I don’t speak for all men. But I try to speak for the most desirable ones: smart, successful, confident, driven, honest, experienced, sensitive, and marriage-oriented. If you want to be in a relationship with a man like that, please read every single post below to get a better sense of how we think. Knowledge is power.
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The feeling of having a soulmate connection is a rare and powerful one. But the odds that this guy is your guy for the next 60 years is exceedingly unlikely in the BEST circumstances given your age and life experience.
You’re NEVER going to stop being drawn to emotionally unavailable men. EVER. The same way someone who is an alcoholic still craves a drink or someone who is on a diet still craves something sweet, emotionally unavailable men are YOUR drug.
Because I have a girlie girl daughter, I don’t want to make her “wrong” for quitting soccer or not caring about the outcome of board games like my competitive son. But there’s a lot of backlash to promoting “femininity” in a world where masculine is perceived as good.
The conclusion that there is NOT a man for you is false. I mean, it may be true, but if it is, it’s a function of your desire to quit dating as opposed to persevering, rather than any objective statement about all the men on earth.
I think because men are wired a little differently, they are often willing to run into the arms of a nurturing woman even if the man is feeling fat, sad, or overwrought. These guys may not be ready for commitment but they are more than willing to find some sex and emotional support to get them through their tough times.
Please don’t do this. I agree with you in principle, as I wrote above. That doesn’t mean you should advertise it. “Moving slowly” or “Friends first” is easily read as “I’m fearful. I have issues with trust and sex. You won’t get laid for at least a few months.” You can move slow, but don’t take away the thrill of the chase by explaining this in your profile.
"Dale and I have been together for two and a half years and will be married in 3 months."
You provide a reality check and remind me that everyone has doubts and there is no one "normal" response to love and commitment. I think your insight and perspective is incredibly accurate - you seem to understand the plight/perspective of the working, successful urban woman over 30.
"9 months and 14 first dates later, I met the man of my dreams! Love is not a big enough word for how we feel!"
It's only been 106 days, Evan, but they have been the BEST 106 days of my life! Thank you for leading me in the right direction, giving me the confidence to believe in myself and helping me find the love I deserve.
"Give the guy a chance to prove he might have what you need for a satisfying relationship."
I am a firm believer in dating at least 4 seasons and we are already in our 3rd season of love. We have discussed marriage and will revisit the idea this October.
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