It’s HARD to move on after a painful breakup. You’re still thinking of him, comparing everybody to him, wondering why things didn’t work out with him, secretly hoping to get him back, and dreading returning to the dating world, only to go out with men you don’t feel you can love as much.
But here’s the thing: there is a reason you broke up. That reason is that one or both of you determined you were incompatible and were not going to make each other happy for the next 35 years. Which is to say that if your relationship were healthy, strong, and worth preserving, you’d still be together. It’s time to move on.