The one reason that men disappear, more than any other, by far…
For too long, you’ve accepted this pain as just part of the dating process.
It doesn’t have to be.
There are women out there — not many, but a few — who are really good at handling men.
There are women who are in happy relationships, women who have happy marriages, women who don’t spend any time wondering about why he disappeared or when he’ll disappear.
It’s not that these women are smarter than you (they’re not), prettier than you (they’re not), or kinder than you (they’re not). Perhaps they have brothers. Maybe they have lots of guy friends. They could have had a number of long-term relationships. Whatever it is, there’s a handful of women who know what makes men tick.
That’s the big issue, isn’t it? Why do guys do what they do? Why are they so confusing?
They’re confusing because you are not a man. (Believe me, that’s a good thing!)
But just like 99.99% of men could use a crash-course education in understanding women, the vast majority of women have never bothered to view the world through a man’s eyes.
And if you’re only viewing the world through your eyes, you’re only getting half the picture.
I’d like to give you the rest of the picture.
I’d like to explain to you why men choose some women and not others.
I’d like to illustrate to you that the women who do best with men are those who truly love men for all that they are.
Strong. Smart. Sexy. Generous. Thoughtful. Sensitive. Funny.
Believe it or not, there are LOTS of men out there who are ALL of these things — but they may not be looking for you as you’re looking for them.
I should know. I was one of those guys. I have no doubt that I was the subject of a few dozen “why did he disappear?” conversations.
I also know that despite seeming like a player, I was always looking for a relationship, I never wanted to hurt anyone, and would never openly criticize a woman I was dating. I was a genuinely good guy who wanted to settle down and have a family, but went through hundreds of dates who didn’t understand me as a man.
On paper, there was nothing wrong with these women. Smart, successful, interesting, educated, attractive, sophisticated, ambitious, opinionated — these were the qualities that drew me to them. Yet they were never enough.
It wasn’t until I met my wife — with two brothers, an ex-husband and a father in the military — that I truly found a woman who understood men, who knew how to make me WANT to commit to her for a lifetime.
My attractive, relationship-oriented male clients feel the same way. Every single one has identical frustrations with the women they date, which has nothing to do with how these women look, how smart they are, how funny they are, how successful they are, or how educated they are.
Date after date, week after week, it’s always the same story: Men of all different ages, of all different stripes, from all over the world pass up amazing women for reasons that the women have never even considered.
Yet somehow, I still didn’t think there was a need to create an entire book around just one question.
Then I found myself on the phone with a close friend who happened to be a business coach. She’s in her early 40’s, attractive, successful, and highly self-aware. When we were discussing her latest fizzled relationship, the first thing she said was: “If you could write something that explains, once and for all, why men disappear in the middle of dating, you would be doing the world a great service.”
I immediately got to work.