Ever gone out with a guy who said he was attracted to you, was starting to fall for you, and wanted to get married someday – but later dumped you? Why would a man say such things if he didn’t mean them? The answer is trickier than you might think. See, he DID mean them – he just meant them in the moment. Check out this Love U Podcast to understand why guys say things you would never say.
Is There Male Privilege In Dating?
Men and women have different advantages in dating. Women have the power to no to male advances. Women are the gatekeepers to sex. Women can usually expect a man to pick up the check and set the next date. So why is it that men are called “privileged” for taking advantage of the fact that we have a different biological clock? Beats the hell out of me. But something I heard on a podcast rubbed me the wrong way, and I had to talk about it.
What Tradeoffs Are You Willing to Make for Love?
You’re willing to make tradeoffs at work. You’re willing to make tradeoffs with your home. You’re willing to make tradeoffs with friends and family. But you do not want to give up anything when it comes to choosing a spouse. And when you do, you usually compromise on the wrong things. So many things can derail a relationship that you need to know what qualities make someone a good partner. This is the $64,000 question for all women who succeed in Love U. I hope it helps you make better choices with men.
Is Your Life Getting in the Way of Love?
You’re busy. You’ve got work. You’ve got friends. You’ve got family. You’ve got travel and hobbies and anxiety and health issues. So many things are out of our control – and those things can slowly erode a solid relationship. In this Love U Podcast, I share a few stories about couples – including my wife and I – who managed to pull together when life was pulling us in apart. Life isn’t always set up for love. That’s why you have to prioritize it.
Run Toward Intimacy, Not Away From It!
When you’ve been hurt before, the obvious move is to avoid getting hurt again. Guy slept with you and never called? Stop dating. Guy didn’t want to be your boyfriend after two months? Stop dating. Guy didn’t want to marry you after two years? Stop dating. Because intimacy has always led to heartbreak, your choices in men actually become WORSE. Suddenly, you’re in a friends with benefits situation. Suddenly, you’re seeing someone long-distance. Suddenly, you’re exclusive with a man who doesn’t want to get married. Why? Because somehow it feels safer to be in a dead-end situation than to be with someone where things could get real – and you could get hurt. It’s time to break that pattern and start moving towards the men who really want to commit – not away from them.
It’s Not Only Men Who Are Emotionally Unavailable
It’s unfortunately commonplace for women to fall in love with men, who, due a confluence of events, are not emotionally available for the relationship that she wants. Sometimes, he’s separated. Sometimes, he’s divorce. Sometimes, he doesn’t know what he’s looking for. Sometimes, he slammed with the normal trials of middle-aged men: loss of work, sickness, dying parents, depressed kids. Doesn’t mean he’s a bad guy. Might mean he’s a bad guy to date right now. And, if that’s the case, doesn’t it stand to reason that a few good women might also be emotionally unavailable? Why yes. Yes, it does.
Are Your Needs Not Being Met By Your Man?
After 15 years with my wife, I realize I’ve lost touch with a common emotion: being in a dissatisfying relationship but not having the courage to leave. The gap between the confidence my clients display at work and the insecurity they display in relationships is astonishing. This all just goes to show that we’re emotional people, often raised with poor role models, who don’t believe we deserve more from love than what we’re getting now. Here’s the good news: at any point in time, you can make a different choice. You can raise your standards. You can say no. You can find someone who loves you unconditionally and wants to take care of you. But it doesn’t start with him changing his behavior because you love him; it starts with you setting a boundary and dumping any man whose behavior makes you feel consistently anxious.
Do Men Have Feelings, Too?
I know men are supposed to be heartless and soulless. Sex machines who only text. Losers with no moral compass. Opponents on the battlefield of love. Surely, some of them are. But more of them, you may be surprised to remember, are actual human beings. Like you, they’re attracted to what they’re attracted to. Like you, they’ve made questionable choices in the past. Like you, they don’t know what combination of chemistry and compatiblity makes for a great partner. Like you, they’re muddling through, doing their best, and realizing that something isn’t working. As Mansplainer-in-Chief, I’m not justifying any male misbehavior. I am saying that the more you can connect with him emotionally on a date, the more likely you’ll see a better side of him.
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Your Inner Voice Is Lying To You
We all have a voice in our head. Michael Singer wrote about it in The Untethered Soul. Echkhart Tolle wrote about it in The Power of Now. And recently, I heard Lori Gottlieb, author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone, talk about it in a podcast. The problem with the voice in your head is that she’s relentlessly negative and critical, and if you allow her to dictate how you live your life, you’ll never be the best version of yourself. Love U is about helping you overcome your limiting beliefs and get the love you deserve. This is where it all starts.
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Are You Unintentionally Pushing Him Away?
Love is scary, especially if you’ve been burned by men repeatedly. Women who are repeatedly burned by men often got a broken template in childhood about what healthy masculine love looks and feels like. Abusive, critical, selfish, unavailable fathers set the tone for the kind of men women choose in the future, to the point where every man feels equally unsafe. In Love U, we break down these patterns and rewire women to value men who are consistent and kind. But what happens when a guy is being good to you and you discover you’re pulling away and keeping your distance? That’s the topic of this Love U Podcast. Stick around.
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