Love Stories


"For any woman who wants a real and meaningful relationship but continues coming up short, you are the man for the job."

I can’t believe it’s taken me so long to tell you this, but … I’m married! Needless to say, this is a dream come true for me. I am so happy, because I feel safe and secure with a man who is devoted to me. He is everything I was looking for – although it took you to make me realize that. Of all the thank-you notes I have written, yours is the most important to me – because there is no way I would be a happily married woman today without you.



"Right now, I’m on my honeymoon in the Maldives with the man of my dreams, thanks to your work."

Hi Evan. I am writing to give you yet another success story from your coaching. I started reading your blog back in 2010, and followed your advice religiously. It took a while (like 2 years!) but I finally started applying your advice to my dating life. I knew it was working when I was dating a guy who other women were chasing, yet he was pressing me for commitment. I didn't think he was the one so I cut bait, but it was so EMPOWERING to be the one who made that choice vs the other way around.


happily engaged couple who signed up for Love U by dating coach Evan Marc Katz


"Blake are now engaged! Thanks for all your help and support in finding myself, and because of that, him."

I signed up for Love U in a moment of sheer desperation — being tired of being single, being tired of knowing I was doing something wrong and no one to tell me what it is. You always did tell it like it is. I have to say thank you for believing in me, and giving me confidence I didn’t know I had. Thank you for seeing that there was something to be seen in me, that I didn’t even know existed.

How bad did the doormat thing get? So bad. I was living under his roof, and made every meal. Never repeated a menu item in the 6 weeks we lived together, which was after a year of being together. A year where he was still free to meet other women. 6 weeks of living together where sometimes he didn’t come home. “Gone to Vienna, be back later” And sometimes I could sleep in his bed and sometimes I couldn’t. That wasn’t even the end of it, but those were things I did and totally thought were ok at the time. That is lower than low.



We’re engaged! Mark proposed on Saturday night. It was magical. I want you to know that I am marrying the “right” man. I had so many men I thought I wanted to marry and they were the wrong men. I have the most wonderful, adoring, lovely Mark.



"This week, I got a proposal and a beautiful ring - we'll get married later next year."

“A few years ago, when I was first introduced to Evan, I was feeling increasingly frustrated with my dating life. After divorcing an emotionally unavailable man after 23 years of marriage I had two difficult, long term relationships with men who were not stepping up and I had gotten used to being treated badly.

I’d had some difficult family situations to deal with as a single mother of three twenty somethings and Evan provided me with my first ‘Aha’ moment which was when he told me ‘You’ve been a great mother to your children, and a good daughter to your elderly mother but who’s been there for you Christine?’ This actually made me cry – I had been the ‘go to’ person for my children and the men I was dating were narcissists who had me hooked but were not good men.



"I followed your advice to a T, started online dating diligently, and met my husband after only meeting 4 guys online."

I'm a happily married woman that found my husband applying all your advice and tips. Five years ago, I was so frustrated with love and dating, I started reading your blog in hopes of learning something about men. Boy, did I learn something! I went ahead and bought your book "Why He Disappeared" and read every single one of your emails. I also read your blog diligently looking for answers and insight.



"I'm in an amazing marriage with a really wonderful man. Easily the best and most healthy relationship of my life. And I'm happy. Really happy."

I joined Love U for two reasons. One, I had ended up on Evan's email list and several of his emails literally seemed like they were talking directly to me. I always thought I was good at dating, because I could get dates. But if dating were baseball, I'm the girl that always got base hits and got tagged out before she got an actual run. The second reason I joined is because I've had huge success with fitness coaching, life coaching, why wouldn't I do relationship coaching? Bad relationship choices have cost me a lot more personally and sometimes financially than I'll ever spend on coaching

I didn't really even know what I didn't know when it came to dating. I knew that doing the same things I was doing would get me the same results, and I certainly wasn't happy with those. I wanted to know what I was doing that wasn't effective and what things I could change to be more successful. I didn't want just ANY relationship. I wanted a really good one.



"Love U is the BEST purchase I’ve ever made!"

started the Love U program at age 36. I felt good about what I had to offer a guy (fun, loving, great community, stable job) but I couldn’t seem to make a relationship go the distance. I was really really down about this, but listening to Evan’s first two weeks of videos really helped to change my mindset. Specifically, he made the case that there are always people looking for love, which gave me hope.

Since then, I can say that Love U is the BEST purchase I’ve ever made! I met my husband at the end of December while visiting my family for Christmas and Evan’s coaching helped me create an amazing relationship. The relationship was long distance for the first 9 months (me in SF, he in the Midwest) and during this time I learned how to be the cool girl with boundaries, how to let my partner know how to please me, to assume positive intent, and to give all trust or no trust. There were many more lessons I learned, but if I hadn’t learned these and done the hard work to put them in to practice, I am sure I wouldn’t be where I am today in my relationship...



"You have to be bold because nothing in life worth having isn’t without some measure of risk."

For various reasons that I don’t want to get into, though not for lack of opportunity, I was a virgin at 34 when I joined Love U. A very successful one who had gone out on some dates but not ever taking it that seriously, and never truly having found that one guy that I really wanted to be with. I decided that I could either spend the rest of my life alone, or apply that logic and determination that I have so well in my professional life and try to find love. A lot of my friends were like, why don’t you just lose your virginity and get it over with so you can date more, it’s not that big a deal. But it was a big deal to me. I had waited this long and I wanted to find that special guy, the one who would love, cherish, respect, and commit to me, who was my match on every level, who would appreciate the gift that I was giving him and understand me for who I am. That was the one I was going to give myself to and it would be all of me. He would fall in love with me, commit to me, and we would be working towards marriage and a future together.

Now as most of you probably realize, this is rather a monumental task to achieve when you are a 34-year-old virgin dating in this fast-paced, sex on the second date, online world. Take everything that you are supposed to do - flirt but not be too sexy, be feminine but still maintain your boundaries, let him lead but know when to set him up for success, lead him around the bases (what are bases?) but don’t sleep with him until he is your boyfriend, figure out how to get him to the point of being your boyfriend, etc. - and then multiply that by a factor of “I’ve never done this before and gosh I hope it doesn’t show.”



"Once I started taking Evan’s advice seriously, it took me six months to find the “one.” You can too!"

In 2014, I was 67 years old and planning to retire to a new community in the isolated region of the Adirondacks. Although I was used to living in small towns, I was always near bigger cities. My new home would have a population of 1,200 with the closest city of 19,000 an hour away. “Oh, no!” I thought. “I bet there’s probably one eligible man per ten square miles up there in the North Country!” Still, living in this town was a part of my commitment to be near my grandchildren and a part of their lives in my retirement. Could I fit a man into this life? Could I even find him?

I began dating online to find out. I was still working and living four hours away when I went onto my first dating website and posted my profile in the region I was moving to. Once a month I visited for several days and spent about six weeks that summer in my new digs. I had corresponded with a few men and saw them on visits north. Over the summer, I spent some extended time with one man and thought something might come of it. By fall, however, I realized this wasn’t going to work and broke it off with him. I didn’t do a very good job of it and found I wasn’t good at “breaking up!” “I wish I knew how to break up nicely," I pondered. So, I did what everyone does when they have a question — I googled it! Up popped Evan’s website and the rest is history.



"Thanks to you and your help in our coaching sessions, I finally found the man that's perfect for me!"

Just wanted to share a wedding picture with you and thank you for being the BEST coach a single lady could want!!! We chose to have a small intimate wedding (30 people total), otherwise I would have definitely sent you an invite. In any case, I wanted to thank you for fine tuning my dating vision so I could finally weed out the guys that weren't right for me and see the man that is perfect for me. What you do as a coach is such a gift!

I have to thank you for all of your advice and fine tuning. Before working with you, I was so used to the flashy guys going all in to impress me, that I probably would have passed over the man I'm with because he would have been too normal and kind of boring for the old me.


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"I started following your advice like adhering to a recipe for the perfect crème brûlée...And I'm happy to report that 6 months ago I married my best friend!"

After reading your blog, listening to your audios, reading your books & watching your videos, it finally dawned on me! I realized that in order to find the "right" person, I had to be the "right" person and what that meant was that I had to change all my long-held beliefs about what love was supposed to look & feel like. All the chemistry and common interests were getting me nowhere near my goal of finding "the one".

To my knowledge, I had roughly 1400 matches on eHarmony. Can you imagine? It felt like a part time job! Sometimes after repeated disappointments I would log on just to clear the inbox because I was just tired of the same results.


Bonnie K.

"It's amazing to have a true partner in life. I feel like I hit the jackpot!"

I got engaged last week!

I gotta admit it's been a loooong road to this. Honestly, there were times where I really thought I may never find someone. Then felt stupid for thinking that and told myself my life is great in so many other ways. I hated it that quote that went something like - "you'll realize why all the others didn't work out when you meet the one." Well now I know, like REALLY know. My goodness, thank god you're in this business to help women find this person. Thank god you never give up.


Love U story smart strong successful woman with the man of her dreams


"Evan taught me how to look for the right things instead of chasing after an illusion of a perfect man. Last month, we just celebrated our 2nd anniversary."

When I contacted Evan, it was a day before my 31st birthday.

I had been in and out relationships. I had been putting myself out there over and over again after each relationship ended. I was becoming scared of starting a relationship that led to nowhere but left me with a shattered heart. I was getting tired of going on meaningless dates with men whom I saw no future with. I was impatient, frustrated, deeply worried about the future of my love life and absolutely hopeless about my dating reality.

So, the day before I turned 31, I made my mind: if I were going to give myself a birthday present this year, it'd be putting an end to my clueless, fruitless and oftentimes painful dating path.

Evan was the answer to my 31st birthday wish.



"I genuinely couldn't be happier in my marriage."

I wanted to thank you and let you know we're coming up on our third-year wedding anniversary and I genuinely couldn't be happier in my marriage.


Love U story smart strong successful woman with the man of her dreams


"Love wins! All I had to do was stop doing everything I had done before and open myself to a great man!"

I got divorced in 2014, after 20 years of marriage to a very toxic man. I left that marriage feeling low, unworthy and anxious. As I started to get back out there, I found Evan and purchased many of his products such as “Why he Disappeared” and “Believe in Love.”

I met a Jewish doctor in 2014 who was exactly my type: exciting, sexy, smart, and the chemistry was off the charts. However, he was extremely avoidant and could not commit. Instead of following Evan’s advice I plugged along trying to change him for a five year on and off relationship.



"This I know for sure: Do what you need to do heal your wounds and limiting beliefs, follow Evan's advice to a T, and the rest will fall into place - I promise!"

So, I officially got engaged on Valentine's Day! 😍

Thanks again, Evan! You were instrumental in helping me create this awesomeness. I never thought a love like this was possible for me. My guy is THE BEST.

About me: 44 y/o, never married, no kids, never even lived with a man, and had buyer’s remorse after getting a dog (though I do love my dog now, lol). I've always been pretty successful and had great friendships, hobbies, travel adventures and whatnot. So, for a long time I didn't realize I had some work to do on myself and my mindset around love and relationships.



"I hope my story inspires you! If you want it, you'll get it!"

I'm 49, and was never married. I've had some relationships where I thought "maybe this could be the one?" I had an on again, off again relationship with someone between 2014-2017 where I thought "well... I think I love him, but I'm not sure this feels how it's supposed to. He loves me so much, he's a great guy, I guess this is what it feels like?" But something in my gut just kept telling me it wasn't right. And actually, Evan had a few live Q&A webinars as part of Love U we got to call in and ask Evan anything we wanted. BOTH times I called in about this relationship, how unsure I was, and BOTH times, in so many words, Evan basically told me this was not the right guy for me! Talk about knocking your head against the wall, LOL.

Then I had a 7-month relationship where I thought "Okay, THIS one could be the one. He's a great guy. I think I could fall in love with him." Even though in the whole time we dated, neither of us said "I love you" yet. Then he started doing the typical "pulling away" responses around March of that year. When he finally broke up with me, I was devastated! And frustrated!! How could HE not be the one either?! I'm so tired of waiting for "the one"! Why is this not happening?!



"Evan challenged me - not to change myself - but to change my choice of men."

I'm in love, married and now have a family. I couldn't be happier.

When I first hired Evan, I was coming off of a horrible relationship with a selfish man who never made me feel safe. Evan challenged me - not to change myself - but to change my choice of men. He didn't always tell me what I wanted to hear, but what I needed to hear. He was honest with me even when I didn't like it. He held a mirror to my face, so I could see how I was sabotaging myself. No one enjoys that, but it's important if you really want to make a change and find true love. In just a few months, I learned so many things:


happy smart strong successful woman happily married to husband thanking Love U by dating coach Evan Marc Katz


"I wish everyone could do Love U. Evan is one of the best dating coaches on the planet!”

After almost three years together, David and I got engaged. And exactly one year later we got married. We were lucky enough to have our dream wedding on Sydney Harbour a few weeks before the bushfires and a few months before Covid. Despite our ages (both over 40), it was a first marriage for both of us. I don’t think our relationship would have unfolded and progressed so smoothly if it wasn’t for Love U. The course, coaching and community was a life-changing experience for me. I loved every minute of it. So, from the bottom of my heart, thank you, thank you, thank you, Evan! (Plus, a thank you from David.) Evan and his wife were invited to our wedding – along with a tightknit group of Love U friends and their boyfriends and husbands – but, unfortunately, it clashed with a significant event and they weren’t able to make it. But Evan and I are friendly and keep in touch. He truly cares about his clients.



I defied the odds as a divorced woman in my 40’s when I met (online - Tinder!!) and married the love of my life last summer. The reason he is lucky to have me is I’m supportive, caring, sexy, kind, an excellent communicator, intelligent, open minded, non-judgmental, easy going and know what it takes for relationships to go the distance in a happy and healthy manner.

My intention for my love life is to keep my relationship strong by nurturing it, honoring it, loving my husband as he is while strengthening our bond and connection as a couple.

My husband and I are very playful, always laughing and having fun! We bring out the best in one another!


happy successful smart strong woman finally engaged to boyfriend


"He proposed last Thursday evening in front of my family's lake house - he said he knew that is my "Happy Place" and wanted to do it there."

We are engaged! He proposed last Thursday evening in front of my family's lake house - he said he knew that is my "Happy Place" and wanted to do it there. I will add that he also did this right before spending the weekend helping my sister and I move my elderly parents from one assisted living place to another so I teased him that I knew he is really in this "for better or worse"! We are both excited about the future and as I've told you before, I really have you to thank for all of the advice, guidance, and pep talks I got from you.


happy woman who joined Evan Marc Katz Love U program celebrating her two-year anniversary with husband


"I've recently celebrated my two-year anniversary with my husband"

At 27-years-old, I am young, I am extremely goal-oriented and busy, but I've known for a while that I want to make time in my life for love. For a long time, I really only believed this in theory, but over the last few years, I have had a few boyfriends, random love interests, the guys you go out with who string you along and it doesn't go anywhere, and even a couple of guys I have been guilty of stringing along without it going anywhere...

Before joining Evan's Love U program, I had actually already been receiving a lot of his newsletters for a while and putting them into practice the best I could (like actually making time to date people, and putting in the required energy / minimal effort to have results ;). It took me a while, but I had already begun taking his advice seriously about knowing when to walk and when to give men a second chance, to look for things in potential future-boyfriends that would make me feel good and fulfilled in the long-run rather than looking for someone who was just like me, and of course, to keep dating, no matter all those disappointing dates!


Love U love story of a lovely woman who found love online with the help of Evan Marc Katz


"I love him, so do my kids. And I owe it all to Evan Marc Katz."

I never dated online before I worked with Evan.

I know that every single thing he teaches is true - listen to him - follow his advice - he definitely knows what he’s talking about! I refer everyone to him. When I listened to him, great things happened- when I didn’t, I fell on my face.


Love U love story of a strong successful woman showing her beautiful engagement ring


"I followed your advice religiously and found exactly what I was looking for!"

I followed your advice religiously and found exactly what I was looking for! I'm still touched and grateful that you did that call with me back in January.


Love U love story of a smart, strong, successful woman happily engaged to her boyfriend


"I ended up getting engaged to my boyfriend, we are getting married next June, and I’m three months pregnant!!!!!!"

It’s been awhile and I have been meaning to update you. All good news! I ended up getting engaged to my boyfriend, we are getting married next June (because the venue was sold out this year) but it’s all booked and everything, and I’m three months pregnant!!!!!! We are due on New Year’s Eve!!


Love U love story of a happily engaged successful and strong woman


"Mark and I are ENGAGED!!!!"

Mark and I are ENGAGED!!!! We got engaged on Leap Day at Rehoboth Beach, about two weeks before everything went crazy and shut down. The timing worked out perfectly because we were supposed to go to DC that weekend to see friends and we are able to get together with people. So, you have another success story!

We are planning a wedding for November 14 (for now). We were a little optimistic when we picked the date back in March. We are excited to be getting married, but I would not recommend planning a wedding in the middle of a pandemic!


Love U love story of old couple happily married at the age of 80


"Two years ago, we got married at 80—and couldn’t be happier."

There I am today, once again a poster child for online dating at any age. Not only did Bob and I meet at 75, but two years ago we got married at 80—and couldn’t be happier. The morning after our big 80th birthday party we invited just the family to brunch and surprised them with a wedding—very informal needless to say.


Love U love story of a woman in her 40's successfully find love online


"I learned that men are not scared by strong and successful women but actually like them."

I was in my late forties, successful in my career as a medical doctor, but feeling as a shipwreck in my dating life. I knew how to lead a CPR team if my patient`s heartbeat has ceased. I had no idea how to take care of my own matters of the heart.

I had a long history of bad relationships, dates disappearing after a seeming success, and me taking night calls on holidays to avoid loneliness.

My perception of the situation was in the lines of "I am too old and fat", "I am too foreign and my accent is too strong", and "I am too smart and too successful, and that scares the men away.”




"I now live the life of my dreams and with the man of my dreams by my side as my husband."

When I met Evan, I was newly divorced and back in the dating game in my 40's and was very impressed with his direct and to the point message about dating. We had a phone consult, and even though I could not afford to hire you for private coaching, I will never forget that you gave me incredible advice and welcomed me to lower-priced offerings.

Your genuine approach to helping me find a happy, long-lasting healthy relationship made such an impression. I followed your columns and posts for years and made notes of the great feedback you gave to me. Many times, I tried and failed in the dating game and the times I failed were pretty much summed up in the advice you give that I just didn't follow.

Luckily for me, I don't give up. Fast forward 3 years later and I met my husband who has consistently been the love of my life and the most amazing man I have ever known. I do owe some of that credit to some advice I took from Evan that I never forgot...



"My life has been blessed by your thoughtful and heartfelt advice."

Thank you, Evan.

All of your excellent advice has morphed into my inner voice.  I'm deeply in love with Chris, and we've moved in together, spent the year's holidays together with our families, got a puppy, and, as this photo indicates, tied the knot!



"We are very happy together"

I still get your emails and I was thinking about you today. Sometimes when I give advice to friends or my son I will mention some things you said in coaching like ‘you are acting like she is the only woman in the world’ or ‘sometimes you have to open up to different types of people and not just look for someone just like yourself’ etc.



"That handsome stranger turned into my boyfriend, then husband and we will be celebrating our 1-year wedding anniversary in March!"

Just want to drop you a quick note to let you know that I read your book, followed your advice and broke up with my boyfriend of 7 years after I realized it was a dead-end relationship. While it was very difficult, I knew I had made the right decision to move on so I could make myself available to a man who wanted the same things that I did...marriage and a happy life together. I didn't plan on dating immediately after I broke up with my ex because I wanted to drop a few pounds and get back in to the swing of being a single person again. I then decided to take a vacation by myself and visit family and friends in Hawaii.

So, I was at the airport dressed in shorts, a casual pullover, flip flops and no makeup, waiting for the flight and I noticed this handsome outdoorsy looking man around my age with a hiking backpack waiting at the same gate as mine. The first thing I said to myself was, "wow I hope he's sitting next to me", then laughed to myself because I travel alone a lot and have never been seated next to a handsome stranger. When I got in the plane and headed for my seat, I couldn't believe who was seated at the window next to was the handsome stranger!



"Thanks to you and Love U, I got everything I’ve ever wanted."

Thanks to you and Love U, I got everything I’ve ever wanted. My son just turned one. He is an amazing, happy, and sweet little boy and nothing makes me happier in this world than to be his mama. Children grow so fast- I had always heard that but never realized it until I became a parent. I am working full time (36 hours, 3 days/week) so I have a fairly good work/mommy balance.



"I did not need to pretend to be someone else, act in a seductive way, or play games to attract my fiance’s attention."

I purchased Why He Disappeared in autumn 2014 after a long history of disappointments, betrayals, heartbreaks and when my confidence was at its lowest. At 36-year-old, my dating history was a succession of failure stories with no bright outcomes. I had accepted sub-part behaviors and made up a lot of excuses for the men I dated with who treated me poorly, in the hope I would keep them. Off course each story had crashed and burned.

I read the book and nothing sunk in after the 1st time, the 2nd time nor the 3rd time.

Meanwhile, I received Evan’s weekly newsletters, which intrigued and interested me and I kept reading and anticipating each new email at a certain point.


happy smiling blonde woman successfully found love online through Love U by Evan Marc Katz


"We got married last year. It is the best relationship I've ever had. We're best friends and I couldn't imagine us not together."

After years of recovery from a cheating ex-husband I was ready to date again. It became clear very quickly that most guys on dating apps (paid and unpaid) were looking for a hook-up. I tried many different apps and learnt quickly that asking for a recent picture was important. So many times, I didn't recognize the people I'd agreed to meet.

While I had fun, I knew what I was doing wouldn't get me to my end goal of a long-term relationship. I was feeling ready for a change. I discovered Evan via his Love U Podcasts first, then I bought and read, and re-read every book. I updated my profile, became much choosier about who'd I'd meet. I found that I either had lots of dates in a week, or none and I couldn't figure out why. I needed to understand how to find the guy that wanted me for me. I resonated with the advice; it was so simple.


Love U success story of a smart strong successful woman with the man of her dreams


"Taking your group class was the best $ I ever spent!!"

I took your group class and look what happened! Valentino and I are getting married on December 11th in Switzerland. Just a few days from now.


Love U love story of happily engaged couple


"Even with a doctorate in Psychology, I never learned what I needed to know to have the kind of relationship I deserved."

I never expected to be sending you this email. It will be four years that we have been together. This crazy time has brought us together even more. Although, I never thought I wanted it, it made me realize how much Barry is a part of me and we are now engaged! We plan to have a small family wedding with our kids sometime in the next few months. I hope to have a celebration party at our home once this crisis is over and I would love for you and your wife to join us. It will be a while before a large gathering can be safe but I am looking forward to it.




Two and a half years ago I was frustrated, sad and a little hopeless. I had yet another man leave me suddenly and I was so confused. I knew I hadn’t done anything to warrant his departure and yet I could not deny that the only common denominator in all my failed relationships was me! I had started to read Evan’s blog and everything he said resonated:

I really believed there were good men out there – after all many of my friends had met and married good men – and I had finally come to accept that the only thing I could change was me. So, I signed up for Love U private coaching and promised myself that I would do whatever Evan suggested even those things I knew I would want to resist.



I wanted to send you a quick hello and let you know things are going so well! I've been working hard since we worked together last summer. I've been following the guidelines and now am in a committed relationship. We have been together 5 months. As I move forward, I believe I have the tools I need to manage this relationship and any future ones. I hear your voice in my head sometimes though! It helps me remember what is important. This guy has all the things on the What I Need list and so many on the What I Want list too! The time, money, and effort from last summer was absolutely worth it! Thank you!



I had just started dating someone I liked when I joined Love U, and I wanted an expert to guide me through the transition from dating to relationship.

I wanted to understand the whole process better, especially from a guy’s perspective. One of the nicest things I got from working with Evan was the ability to separate THIS guy from past relationships, and to get the “green light” to say yes to this relationship. I was so gun-shy about getting hurt again that I don’t know if I would have given my husband a chance without Evan’s support and encouragement...



I was drawn to Evan's coaching because I really wanted to find the right guy and build a meaningful relationship. And as a starting point I just wanted to enjoy the dating process!

I didn't know what I needed to understand...I just knew that what I had been doing for most of my dating life wasn't yielding what I was looking for...



"You have to be bold because nothing in life worth having isn’t without some measure of risk."

For various reasons that I don’t want to get into, though not for lack of opportunity, I was a virgin at 34 when I joined Love U. A very successful one who had gone out on some dates but not ever taking it that seriously, and never truly having found that one guy that I really wanted to be with. I decided that I could either spend the rest of my life alone, or apply that logic and determination that I have so well in my professional life and try to find love. A lot of my friends were like, why don’t you just lose your virginity and get it over with so you can date more, it’s not that big a deal. But it was a big deal to me. I had waited this long and I wanted to find that special guy, the one who would love, cherish, respect, and commit to me, who was my match on every level, who would appreciate the gift that I was giving him and understand me for who I am. That was the one I was going to give myself to and it would be all of me. He would fall in love with me, commit to me, and we would be working towards marriage and a future together.



"If this 50-year-old divorced woman can do it, then pretty much anyone else can do it too, if they set their minds to it."

I so enjoyed participating in the Love U three years ago. Even at the time, I recognized I was learning a lot, and more importantly, gaining a new perspective on how to approach dating again after my 15-year marriage ended. I had to kiss a few more frogs that year, but don't worry - there is a happy ending to this story!

Almost exactly two years later, I met a wonderful guy on Match by following what I learned in your programs. He pursued me from the start, has always treated me wonderfully, and very quickly he became my best friend and the love of my life. And almost exactly five years later, we are married. I have others to thank, of course, including good friends who gave good advice...


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"We're both so very happy AND we're expecting a child together next March."

I know you love success stories so I thought I'd send you through part 3 of mine - yesterday I got married - my husband and I started planning our engagement party, and during the planning decided we didn't want to wait another year to get married so we thought we'd turn our engagement party into a backyard wedding and surprise all the guests. And they sure were surprised!!...



"In less than one year, I met my fiancé online."

After being married for 13 years, I was ready to jump back into the dating scene, and I knew I wanted to use online dating to meet the man of my dreams. So, I decided to do some research on “online dating best practices” and stumbled upon Evan. It had been a long time since I’d dated, and Evan’s tips about getting started online helped me go into the whole process with the right mindset and attitude.

My main goals were to determine the type of man I wanted to be with, who would be a right fit for me. In my past relationships, I’d always led with my heart first, and ended up being disappointed. This time, I wanted to make better choices so I could find long term happiness with a partner who was a good fit for me…not just someone I was physically attracted to.



"I feel empowered to have created for myself the life I truly desire."

When I first met Evan, I was in a 2 year long-term-relationship with a guy… but he was stalling around getting married

I remember discussing these topics with Evan during one focus call and one thing that Evan told struck me profoundly “Nicoletta, pay attention to how bad this man wants to be your husband.”

I was suffering deeply and asking myself the same question that haunts all the women who choose to work with Evan “why does an attractive, sophisticated, loving and successful woman who has much to offer have so much trouble finding a man willing to make a life-long commitment?!” while observing friends getting engaged, married, then having babies at the speed of light…



I am so excited to finally be writing you about my dating success story thanks to your help! I have been following you since 2014 and am also a Love U student/graduate! I think you are such an awesome dating coach! I tell anyone who will listen about you, your websites and your books! Yes, I am an avid student and fan! Even more so now that I am in a relationship and exclusively dating a man I met online. By following your suggestions everything happened just as you said it would.

I am a divorced 53-year-old, highly educated successful and independent black woman with an MBA and a high paying job with the Federal Government who knows the value of having a man in her life! I was married for 22 years to a man I met when I was 18 and a freshman in college. After 8 years of marriage we had one child, a daughter, who is now almost 20 and a sophomore in college. We divorced (when she was 13) due to growing apart and not having the same life goals. It was a very amicable divorce and we are still friends.



"There is hope for those who put in the effort."

I just got engaged on Saturday to a good, traditional masculine man! I did a lot of dating and kept going until I found the right man for me...



"I met the man of my dreams"



"Evan, there is a gorgeous baby girl in Melbourne, Australia who owes a lot to you and at some stage, when she is old enough, I’ll be sure to explain that to her!"

When a baby is born, the parents usually have a list of people they wish to thank - perhaps starting with their obstetrician, midwives and family doctor. In my case, the list reads a little different. The person on the top of my "thank you list" is you! Please let me go back a few steps and tell you why.

Three years ago, I purchased your eBook, "Why He Disappeared." Since then, following advice from the book and your blog, I have met and fallen madly in love with an incredibly kind, generous, loving man and am enjoying the most fulfilling and special relationship of my life. After being a couple for about a year, we decided we’d like to start a family together. Following 12 months with no success naturally, we undertook IVF, and on 17 March 2015 at 3:09pm our beautiful little girl Eva Amelia was born.



"I have never been happier or in more love in all my life."

Since I joined Love U, so much has happened. It’s surely been such magical time that it’s been like a dream come true and it is all because of you and your coaching. I opened myself up to this man's attention and affection and he has not disappointed me since then.

He told me after 2 dates he wanted to be exclusive and be his girlfriend and told me he was in love after 2 months. As it turned out he was not being "polite" when he would ask me how I was during my cancer treatments but really wanted to be there for me because he knew in his heart that I was someone special. By December, he had introduced me to his kids in France and on Feb 1st, we got engaged. We got married the following summer and I finally have a new job now in Boston MA and we both moved a couple of weeks ago.



"Before I joined Love U, I felt lost in the dating process."

I was not even sure what exactly I was doing wrong, but I knew I needed a change. Prior to Love U, I had this feeling that dating was a game of chance - being in the right time at the right place, etc. As a part of Love U I have learned a lot about boundaries, mirroring, flirting, patience, and accountability in dating. But through the weekly coaching calls, guidance, and peer-support, I have realized that dating is about numbers and experience.



It was like having a direct line to a man’s “private talk.”

I was a 55-year old never married woman when I engaged the services of Evan Marc Katz. I had little experience in love having yearned 18 years for someone not destined for me. I’d recently made the decision to move on and online date. Though I grew up in a family of males, I knew nothing about dating. As a result, I’d had one painful online breakup prior to working with Evan and another one in the works when I signed up with Evan.

Evan taught me a LOT of love “lessons” in a short period of time without having to experience them for myself. Listening to how he used the train wrecks of otherwise smart successful women to provide teachable moments for us all was invaluable. He has an ability to sift through suffering and get at the heart of a situation quickly. On behalf of all GREAT women, Evan doesn’t tolerate bad behavior coming from men. Not only is he gifted at pointing it out but also excellent at getting women to see that one extra moment focused on “Not The One” was a lost moment in the search for love.



Evan, just a quick note to let you know that Kevin proposed last night, so we are engaged.



I just wanted to take a moment to thank you. I started to reading your newsletter and then got the Why He Disappeared. I was starting to see a pattern in the men who hadn’t worked out and I knew I needed a change. I’m so happy to say that with your e-books and videos, you coached me into the best relationship of my life. My love is kind, treats me like gold, makes me laugh non-stop, he’s financially responsible, a great cook, and we have amazing chemistry! He even bakes me fresh bread every few days. Bread and butter are the way to my heart. Haha. It’s really off the charts.



I always loved reading the success stories at the end of your emails and I am thrilled to report, you have another. In September I married the love of my life. He isn’t what I pictured… 7 years older than me with a teenaged daughter, works in the trades and earns less than me. But he’s kind and he adores me. He makes me feel safe, heard and understood… and those exact words were included in my vows.


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"I have been wanting to send you this email for quite some time to thank you for your advice (by way of your website, emails, podcasts, blogs, etc.), which have changed my life."

I am now 35 years old but stumbled across your website two and a half years ago after a bad breakup. The breakup left me devastated, and there was a point that I had resigned myself to being the stereotypical spinster cat lady for the rest of my life. I felt frustrated that despite dating seemingly different men (in terms of age, race, religion, socio-economic status, educational backgrounds, etc.), they all seemed to either be emotionally unavailable or lack stability (financial, professional, mental) or a combination thereof. Some say that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over again and expecting a different result – and I realized then that if I continued to date as I had been, I would essentially be attracting more of the same men. I don’t quite remember what I typed into the search engine, but I believe it was something to the effect of “why is it hard for beautiful successful women to find a decent guy”. And ergo, I came across one of your blogs and became acquainted with your work. One of the first blog posts that I read was about online dating and how the percentage of eligible partners is fairly small and how to essentially separate the wheat from the chaff.


Love U Love Story LauraW


"What has emerged from our coaching is a confident woman who knows her worth as a girlfriend."

A woman who is willing to believe the best in men and knows that holding to that positive perspective means that the right man will reveal himself and step up.  (I am paraphrasing from Why He Disappeared.)  A woman who is no longer willing to put up with bad treatment from a selfish, emotionally unavailable man and who is willing to give the right man the time and space he needs to reveal himself.  This is all possible because of the unwavering dedication I have in my own personal growth and working in conjunction with the help of a talented dating coach. I am living proof that given the right dedication and resources, anyone can change his or her life for the better.