What Does it Mean to Be a Man? And Why Is Masculinity “Bad”?

We do our sons no favors when we tell them that they don’t have to answer that voice inside them that tells them to be strong, to be brave, and to lead.
Read More… 24 commentsI don’t speak for all men. But I try to speak for the most desirable ones: smart, successful, confident, driven, honest, experienced, sensitive, and marriage-oriented. If you want to be in a relationship with a man like that, please read every single post below to get a better sense of how we think. Knowledge is power.
We do our sons no favors when we tell them that they don’t have to answer that voice inside them that tells them to be strong, to be brave, and to lead.
Read More… 24 commentsMy take as a 46-year-old former slut in a 10+ year marriage is this: I think the obsession with “hot” is largely a maturity thing. Which is why I can be attracted to so many people and be the world’s safest husband. It doesn’t occur to me for one second that I’d be happier with anyone other than my wife. That’s what I mean by maturity.
Read More… 283 commentsYou may get really down that you’re still without that deep, lasting love you seek.You may get really frustrated when you see other couples holding hands at the movies.You may get really self-conscious when you see happy families walking down the street.
Read More… 1 commentWhat? You didn’t get a chance to watch my Facebook Live on Thursday? Was it because you were too busy? Was it because you had too much work? Listen, I understand that a smart, busy woman like you has a life outside of me. Still, you missed out on some really powerful stuff.
Read More… 9 comments“There can be no question, ever, that the victims suffer more than the perpetrators. However, if we are to make any significant progress on this monumental societal problem, the perpetrators must learn to be unflinchingly honest with themselves and those around them. That requires the trust that their tentative efforts won’t be belittled.”
Read More… 69 commentsThere are plenty of men who are too insecure for smart, strong, successful women. We’re not talking about them.
Read More… 119 commentsI’ve been dating my boyfriend for 10 months. We met online, actually slept together on the first date, and ended up liking each other so much we decided to see it through. At 2 weeks he finally told me he was a father to a 4 year old. Coming from divorced parents and growing up with a step mom I didn’t get along with, this was the exact situation I never wanted to be in.
Read More… 28 commentsVery recently, my boyfriend and I were looking at Instagram together on his phone, and when he opened up his photo gallery, I spotted a picture of a woman wearing a bra. I was immediately unnerved and I asked if he could show me that photo again. He acted oddly and said he didn’t want to share the photo and how I’d be infringing on his privacy.
Read More… 50 commentsI think this article by Rose Surnow is…interesting. “Women Teach Men, an $895 July wellness retreat features talks, lectures and workshops taught by accomplished female experts. The speakers ranged from well-known media personalities like Perel to lesser-known gurus like “body poetess” Mari Sierra.
Read More… 161 commentsI read this New York Times piece, word-for-word. On a Friday afternoon, September 21st, The New York Times invited male readers to tell us about their high school experiences. Had you, we asked, ever behaved toward girls or women in ways you now regret? By Monday morning, we had more than 750 responses.
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