain level character and maturity unlike most other ethnics.

        2. watchdog

          Shabaaz, the tallest living person, more than once, was a Chinese man. The tallest living woman was also Chinese. It is common knowledge that Chinese are significantly shorter on average. I think you understand what I’m getting at here. You need more to support your fairytale.

        3. AllHeart81

          Shabaaz Ali – White men have a ‘certain level of character and maturity unlike most other ethnics’???? That’s got to be one of the most racist and ignorant things I’ve ever heard. And I’m a white chick FYI.

        4. Jorge

          Let’s try to understand genetics and human anatomy. Blacks evolved in warm climates, Asians and whites (generally speaking) evolved in cold climates. The difference in penis size is only in the flacid state. This is protection device against cold weather for whites.

          Blacks are generally the same size flacid or erect, whites will typically grow a substantial amount from flacid to erect. It’s basic evolutionary biology.

          Physically speaking, whites and blacks are different indeed. Blacks tend to be shorter with better reflexes, while whites tend to be physically stronger and taller, with slower reflexes.

      5. 1.1.5

        Can we report Ian’s comment?   Way out of line

    2. 1.2

      The point is women do. Asian men get eliminated from selection all the time as pointed out, more so than Black or Hispanic men. Maybe they should incorporate affirmative action for dating!

      1. 1.2.1

        LOL O-k.. Asian men aren’t as agressive in perusing women. Thats why they fall in last most of the time. Not to mention most asain men I’ve spoken to compare white women to asain women. And when they do that they usually put the white woman in a negative light and that makes us feel like dirt. I don’t know if they do the same with other ethnicities, but that’s been my experience.  

        1. A Proud Canadian Beaver

          to Stacy: you are half correct. Asian men are generally not forceful enough and are more humble, which in North American enocentric view is that they seem to be lack of self-confidence. That had been my case as I was told in the past when I tried to date my white classmates in my teenage years during high school. But after living in Canada (I was an immigrant from South-East Asian) for more than 3 decades, I have pretty much adopted North American way of thinking and attitude. I have since the dated pa couple of  white women in the past and now, I have been living common-law with my current spouse for close to 20 years now… It ‘s not easy at first for both of us, as we had to overcome several obstacles: racial, linguitic, cultural, gender, political view, up-bringing etc. differences, but we have survived and our relationship has grown beyond the aforementioned challenges… We are very happy that we chose not to give up when we ran into these problems and chose to stick and work it out… One main successful ingredients though: mutual respect.

          As for Asian male tends to view white women in a more negative light when comparing to Asian women is also, in my view, an Asian enocentric view as they see white women’s freedom to choose to date men freely as not having a virture, which in my view is a double-standard. I see and like a woman to be my equal and she is not subjugated to my manhood… I do not want a ‘yes’ woman! I am not saying that men from other race, including white men, do not do that, just from my experience, Asian male tends to have more difficulties accepting a woman who can stand up to him…

        2. Dez

          Race isn’t ethnicity

        3. BigAsianPackage Blog

          I don’t think that’s on purpose, at least I really hope not.

        4. Jonathan

          No, Asian men aren’t less averse to “perusing” women, they’re just as inclined as everyone else. However, in the West, portrayals of Asians as being weak, asexual and uninteresting is the norm, not the exception. The overwhelming majority of roles offered to Asian men in media is one that ignores their humanity, their experience, and sexuality. Given this, it’s not surprising when we don’t go after women in the West because we’re constantly told we’re not good enough to do so. Of the ones that do venture out, they have to work much harder than any other ethnic group of men to be looked at favourably.

          So, we have to deal with cultural images of us, as well as personal rejection that is centered around our ethnicity. As for putting White women in a negative light, it’s probably because you said something extremely racist or insulting to them.

        5. Kj

          I’m mixed race(half Nigerian half american)and I live in Boston.i can tell you confidently that white women here so t give minority men a fair chance.facts!so there will naturally be resentment.i think that’s what the asian guy was expressing.

      2. 1.2.2

        many asian men just happen to not be that attractive. however, those that are would definitely be well received by women of any race. even non-asian women would consider a high quality asian dude as superior to most white men. after all, attraction is mainly dictated by human nature

      3. 1.2.3

        Can we all be clear on this, many Asian men on these online dating sites have one goal and that is to get a White woman. I’m Black and I find Asian men attractive, however, just being Asian isn’t going to give you a free pass.

        I have to agree with Stacy and I will even go a bit further and say that many of the Asian men who have e-mailed me on OKC or Match.com had no personality. Then you have the Asian men who seem really nice and cool, then he starts bashing on Asian women! That is such a turn off! Anyone who puts down their own race to try to impress the Black/White/Hispanic woman they are after is a huge red flag.

        So in dating overall, I rather date men that I have met OFFLINE. I feel that Asian men who are on these online dating sites are very jaded.

        1. Jonathan

          Vixen, I find it interesting that you seem to know the interworkings of Asian men as a collective, enough for you to characterise our dating choices as “to get a White woman”. There is a spectrum of who we like and our preferences, to reduce and simplify it “to get a White woman” shows the extent of the brainwashing by White supremacy.

          Your portrayal of Asian men is extremely problematic because it splits us into two categories that would otherwise not be pointed out for other ethnicities of men. No one talks about the masses of boring White, Black or Hispanic men. It actually falls into a common trope of Asian men being asexual and boring. Of the category that is positive, you say that we bash Asian women. While there are certainly bitter Asian men, you have to examine the reason for the frustration in the context of White supremacy.

          White supremacy has brainwashed women of all colours to consider White men more attractive than any other group. When Asian women grow up in the West, they often exude and vocalise a hatred of Asian men. This is not their fault, of course, but a product of White supremacy. It is the same form of thinking that portrays Black women as loud, over sexual  and unworthy of love. Our frustration, while it may seem like it’s aimed at Asian women, is a frustration at White supremacy that constantly puts us down, even from the mouths of women who belong to our ethnic groups. I mean, don’t have to look far. The article “I’m an Asian woman and I refuse to date Asian men” appeared on XoXojane a few years back.

          You will see no such article from Asian men.

        2. Derrick lake

          Your opinion is so on point!!!!!!!

    3. 1.3

      And BBC’S?!!!

  2. 2

    The pool of people they conducted the speed dating experiment on was hardly representative. As for men being open to dating all races, I would like to laugh long and hard about that one. I’ve given up on online dating because I was tired of seeing White/Asian, White/Hispanic or everything but Black in men’s racial preferences.

    I did meet a White guy at a speed dating event who told me (after a couple dates) that I was the first Black person he ever dated and said he’d now be more open to dating Black women before breaking up with me (his militant sleep schedule and gardening obsession would have proved a strain had it gone on much longer). I doubt if every woman has the burden of being an ambassador for her race while dating, I’m at least glad I was a good one 🙂

    1. 2.1

      I can’t find this totally correct because from my experience and statistics. Asian women do prefer white guys as the ones have told me in the past. More than 50 percent of asian women in usa are with a white guy. Asian guys and indian guys do get shaft mostly.

      1. 2.1.1

        wrong, most asian women are actually married to asian men. and not only that, the asian women with white men tend to be noticeably less attractive than the ones with asian men. ever notice how you never really see pretty asian women with white men in public?

        1. Steve

          So true. Look at those Asian actresses, Sandra Oh, Lucy Liu and etc. They are fugly by Asian standard. For some strange reason, these actresses are considered hot by Asian fetishists.

        2. Karmic Equation

          Really, Steve? That’s interesting.

          I’m an Asian woman, btw. Born in HK, came to the USA when I was 6. I watched a lot of TV when I was in HK 🙂

          Anyway, I’ve always thought Sandra Oh was fugly and Lucy Liu pretty, though not gorgeous. Kelly Hu is gorgeous though.

          Just curious as to what other Asian actresses are deemed hot by Asian fetishists? Would you mind sharing the list if you know? I’m truly curious!

        3. tom

          i dont know where you go but i see alot of real preety asian women with white men

        4. Jon

          Marriage isn’t dating/sexual relations with thehusband. Learn to read.

        5. JennLee

          @Karmic Equation, I would ignore Steve, and “the husband.” They come across as bitter Asian men who are bitter because they do not do well with women. Isn’t your experience the same as mine, that the guys who can’t find a woman, or a woman they want, are the ones that have a problem with us dating white guys. The Asian men who are desirable never seem to have a problem with it.

          I once knew an Asian guy like this that did have one very nice girl interested in him. We were at a party, and he had imbibed enough that he was now speaking freely. He made it known that he had huge problems with us dating white men. He admitted what we knew, that he wasn’t able to find a girlfriend. I pointed at the girl who liked him, and asked why he didn’t go out with her. He got a sour look on his face and said that she was fat and ugly. I told him, “Ah, I see. You are entitled to a thin and pretty woman, which it seems is what you are attracted to, but we are not allowed our own preferences? You get to decide what is right for you, but also get to decide who we are allowed to date? Sorry, doesn’t work that way.” Then I reminded him that I also dated Asian guys.

          I am not sure why they also try to claim that only “fugly” Asian women date white men. That is far from the truth. You and I both know that. I am not sure if they say that to try to comfort themselves, or if they think that they can make this become an accepted belief, and thus we beautiful Asian women will be afraid to date white men. Are we supposed to believe that if we date white men, we must be fugly? We know the truth. We know how often men of all races approach us and show interest. Propaganda isn’t going to alter what we know to be true.

          Finally, what is an Asian fetishist? I’ve never met one, nor have I met a white man with “yellow fever,” nor do I know any Asian women with “white fever.” These are labels that losers put onto people to try to shame them for being open to dating a person from another race, or for having a preference that they don’t approve of. Is an Asian man who refuses to date any race other than Asian an Asian fetishist?

          It’s just been my experience that it is the losers who have a problem with it, or at best, a friend of a loser, who is trying to help his loser friend find a date. That may sound harsh, but it has been my experience.

        6. Ali

          That’s very true!

        7. Al

          I completely agree with you Thehusband. Majority of asian women are married to asian men and usuallt the ugly one that asian men don’t want are with the white men.

        8. Francis

          I’m a British white male early 50’s and I would never dream of dating an Asian woman. White guys with the ‘yellow fever’ are just as bad as mudsharks.   Worst than gays as they reproduce children with identity problems. I will always stick to my own race out of respect for other races as I don’t want to intrude upon them.

        9. Michael

          I wish I could breed with a white girl.

      2. 2.1.2

        No. Adrian women love Jewish guys. Jewish men have money and seem to fetishize Asian women, but because if their money and status Asian women revel in it.

        Asian women   and Jewish men And on a slightly lesser, level Black women and Italian men

        Something about these combos but both are very common. Regular white guy and black women? Not so much but add a bit of Roma in there and bam!

    2. 2.2

      Thank you!

  3. 3

    A lot of Black women aren’t racist, and would welcome attention from men of other races (not just White men).

    However, White men who don’t have the courage to take the “social risk” of dating a Black woman are bad relationship candidates for Black women who welcome the attention of all kinds of men.

    1. 3.1

      Sorry M its not about courage.   Its just that we want to date our own white woman and want her to love her own white babies.   That is all we really want.   If we have that then we won’t be racists.

      1. 3.1.1
        Karl R


        You have no idea how overwhelmingly racist that sounded.   Either you communicated your thoughts poorly, or you’ll be a racist regardless of whom your dating (or what her kids are like).

        1. AllHeart81

          Amen to that Karl.

        2. Casey

          Karl R, Race is real so every comment on hear is racist ass-clown. Nature spent 200,000 years separating out, natural selection, etc.   So why would MAc or any other white person feel compelled to willy, nilly throw back in and destroy what nature took so long to create.   If I want high IQ babies, odds are that aint coming from blacks…you idiot!   If you want a great future be white…marry white, history (and IQ tests) proves this to be true.

        3. Karl R

          Casey said:

          “If I want high IQ babies, odds are that aint coming from blacks…you idiot!   If you want a great future be white…marry white, history (and IQ tests) proves this to be true.”


          I have to admire your chutzpah. In one breath you call me an idiot, and in the next, you point to IQ tests as “proof” of intelligence.

          My IQ has consistently measured in the 150 to 155 range, so by your standard, I’m probably far smarter than you.

          IQ tests are a flawed  measure of intelligence. They measure specific types of intelligence, but fail to measure other types. In addition, the tests are invariably written in a culturally biased fashion (specifically, they’re often biased in favor of white, middle-class, American populations … because they’ve traditionally been developed  by white, middle-class Americans)*.


          As Evan has previously pointed out, intelligent people prefer other intelligent people. According to several studies from 2008-2016, more intelligent people tend to be  less racist. That suggests that if you want a high-IQ spouse, you should stop being an ignorant racist.


          *  This reflects the opinion of the American Educational Research Association, American Psychological Association, and  National Council on Measurement in Education.

  4. 4

    Asian women are the RACIST females on the planet.
    They allow themselves to be white washed and to hate their own race. Some only date only white males, even after repeated physical and emotional abuses.
    Obviously you are rataing these women from the view point of a white male.
    As for Asian males, what choice do they have, the white media has castrated them.
    White media does its best to hype up the white male image and to discourage females from dating any other race of males.

    1. 4.1

      I don’t think   this could be more true. The sad thing is that the stereotype for White men are all positive! For every other group of men it’s negative. White men are supportive, successful, and good classy role-models. Asian men are supposedly not masculine, intelligent, but not assertive and have small c*cks! Black men are in jail, secretly gay, and abusive men that don’t believe in marriage or commitment.   Hispanic men are supposedly not educated, want to have large families that they can’t support and are in the role of service man instead of “the man”. Middle Eastern men are supposedly aggressive women haters. At the end of the day the media has poisoned women into thinking the only suitable partners are White, which couldn’t be more false. Any man that gets to know you can appreciate you… race is unimportant.

      1. 4.1.1

        I agree that race is unimportant, however, culture is.   If you find a man of Middle Eastern descent that totally rejects the culture of Sharia Law, then or the traditional values found in most Middle Eastern nations, then you are safe.   However, if they buy into that stuff, you will find yourself in a nightmare situation.
        As for black men.   I know men very good black men.   However, when I was in the Navy, I had my eyes opened.   We went to Australia.   Perth, and then Sydney.   After pulling into Perth, where the black guys found the most success, all the way until we pulled back into San Diego, all I heard from black guys was stories about the girls they hooked up with.   I actually had to yell at one guy who, no kidding, stopped and distracted one of the young black guys working for me, telling the same story for the 5th time in 2 months.   He had the most befuddled look on his face when I told him, “Do you realize that you have told him that same exact story 5 times, right here in this very spot, over the last 2 months?”   I had to ask the guy who worked for me what the story was with this, because that guy was not unique.   Every black guy except one I knew who was married to a very pretty Filipino woman, all constantly bragged about the women they slept with, many making up stories…one I caught red handed doing so.   Now to counter that, I did know of some white guys hooking up, and yet not one of them felt the need to regale me with stories about women they slept with.   So I asked him what the story was.   He said that it went back to the days of slavery when the only thing black men owned was their sexual prowess.   OK, that was 140 years ago.
        The point is that not all stereotypes are false.   Some do actually represent a good size percentage of that group, which is how the stereotype comes to be.   But of course, most stereotypes do not represent all in that group.   Do a lot of the redneck stereotypes actually truthfully represent many white people?   Sure.   Do they represent all white people?   No.   Such is the case with most stereotypes.   They usually represent at a minimum, a very visible minority, or even a majority, but they almost never represent all people in that group.

        1. Whatever

          It’s no surprise reading such a funny comment written by a typical “White” North American. Why the hell do you “White people” link Middle-Easterners to certain racist stereotypes such as being Muslim by default? Islam isn’t the only religion in the Middle East. Most of Muslims in the Middle East are not practicing ones, just nominal Muslims. There are tons of religions in the Middle East and Islam is only one of MANY. I, for example, am a Middle Eastern that’s NOT Muslim, nor do I have any Islamic roots. You people should take these racial stereotypes out of your heads. We are SICK of you.

        2. Kenji

          Stereotypes are hardly true. The only difference between each race is their hair/eye/skin color not to mention that we are pretty much mixed today.

        3. Casey

          Race is extremely important to future success.   Statistics (i.e. facts) support that hypothesis.   Genes are the most important thing that defines your actions, not culture.

      2. 4.1.2

        kimmie…i’m assuming your female…the things u say rings true and you are brave in saying such things..its unfortunate though that you are the minority… vast majority of females will disagree with you…and even hate u for saying those things….moreover..i too am brainwashed by american media..it sucks..truth is…only white girls get me going..although i like womeon of all races..when i go to strip club..i can only get aroused by white females..so this s*t is quantifiable….i’m certain same rings true for females..you…want to like men of other races…but …just cant…unfortunate prison state we live in today —–we need to break free from the shackles of the mind…

      3. 4.1.3

        um actually, any woman can see for themselves that most white men they see in real life are unattractive and aren’t particularly desirable at all. just ask them! even white women will tell you that they aren’t attracted to the majority of white men they see on a daily basis. even alot of the white males you see in the media aren’t always portrayed in a flattering light (especially in comedies, plus in most movies, the bad guy is usually white)  

        “As for Asian males, what choice do they have, the white media has castrated them.”

        how would they manage to do that? if that was the case, then how come women of all races would still consider an attractive asian dude as superior to most white men? also, how come the most attractive asian women always go for asian men? remember that media means nothing when compared to real life.   

        1. Psych

          Dude where do you live? All my white friends get mad love! Mediocre as a wall some of them. Females may want to have sex with me but don’t see me as a partner .

      4. 4.1.4

        Race is extremely important to future success.   Statistics (i.e. facts) support that hypothesis.   Genes are the most important thing that defines your actions, not culture. Blacks have the lowest IQ (by far) and commit most the crime (by far)…get it

        1. Anders

          Ok casey, was it culture or genes when Black Wallstreet was burned down by you know you? Or how about the shooting of Martin Luther King by you know you? And you talk about nature and natural selection but why is your WORLD population shrinking? Sounds like nature hates you if you ask me.

        2. Vicky

          I’m sorry but not only black men commit crimes, in all race they’re, is true that there is a stereotype, also I have heard that white guys are stereotyped by being rapist, child molester and serial killers.

        3. Ocelot

          The sad thing is that I think you actually believe this. There are plenty of black people in Ivy League schools. My IQ is 140, I’m mixed but still. I’ve seen smart black people and dumb white people & vice-versa. Intelligence, for the most part, is related to environment (I.e. where you went to school, how important education is to the parents, income). Innate IQ differences are more related to birth defects (I.e crack babies, autism) then some racial inferiority.
          As far as crime goes, it’s obvious that the criminal justice system is racially biased. Most of the black people in there are there for non-violent crimes and serve longer sentences than white people who commit, literally, the same crimes. Black people are over policed and underrepresented.
          But empathy is un-American, when it comes to black people. Why don’t you just kill us?

      5. 4.1.5

        Wait. Black men are secretly gay! Haha, that’s a new one. The funny thing is that, honestly & no offense, all these so called stereotypes are probably more in line with white men. It’s projection

    2. 4.2

      Not true.  
      Read the following.

      And that nothing;you should watch the  documentaries filmed there.    
      Would you want to try something new?  

    3. 4.3
      you dumbass

      that’s called self hatred! since asian women and men are the same race. you can’t be racist against your own race. bed winch is another term. sellout, coon, etc…

    4. 4.4

      agree.   I know many asian women and they hate asian men and worship with men.   Even fat ugly stupid white men.   Its almost become the cultural norm for a successful or confident or attractive asian women to find a white guy.   

      1. 4.4.1

        and let me guess, it’s always the ugly asian women with low self-esteem who never got any attention from asian men who are like that? ever notice how the hot asian women always love asian men?

    5. 4.5

      you gotta remember that these sites are free, like fantasies. I’m sure they’d be a lot less pickier if money were involved.  

    6. 4.6

      i dont think that asian women are whitewashed some might hate their own race but most that i know love being asian.alot of asian women from asia want to meet other people some want to be with white men to better use their english after being with us they fall in love

    7. 4.7

      but thais like us doubt the strange behavior of western men. they generall walk with substandard looking women (dark and supershort) in thailand, sth that thai men of all skins do not want. Thailand is a land of surplus women.

      From thailand’s statistics, 80% of women married to western men are divorced, not virgin despite unmarried women over married ones because thailand has more women than men in number. in fact, western men get trash women from thai toilets because they fail to attract the majority of women in thailand, and they then have little choice in regards women.

      i am writing from thailand.

    8. 4.8

      Very true.

    9. 4.9

      You are spot on!

  5. 5

    i would have to agree with the observer. i have many asian women friends that date only white men specifically for the reasons stated above.

  6. 6
    yuki chin

    Saying “I know people from group x who demonstrate this tendency and therefore am qualified to make a stupid generalization about all of group x” is the perfect way to stick your foot in it.

    I am an Asian female who dates males of all ethnicities. My sister & I, my Asian girlfriends and – hell, even my non-Asian girlfriends – will date any man we find attractive, provided he has an open mind and doesn’t explain away his dating failures by blaming them on sociological patterns.

    Again, this was a poll conducted on women willing to subject themselves to speed dating. This is hardly a representative sample.

    1. 6.1

      No, its not true. Explain the great many AM/AW couples and marriages that still exist. Maybe the fact is, just like in every race, there are men that are not appealing to women. These men are the men who complain because they don’t have a woman and then they see some Asian women with Asian men.and they get mad. Let’s not pretend that every Asian woman is dating a white man. It really boils down to this; there are many more white men than Asian men in this country. So, there is simply more chances that the man you fall in love with will be white.

      I still think that the majority of Asian men who complain about this simply aren’t the kind of men that women want. These are the bottom shelf guys, and every race has them.

      1. 6.1.1

        sometimes people get mad when they see an amwf couple,its just pointless,im sure not every asian guy is with a white girl,there are still some asian guys who prefer asian women

        1. JennLee

          I think people should keep their nose in their own business. Who somebody dates is their own business, and not the business of other people.

      2. 6.1.2

        Lame logic


        explain how white women still have higher % paired   with white men

      3. 6.1.3

        Allow me to interject Sean.   I grew up in a small town in Ohio.   Since leaving there, I have only lived in big cities.   Dating has been far far far easier in big cities.

        Also, I have been to New Mexico, and everywhere I went, there was a mix of whites and Latinos.   You have to he careful not to assume that somebody us white.   A lot if Latinos look white.   Safer to just assume they are Caucasian.   As the saying goes, all whites are Caucasian, but not all Caucasians are white.   Point being, is there other issues that might just make it harder for you to find dates?


        There is a whole laundry list of things that women take into consideration.   Height, weight, manly face, pretty face, etc…   I make no assumptions about you, but overall, Asian men tend to be shorter than whites.   That’s going to be a huge hurdle, as Evan has already proven.


        My best friend in my hometown is Korean.   He is not short.   He’s taller than I am and I am 6 feet tall.   He had less trouble getting girls than I did.


        Small towns can be clique intensive.

      4. 6.1.4

        Ridiculous statement!

  7. 7

    I am Korean, and to date have dated:

    1 Korean
    3 white guys
    1 Persian
    1 Israeli
    1 Brazilian
    1 Sri Lankan
    1 South African (black)
    1 Panamanian (black)
    1 Haitian/Dominican (black)
    1 southern black man
    1 Japanese
    1 Japanese/Peruvian
    2 Puerto Ricans
    1 Lebanese Canadian

    Guess that makes me an equal opportunity slut. 😉

    1. 7.1

      Thumbs up to Polly!  

    2. 7.2

      Lol! Come on Polly, dating men of different ethnicities doesn’t make you a slut!

      Funny comment though 😉  

    3. 7.3


    4. 7.4

      Wow, you really get around, don’t you?

    5. 7.5

      of all the men you dated who treated you the best? dont think youre a slut just friendly

    6. 7.6

      You call yourself a slut but see that you date more white men of all these men how many have you slept with?

    7. 7.7

      No you not equal based off your list . There more non Asian there are Asian on your list

    8. 7.8
      R B

      No…that just makes you a natural woman who likes the opposite sex.

  8. 8

    I, a white guy, would date a woman of any skin color/ethnicity, just so she has room for me in her life & views me as an equal partner, not an ATM, sperm donor or rescuer. But black skin would be frosting on the cake; a crush on Motown singer Tammi Terrell paved the way to my attraction to black women in general. I like how many of them wear thin braids throughout their hair (& I’ve seen a few white women wear their hair that way as well). I’d find a partner’s braids useful for stroking her (or my) forehead or cheeks.

    1. 8.1

      I could be your lady Collin ….just….. I have never worn braids a day in my life !….oh yes Collin am cute and similar Tammi`s complexion…….I just thought that it was pretty amazing that someone who lived such a short life had such a big impact on yours …….oh well ..lets just say god works in mysterious ways….


      1. 8.1.1

        BAM!   Proves our point! White guy says he likes black women and the very next comment is a woman offering herself. All she knows is that he’s white and she’s   game. This is America and its a Eurocentric society

        1. Myopinion

          Not really. I used to be diehard problem guys. But I became an adult and would randomly get bashed by black guys for no reason. Like standing in line and had a black guy comment to my white friends she’s pretty but I don’t date black women…So we venture away…But after bguys get done trying to come back after their adventures were usually over it. So the cycle continues. Trust me dating white men is no breeze either. I think the problem is American men period. Just not passionate and loving to aggressive and caught up in proving people wrong.

    2. 8.2

      Of course Tammi Terrell, a mixed women, “got you into black women”. It seems like whenever a nonblack guy likes a woman of color,she’s always mixed. Never actually black.

      1. 8.2.1

        I don’t think there’s much truth to this at all.   You can look at the black wives of famous white men and see that it isn’t true.   And you can go on YouTube and see the many channels of WM-BW marriages where it is obviously not true.   If anything, you will see the opposite.

        Not trying to be mean, but don’t be so insecure.

  9. 9
    Michael Ejercito

    They allow themselves to be white washed and to hate their own race. Some only date only white males, even after repeated physical and emotional abuses.

    And who might these women be? How were they identified? Was there a study of some sort identifying these women?

    On a side note, many Asians are willing to consider dating whites because they live in places where whites outnumber Asians by 10:1 or more.

    If white people turn down Asians 65 percent of the time, that means they accept Asians 35 percent of the time. This would mean that the ratio of the of whites willing to date Asians to Asians 35:10, a little over 3:1.

    1. 9.1

      I mean but it is   still sort of weird that they only go after white guys, maybe they just like white guys more than Asians i guess. Asian men have the least testosterone on average while blacks have the most, whites have an average so i guess thats why Asian women go for them instead.


      1. 9.1.1
        R B

        I am neither white nor Asian but who the F%CK says that Asian guys have less testosterone?

        That’s some BULLSHIT FICTION right THERE!!!

        1. mariah carey

          hahaha small dick syndrome? lol

        2. Francis

          All men of all races have equal testosterone.   And no, not all east Asian men are short and wiry. I’ve seen a few 6ft plus . The reason why midfielder eastern and caucasian males have more bodily hair is sensitivity to testosterone in their system.   Most blacks can’t control their primal instincts, doesn’t mean they have more testosterone.   Would you say Jason Statham or Sean Connery were effeminate?   No.

  10. 10

    I’d be interested in knowing how much less likely men would be to date a woman outside of his race. I myself am the product of an interracial relationship, and I’ve dated men from all races. For me it’s more about body type than skin color. However, I’m on Match.com and many of the men specify white only, or will list Asian/Hispanic/Caucasian, or will list everything but Black. From talking with some people there’s a hypothesis that as a 27 year old female I would have a lot more winks/e-mails if I was white, rather than mixed. I hope this is not true, however.

    1. 10.1
      Lydia Nubian q

      Was on Match.com and found exactly the same. White men not listing black women as part of their dating pool.

      1. 10.1.1
        Salmon sushi

        To be honest, a lot of white guys do like black women, its just that not so many black women have interest in white men ,and believe that they can only date black men ,which is stupid. Plus, the stereotype of white men being scared to ask a black women out, and the stereotype that black women are ghetto, loud, and bossy, and also the history between blacks and whites in the U.S. ,which some black women cant forget about. black men go after white women more than white women   go after black men ,because of the stereotypes of black women listed above, and the belief that white women are easier.im not saying all black men are like this because there are some black men who date white women and other races for who they are.   But i did hear in places, especially Europe, that white men/black women relationships are rising slowly . Black woman/ white men couples are big in Europe, just not so much in America.  

        1. bumble bee

          You shouldn’t compare Europe with the rest of the world, in particular the Uk.

          The level of diversity and the mixing of said diversity in the Uk cannot be appreciated   by societies :i.e (usa,india,china,Australia etc) whom cannot grasp the concept of “actual”mixing.

          In London, the openess of mixing is feral , in fact it leaves you shocked at the confidence in which white women engage marry etc with races outside their own.

          It must be said that this is not so obvious with the Indians, neither male or female , apparently the Indians have been in the UK longer than most except for the carribbean people, but haven’t ingratiated themselves 100% into the UK social environment choosing instead to maintain a distance.

          This could be a part of the reasons why i /we don’t trust them neither find them attractive.





      2. 10.1.2

        This is a tough subject. I do not list black women on my profiles because I tend not to be attracted to black women. I also have zero in common with “black culture.’ I have seen some black women that I thought were attractive, but let me say this, I do list mixed when available because I have seen some mixed race women who I thought were extremely attractive. The problem is these are usually very exceptionally beautiful women. I simply find far more white, Asian and Hispanic/Latino women to be very attractive. I also love the calmer culture based on respect that you find in Asia.

        I do think there is a stereotype that black women are loud, bossy, and combative. Supposedly this is the reason that black men often don’t date them, or so they claim. So obviously, the best thing a black girl can do is be the opposite of that. Not loud, not bossy, and not combative.

        1. ....

          See like you I find very few white men to be attractive. There is just no real culture and they tend not to have any charm/swag. Now of course if hes mixed with something else other than just white I usually find myself taking a second look.   Most white guys seem to be very milktoast and not very fun. Well I should say american white guys b/c I find foreign whites guys a bit more attractive, they tend to have a bit more willingness to learn about black/other cultures and the woman behind that culture.

    2. 10.2


      It’s a very sad and degrading practice on dating sites for white, asian, hispanic, middle eastern and sometimes black men to check every race of women that exist on Earth except black women or those mixed with black.  

      This is the ghost of the one-drop rule, which meant any person with a drop of black blood was inferior or unacceptable in the “white world” as an equal even if the person looked white as in the case of some mulattoes or those “passing” as whites.

      I suppose racist ancestors would be proud that their racist and dismissive practice of two centuries ago is utilized in a very modernized way of dating. We’ve progressed to computers, the Internet and online dating, but small-minded, ignorantly discriminating men are still viewing black women as unworthy and dishonorable. White men started this disrespect during slavery.

      Minority men (including blacks) use white men as role models. They aspire to have what white men have (women, money, careers, cars, etc). If white men with power, money, fame, and status (politicians, CEOs, heirs, billionaires, etc) started marrying black women in record numbers, all other races of men would strive to have black women. Our dating Stock would become as valuable as white women. Sadly, when some black men reach the top, they marry white women because they feel it adds to their status and acceptability by white America.   This also sends a message to other men that black women are unworthy and unappealing to their own men.

      Thank goodness there are successful white and non-black men who are strong, proud, and happy to date and marry black women, e.g. Robert De Niro, George Lucas, Roger Ebert, David Bowie, Chris Noth, Olivier Nartibez, Robin Thicke, Wissam Al Mana, Erik Asla, Shervin Pushevar, Roderick Spencer, Shadoe Stevens, etc, etc…

      Dating and marriage should be about love, respect, trust, passion, commonalities, etc and not about race or skin color.  

      1. 10.2.1

        Why do a man need to be strong to date a black woman..that is the real problem

      2. 10.2.2
        A Proud Canadian Beaver

        Well said.

      3. 10.2.3

        So in case you missed the subject, women are way more race incline when it’s comes to dating. Black men and women are at the bottom of the dating pool, so stop acting like it’s just black women down there. Plus women are the key holders to the dating scene.

      4. 10.2.4

        Omg not all black men marry white women for “status” & certainly not for “acceptance” by white men, lol. Some just find love.
        Honestly I’ve been around them more than any other race of women (they’re the majority). Kindergarten, elementary school, high school, college, graduate school & at every job I’ve ever had. They’re just part of my upbringing and my culture. If I date a ww it’s because, “I like her for her not because she’s phat like Cindy Crawford.”

    3. 10.3

      Same on the women’s profile. It’s other white only or everything but black. I don’t even go on dating sites no more. I’ve even seen call girls that say sorry no black males. My best success comes from women from other countries

  11. 11

    There maybe, but, they don’t call it that, they say, they date within their league.

  12. 12

    My hypothesis is that woman “seem” less open to interracial dating than men because for woman, the unstated goal of dating is often a more permanent, long-term relationship. By contrast for men, dating is more likely to just be viewed as dating — with no vision of anything long-term per se. I suspect, however, if the question had been would you marry someone of a different race, the differences between men and women would have been less pronounced….a lot more men would not be open to marrying a woman of another race. So, would a guy date a woman of another race? Absolutely. Would he, however, marry her? Probably not. Please note, that I am not criticizing men or women. I am just stating why I think there are differences.

    A-L, I am a 44 year old black woman on Match.com. When I first went on, I had no idea how many winks, emails, etc women typically received. So, as I averaged about 1 -2 a week. I just thought that’s how it was. It wasn’t until I started reading blogs like this that I realized I get nothing in comparison to what younger white women receive. Given that I do consider myself average-looking/moderately attractive, but not hideous, this news was certainly a blow to my ego. But, that’s the reality. Black women, in general, and older black women for sure, have very little value in on-line dating….that is if you judge value in terms of quantity rather than quality of responses. So, I think, as with most things in our society, if something is hard for white women, it’s even harder for black ones.

    1. 12.1

      Your age has probably more to do with this than your race and you should count yourself lucky. I am a Indian male, 10 years younger than you and attractive but I get zero winks or indications of interest on Match in the average week.  

      1. 12.1.1

        It’s true – black woman have a hard time of it. I’m half black. Anyways, guys get a lot fewer responses on online dating because there tend to be more men on these sites and the men on these sites tend to be more aggressive. Not that women are less aggressive in general or anything – we just have to be more cautious on the internet because of safety reasons.

      2. 12.1.2

        Whenever someone says they are attractive it means they are really ugly as s***

    2. 12.2
      A Proud Canadian Beaver


    3. 12.3

      A study of mixed race people showed that a significant percent of nonblack men send initial messages to mixed black women. The problem you described applies more to on

      e race black women. A good percent of nonblack men initiate contact with mixed race black women according to a study of mixed race people on internet dating sites.



  13. 13

    Thanks for your reply, Eda. I always find your responses well-written and enlightening. Too bad I wish you had cheerier news. 🙂

  14. 14


    Thank you. I find your responses thoughtful and helpful as well.

    Don’t fret, A-L — there is a bright side to my news that I should have emphasized in my first post. Even though I don’t tons of replies, the ones I do get are typically from good guys, and I do go on an average of two dates a week — which really is about all I can handle. While I can’t say that I’ve met the man of my dreams, all the guys I have dated have been decent, honest, and respectful. I have no dating horror stories…no mean, bitter or crazy guys. So, while my ego might wish for hundreds of replies, the practical side of me can’t complain. Hope that makes you feel better!

  15. 15

    Asian women/White men same old story here. Its love. No racism involved, but considered what white society has done to your asian men. Is there any inclination of racism involved or do you think we live in a happy world where no racism exist, well with the exception of your relationship. Hey, come to the UK the whites are particular barbaric, and impose a systematic form of racism. They often insult asian men and leave the stupid chinese girls asking questions such as Im in love and thats all that matters. Ask a asian man living here that is exposed to racism and sniggering comments almost everyday. There is a trick over here, thats why white men have been so successful.

  16. 16

    I am a product of an inter-racial AND inter-faith marriage, and my parents are still together! Being of Asian/Caucasian/Polynesian heritage, no matter whom I date, it will be inter-racial.

    I have dated many ethnicities, often guys who were mixed: Hawaiian/Chinese/Filipino/Spanish; African/Swedish/Tahitian; Lebanese/Native American/Irish; Cuban/French/Jewish. Also a purebred German; pure English; and pure Swedish — guys from Europe. Love ’em all. I also have lots of mixed friends, as well as friends who are of just one ethnicity. In my opinion, children of mixed heritage are absolutely gorgeous — and I would love to see the day in which all of us just see people and not race or skin color.

    As for Asian women being very open to interracial dating and marriage — look at the kids and you’ll stop wondering why. Gorgeous, gorgeous! Especially the daughters. My old flat-mate and his girlfriend are both Japanese/Irish, and their toddler is spectacular. She went with daddy to see a big surfing competition, and all the magazine photographers were snapping her up. She could model.

    As for black women supposedly being against it — well, I don’t know about that one. One of my best friends (Mexican/Irish) is dating a black girl; and another good friend (Asian/Caucasian/Polynesian) is also dating a black girl. Some of the most beautiful men and women I have ever met were black mixed with something else. So, if there are a lot of non-dating Asian guys and Black ladies — hey, someone ought to hook up and make another Tiger Woods.

    1. 16.1
      A Proud Canadian Beaver

      You are absolutely right about children of mixed race being gorgeous… I have noticed that most of these mixed kids’ parents are ordinary looking folks, but the kids, wow!

      1. 16.1.1

        complete and utter bullshit!

  17. 17

    Thanks everyone, for making it all so clear. Internet dating? Speed dating? You have all masterfully painted the picture of a few sane, healthy people drowning in an ocean of socially unskilled hypocrites: Women who would deign to accept a five foot four Asian M.D., but only if he makes $360,000 more per year than a six foot four, white felon. Guys rating a “2.5” on a Hollywood scale, want a “10” who doesn’t judge them for anything so shallow as income or hairline.

    Got it.

    Okay, I’m using a lot of hyperbole, but there could be no greater advocate for the “old fashioned” method of meeting folks (face to face) than this collective voice. But hey, whatever works you guys, go for it.

  18. 18

    “White media does its best to hype up the white male image and to discourage females from dating any other race of males.”

    Sometimes it’s a womans family that discourages a
    woman from dating a man of a different race.

    A woman might be afraid to date a man of another race
    if her family threatened to disown her if she ever did
    date/marry outside her race. Some families are very
    cruel in that way.

    I know of a family member who was disowned
    because they dated and then married someone of
    another race.

    1. 18.1

      Can’t believe this “disowning by family” business is going on in this day and age.

  19. 19

    “Guys rating a 2.5 on a Hollywood scale, want a 10 who doesn’t judge them for anything so shallow as income or hairline.”

    There is some truth in that. You always hear guys say “we like beautiful women, we are guys..we like sex, we are guys. We like a certain type of breast size..hair..age..we are guys…..and love us for our low paying, beer belly, burping, crude joke ways.” Why? Just for the simple fact that they are “men”. However, if women dare judge them for anything, we have entitlement issues and should “lower” our standards.

    1. 19.1

      Race is a standard!?!?

  20. 20

    as a african american man,who went to an all white school as a teenager in high school in the 80’s and couldn’t get a date to save me life, i resolved to never, ever let myself be like my narrowminded, bigoted classmates. i’ve been very lucky to have dated across the spectrum. i’m not so sure that men who say they have no problem dating women of a different ethnicity aren’t just out for sex. marriage is another thing altogether and i think men are more than likely to stick with “their own” if they want to have kids.

    and i must say that i’ve found that most asian women on dating sites want to date white guys. i’ve seen profiles of women labeling themselves as exotic or “oriental delight”-no lie. so i feel for my asian brothers, who most likely have to compete with white guys all the time. of course, this habit of white men/asian women dating is endemic to the U.S.A.

    1. 20.1

      Same background HS experience.   I am Asian though.   You are dead on.

    2. 20.2

      Is a white woman who will only date black men “narrow minded and bigoted?” So what if none of the white girls wanted to date you? You know, if I found myself in an all black high school, I would actually understand if none of the girls wanted to date me, especially the ones I wanted to date. It’s not even unnatural to prefer to only your own race. I also don’t think it’s unnatural to prefer to date only another race. I also think it’s not unnatural to only want to date people you might want to marry. I think it’s natural to have preferences. And here’s the thing. Not all white women refuse to date black men. Not all black women refuse to date white men. Etc… But not all women of every race have to be open to dating other races, or if they do date outside their race, they don’t have to date all races. People have the right to their freedom. They are free to make their own choice as to who they want to date. There are 7 billion people on this planet. If you can’t find somebody to date, or have a long term relationship with, it’s not because of your race. I see many many men of all races out there in relationships with women of their own race and women of other races. So you need to find another excuse why you can’t find love. Maybe you are just too picky. Maybe you can find love, but aren’t happy with the quality of women who will actually date you. Hey, I have an idea. You get to tell women that they have to date men of all races, and I get to tell you to date the fatter, less pretty women that you have been rejecting.

      Something that is not lost on me here is that several generations ago, it was the white man telling women who they could date. Now that the white man relented and passed laws making it legal to have an interracial marriage, now it is black men and Asian men who are complaining about who will and won’t date, or marry them. Irony.

      Oh, and don’t blame this on movies, or commercials, or radio, or anything like that. It has already been shown through university research that our perceptions of beauty are mostly inherent. Babies were shown to make the same choices as adults did when subjected to a series of side by side pictures of people’s faces. The babies stare at one picture much more than the other one, every time. And their overall choices matched the overall choices of adults. Furthermore, race was shown not to be a factor in perception. Meaning that when the gender of one race ranked the opposite gender of their own race, the members of other races also ranked them that way.

      You all need to find new excuses. This dead horse has been beat enough.

      1. 20.2.1

        I am a black man. I understand where you are coming from and you   make some good points, however I totally understand Sugarbaby and Al, having had similar experiences to them in high school. I was in a primary white high school and I couldn’t get a date for the life of me either.
        This is the bottom line. Nobody should complain about someone of another race not wanting them. In all honesty, if some woman, of whatever race doesn’t want me, I don’t want them and I don’t care if someone doesn’t want to date me because I’m black. I’m actually too busy with the women who DO want to date me to worry about the women who don’t. In my mind this is a non-issue.
        But it is an absolutely undeniable fact, that things are MUCH, MUCH more difficult for a black guy in a primarily white environment to get a girlfriend than they would be if these men were in a black environment. I am not complaining about this, this is simply the way it is. As to Asian guys, they have it much harder than even black men. They have it extremely hard in the United States as many Asian women prefer white guys and many women look negatively on Asian men. Race IS an issue.

      2. 20.2.2
        R B

        “Something that is not lost on me here is that several generations ago, it was the white man telling women who they could date. Now that the white man relented and passed laws making it legal to have an interracial marriage, now it is black men and Asian men who are complaining about who will and won’t date, or marry them. Irony.”

        I always still surprised by white men making observations through their white prism of how they view the world.
        Let’s get something straight…white men told your white women who you could and could not date while simultaneously and hypocritically screwing every other race of women because white men set up the rules in society. When did Asian and Black men have power in society to establish the mating and dating rules in their favor? The word is not irony but gross hypocrisy on your part.
        “Babies were shown to make the same choices as adults did when subjected to a series of side by side pictures of people’s faces. The babies stare at one picture much more than the other one, every time. And their overall choices matched the overall choices of adults. Furthermore, race was shown not to be a factor in perception. Meaning that when the gender of one race ranked the opposite gender of their own race, the members of other races also ranked them that way.
        You all need to find new excuses. This dead horse has been beat enough”

        As for babies picking beautiful people from pictures that they were shown, babies are the purest and unadulterated versions of our human self not tainted by the learned prejudices of man, and woman. We could relearn from babies as adults. They are WAYYYY SMARTER than us in that respect.

    3. 20.3

      apparently you don’t know many asian women. most asian women actually prefer asian men; even the ones open to dating white men will still take a good looking asian dude over just about any white man. generally, the asian girls who are friends with mostly other asians only like asian guys; the ones more open to interracial dating are the ones with a diverse group of friends. also, keep in mind that the asian girls with white guys tend to be the lower quality ones that asian guys weren’t attracted to. for the top tier asian girls, it will mainly be asian guys competing with other asian guys.

      1. 20.3.1

        I can agree with part of what you say.I’m white married to an Asian women her friends were all Asian some how we hooked up neither of us were looking for what we found wasn’t even looking to get married but it happened she worked in my office and we’ll things happened still married and it has been over 43 years.she is from Asia Okinawa to be exact she had to talk to her parents there biggest question was she in love with me and I loved her and treated her good.

      2. 20.3.2

        Which if course why some Asian ladies I know get accused of having white fever?   And just to clarify for you, these are very good looking, educated women from good families.   This is why that was even written in on some bathroom walls at a California University?   Google it.


        The truth is, Asian women, like women of all races, are diverse on the subject of interracial dating.   Some will, and some won’t.   However, when it comes to interracial dating, all is not fair and equal.   Life is not fair.


        So, just as white women and black men are more open to dating each other than white men and black women dating each other, so to does this inequality exist with white and Asian dating.   White men and Asian women are far more open to dating each other than white women and Asian men are to dating each other.   I didn’t create the laws of attraction.   They are just what they are.


        In the US, what you said isn’t true at all. While in college, and after college, I have always been able to date the Asian ladies I wanted to, and I’m picky.


        In Asia itself, it depends on where you are.   Korea for instance.   In the cities, no problem dating who you want to.   Women in the cities are very open to dating.   In the rural areas, it can be different.   But not always.   In most of Asia, I find that the parents are only worried about two things.   Are you in love, and are you able to take care of their daughter.   Of course they also want to know that you aren’t crazy, and are a good person.


        The truth is, the quality of the Asian woman a white man can date or marry is directly related to his personal quality.   If he is below average, he will likely get a below average Asian woman.   If he is very high quality, he will have no trouble finding high quality, educated Asian women to date.


        Every single social media site where this subject comes up, there is always 1 person who posts the same story you did.   It’s literally cut and paste.   Always the same thing.   White men can only get the leftovers that Asian men reject.   Yet, anyone who has ever been exposed to Asian and white dating, knows that it is laughably absurd to make such claims as you do.   They aren’t even close to reality.


        If you do this because you are being rejected, and you are lonely and frustrated, I truly feel empathy for you.   As I said, life is not fair, and we don’t all get to marry the princess.   But, like it or not, women are not property so you don’t have any more right to a woman’s affections than any other guy, even guys of other races.   She chooses who she wants, and in the end, her decision is all that matters.   All you can do is what any of us can do.   Choose from women who actually want us, and not just as friends.   If you aren’t happy with the pool you can choose from, then you can either expand your preferences and learn to appreciate those who are interested, or you can choose to he alone.   Other than that, use a dating coach like Evan to see if there are ways to improve yourself.


        What is never going to work is trying to manipulate people by spreading untruths.   People aren’t stupid.   We know the truth about these things.   If you are simply a racist and hate interracial dating, life is going to be very hard for you because interracial dating is only going to increase with each passing year.

        1. R B

          “If you do this because you are being rejected, and you are lonely and frustrated, I truly feel empathy for you.   As I said, life is not fair, and we don’t all get to marry the princess.   But, like it or not, women are not property so you don’t have any more right to a woman’s affections than any other guy, even guys of other races.   She chooses who she wants, and in the end, her decision is all that matters.   All you can do is what any of us can do.   Choose from women who actually want us, and not just as friends.   If you aren’t happy with the pool you can choose from, then you can either expand your preferences and learn to appreciate those who are interested, or you can choose to he alone.   Other than that, use a dating coach like Evan to see if there are ways to improve yourself.
          What is never going to work is trying to manipulate people by spreading untruths.   People aren’t stupid.   We know the truth about these things.   If you are simply a racist and hate interracial dating, life is going to be very hard for you because interracial dating is only going to increase with each passing year.”

          I totally agree with you. On a YOUTUBE channel, I engaged in a vehement disagreement with this racist white dude who said Black guys are smelly, and ugly and all on welfare which is why no white woman wants Black guys. The ironic thing about his post is that it was under a channel for a white female that was titled why she likes interracial dating.
          I proceeded to tell him that women are not stupid and that they can detect jealousy and insecurity on a man. Since that is true, a woman will ALWAYS BE DISHONEST TO YOU because she would know how you feel about interracial dating.
          Like you said, what is not going to work is trying to manipulate people by spreading untruths. Interracial dating is growing so get over it.

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