What Do Men REALLY Want From Women?

What Do Men REALLY Want From Women?

Have you ever dated a guy and thought things were going GREAT between you, only to have him suddenly start being flaky, or stop calling, or vanish all together?

In my work as a dating coach, this is the number one complaint I hear.

You’re seeing a great guy and you THINK you’re getting close, but then he suddenly pulls away and you have NO IDEA what happened.

I can tell you what happened – if you’re ready to turn your love life around forever…

You see, I have a unique perspective – I’ve not only dated hundreds of women (before I became happily married) but I’m a coach for both women and men. And I’ve had countless nice, decent, relationship-oriented guys tell me why it SEEMED like they really liked a woman but then bailed on her.

After one date, after three dates, after three months… Amazingly, the reasons are always the same – and they were the very same reasons I’d pulled away from many surprised, confused women myself…

Here’s one thing that all of my work with smart, strong, successful women has brought to my attention – front and center:

The more you have going for you, the less likely you are to settle for less.

It’s not easy being a smart woman.

The more you have going for you, the less likely you are to settle for less.

I don’t blame you. Having high standards means that dating can be a challenge, and that most men are going to fall short.

If you’re like most women I know, you’ve agonized over this – wondering whether you’re too picky, too demanding, or maybe even unrealistic.

On one hand, you want to be open to all possibilities, on the other, you know what makes you tick – and it sure isn’t settling.

I’m guessing you concluded that the thought of being with the wrong man is far worse than the thought of being alone. No one can argue with that.

Yet the answer still isn’t satisfying. Being alone isn’t quite the life you had in mind, which is why the question still nags at you.

What areas, if any, can you compromise on?

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  1. 181

    This article is spot on. Evan isn’t saying that there aren’t other qualities that make a man and a woman a good match. He’s saying that even with having those things line up, if a man doesn’t feel good when he’s with a woman, its a NO-GO. The woman can be as perfect as perfect can be, but if she’s not fulfilling his need to feel good when he’s with her, those things mean nothing (which is why he’d probably much rather date the receptionist at his firm, the one who’s attractive, fun and easy going, rather than the Sr. VP, who’s a bit controlling and neurotic). A fun, easy-going woman who lives in the moment IS always going to be fun to be with. The opposite of this would have a harder time finding and keeping a man’s attention.  If you are a woman who happens to have a successful career and a great pedigree by current social standards, and who happens to be fun to be around and easy going, then WOW, what an even greater catch!!!

    I don’t make the rules, I just understand what they are.

  2. 182
    Lisa Johnson

    What garbage! Men absolutely don’t want anything except a hole to fuck! And you sir confirmed it. No woman in their right mind should give any man anything. Until men start appreciating women for every ascpect of her life, instead of just her fuckablity, women should steer clear of your jerks! Moreover the beginning of the article was supposed to be about why men bail….

  3. 183

    That’s for that info 🙂

    so what if you are those things and still he is kind of detached ?

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