Blog - Evan Marc Katz | Understand Men. Find Love.

The Best Way to Stop Your Relationship From Getting Stale

“Absence makes the heart grow fonder.” It’s a cliche for a reason. We take for granted the things and people we see every day and we deeply crave what most of us cannot have regularly: a new car, an amazing massage, a fancy vacation.

What Do I Say to a Guy on the Phone If I Don’t Want to Go Out With Him?

Hi Evan, I follow your 2-2-2 rule, which is great, but I’ve had a couple of awkward moments and need your advice: during the screening phone call, if it’s not going well and I decide I don’t want to meet in person, how do I tell the guy without hurting his feelings??

Yes, Looks Matter With First Impressions (But That’s Not All…)

Neat article in Business Insider confirms what most of us already suspect: Looks matter. Clothes matter. Non-verbal cues matter. Eye contact matters. Perception matters.

My Boyfriend of 3 Years Says He Isn’t Attracted to Me. Should I Still Marry Him?

After struggling in relationships, I finally read your book Why He Disappeared 4 years ago, did everything you said and finally found a guy that I’ve built a great relationship with. He takes me on vacations, makes dinners and packs lunches for me. Offers many surprises, backs me up when I’m mistreated.

Is Seduction a Dying Art?

Professor at Northwestern. Feminist who criticizes the excesses of feminism and the follies of masculinity. Author of “Men” and “Unwanted Advances,” both of which I devoured in days. I love me some Laura Kipnis. She’s a clear thinker, a sharp wit and she pulls no punches when pointing out the various hypocrises in the gender wars.

My Boyfriend Has a History of Sleeping with Prostitutes. What Should I Do?

I met a man online last year who has treated me wonderfully. He is everything my ex’s have not been. He treats my child as his own. He is transparent (opens all accounts, phones, computers), honest, loyal, caring.

8 Men Admit to #MeToo and Tell Their Stories

I read this New York Times piece, word-for-word. On a Friday afternoon, September 21st, The New York Times invited male readers to tell us about their high school experiences. Had you, we asked, ever behaved toward girls or women in ways you now regret? By Monday morning, we had more than 750 responses.

My Boyfriend Dumped Me Because I Won’t Sleep with Him. Should I Give In?

I don’t know if I should have sex. Over a six-month period he’s broken up with me on 4 occasions due to my celibate status. I am recently divorced, but a practicing Catholic observing chastity and trying to date.

Are You Trying to Date Out of Your League? Probably.

Whether you’ve ever labeled someone a “10” or are well-versed in the concept of “sexual market value” doesn’t matter. It may be crude and it may be un-PC, but according to a study cited in a recent Atlantic article, leagues DO seem to exist.

Should I Marry a Man Who is a Late Bloomer?

I’m 36 and he’s 38. We both want to get married and have kids. He finished grad school 2 years ago and so he’s only been working in his new profession for 2 years. He was doing odd jobs before that and so he doesn’t have any savings, but he does have student loans.