Love U is a one-stop-shop to teach you everything you need to know about dating, relationships, and men.
Month 1: Confidence
Month 2: Meeting Men
Month 3: Dating
Month 4: Understanding Men
Month 5: Relationships
Month 6: Commitment
In addition, to six months of unique content, you get access to a year of group coaching and a year of support and Q&A in the Love U community - so that you can learn to trust your judgment with men once and for all.
By the time you graduate from Love U, you will make smart, healthy decisions that allow you to get the love you deserve — ideally without further coaching.
There are 12-week dating and relationship programs out there - but they are often force-feeding you more than you can handle, to the point where you’re stressed out at how fast they’re going…or more likely, they’re really limited in scope. That doesn’t mean they’re bad. It means they are not doing anything nearly as comprehensive as Love U.
There’s a big difference between learning something and living it. Love U was designed for maximum effectiveness so you can actually see change in your life.
That much stuff simply can’t be taught, digested and implemented in 3 months.
By breaking this material into digestible weekly chunks, Love U allows you to learn with very little effort. This way, you will never get burned out, and you will be able to put the lessons into practice effectively.
Not even close. My three main digital programs are Why He Disappeared, Believe in Love, and Finding the One Online. As of yet, I have no individual products for dating, understanding men, relationships, sex, commitment, communication, or compatibility. While I’m proud of my first three programs from 2008, 2010 and 2014, they are merely the tip of the iceberg for what you’ll learn in Love U.
Do I give similar advice inside Love U that I give on my blogs and podcasts? Of course! It would be confusing if I wasn’t consistent in my belief that, say, women are the CEOs, men are the interns, and relationships should be easy.
The difference is that Love U is a carefully curated curriculum - a Masters Degree in men - which holds your hand for a year to ensure your success. By watching a half hour of video per week, implementing the Love U dating practice we recommend in Week 7, and participating in the community and group coaching to answer all your questions, you are going to accelerate your results immeasurably, as opposed to listening to a few podcasts a week - even if, at the core, the concepts are the same.
Not at all. Love U covers every aspect of love: confidence, meeting men, dating understanding men, commitment, sex, and relationships.
Online dating is just one solitary week of the 26-week Love U curriculum. While I think online dating is a valuable skill to have when creating a love life from scratch; it is not the main thrust of Love U — just another valuable tool to help you get the love you deserve.
Keep in mind that, at a certain age, it’s HARD to meet people in “real life” on any regular basis. You work in a small office. Your friends are coupled up. You live in the suburbs. You don’t go to parties frequently and are rarely set up. So people tend to ask WHERE they should meet men, but that’s really the wrong question. Men are everywhere: what are you doing to make them fall for you each and every day?
1. Register for an online dating site and give it a half hour every day.
2. Learn about confidence and flirting to make the most of every “real life” opportunity. That’s all you can do.
Both of these are taught in the second month of Love U, called “Meeting Men.”
The seventh week of Love U is specifically about online dating and it describes, in great detail, how to write an effective online dating profile that attracts more men and higher quality men. Regardless of Love U, you may benefit from going to www.e-cyrano.com and getting the Gold package. I have a dozen experienced professional writers who do INCREDIBLE work in capturing what makes you unique and attracting higher quality guys. But you don’t need to go outside Love U to learn to create a one-of-a-kind dating profile.
Apps are ubiquitous. So here’s my feeling about Tinder, Hinge, Bumble, etc: they’re just another way to meet people. They’re convenient and frictionless, meaning, they take no effort whatsoever. Thus, there’s very little skill involved in swiping right and sending a text to meet. Thus, there’s very little to teach on that subject. Love U is about much more than that – confidence, flirting, sex, communication, chemistry, understanding men, etc. So while I don’t directly address in my videos how to use an app – the tools you learn here are relevant whether you meet a guy on Tinder or through a mutual friend. And, as a member of the Love Universe, you can ask questions about apps in the community or on our weekly coaching calls.
I think it’s perfectly relevant to ask a question about “marriage rates” from a dating and relationship coach. However, that is not a metric by which I – or anyone else – can measure his success. Please allow me to explain a little further.
Put it this way: if a personal trainer helped a 400lb man lose 150lbs, is he a success or a failure? Well, the man is STILL 250lbs, but I’d say the trainer was a big success. That’s how Love U works as well. I will never make promises I can’t keep. You’ll never hear me say that 78% of my clients get married in the next 12 months. That’s for a few reasons:
1. I have no control of my clients. All I do is give advice. If I give great advice and it’s not followed, I can’t be held responsible.
2. I can’t keep track of what my clients do after they’re done with me. I may work with you in Love U for a year. But if you’re following my advice, you shouldn’t get married for 2-3 years. Unless you come back to inform me you’re married, I’d have no idea.
3. Progress isn’t only about getting a ring on the finger. A woman who hasn’t dated in 10 years is a success by getting online. A woman who normally stays with abusive men for five years is a success if she dumps a bad guy in 6 weeks. A woman who has a happy relationship but doesn’t want to get married is a success. You see? They’re all steps towards the same ultimate goal – gaining confidence, fixing your broken man-picker, and making healthier relationship choices.
So do I have hundreds of marriages to my credit? Yes. But I measure my success based on whether my clients tell me they’ve learned something valuable and empowering. I’m confident that when you join Love U, you will have the same exact experience.
I don’t mean that facetiously. I mean that quite literally.
What I love about Love U is that once you learn something, you never forget it.
So when you dive into our first week and watch those first videos, I am going to bring you back from the depths of despair, reframe your negativity, and give you an instant jolt of confidence that will carry through this entire program and beyond.
Every week, you are going to have some major aha moment that reshapes your perspective on dating, relationships, and men, and before you know it, everyone you know will see a difference: Your friends. Your family. And especially the guy you end up dating.
So while I will never make a promise I can’t keep, I will say this with all sincerity: Nobody has ever worked with me and said, “Man, that guy didn’t know anything. He didn’t care. I didn’t learn a thing that I didn’t already know.”
You are going to gain immeasurably each and every week, so by the time you graduate, you will not have any blind spots when it comes to men and relationships.
In other words, if you don’t have a boyfriend by the time you graduate Love U, the question is not a matter of IF you will find one — it’s only a matter of WHEN.
Give me 5 minutes a day and I will give you a husband. I’m not kidding. Each week, there are an average of 25-35 minutes of videos on different relationship topics.
Watch the videos, do a short exercise at the end, and voila — you’re going to have all the tools you need to understand men and find love.
Love U is not something that you can knock out in one weekend.
There is a very specific reason that this course material lasts for six months (and coaching lasts for 12) – and that’s because I want it to WORK.
Watching 20 hours of videos at once like binge watching a TV show isn’t the way I want you to digest this course.
So what you get is an email once a week to notify you about a new half-hour of video content, an email 3 days later highlighting a core concept, and a short exercise to help make these lessons take root.
By making this achievable to even the busiest women (5 minutes a day to find love!) I believe I offer you the best chance of getting great results – even if you really want to rush through this course as quickly as possible.
You’ve finished the content. Now you have to continue to put it in practice. That’s why, in 2021, I doubled the length of group coaching and now offer members one full calendar year in both Love U Live Coaching and the Love U Community.
Reeling from a break-up? Come back to Love U.
Frustrated that you still haven’t met him yet? Come back to Love U.
Have a boyfriend and want to be sure he’s husband material? Come back to Love U.
Your journey doesn’t end when you finish the course or even when you meet a great guy. Your journey ends when you can relax, knowing that you’ve found your man and that you know how to navigate your relationship in the long run.
I can’t guarantee you a husband or a boyfriend, no more than a personal trainer can guarantee you lose 25 lbs, a therapist can guarantee you become happier, or a recruiter can guarantee you a specific job. I provide an invaluable, one-of-a-kind service — the ability to make smart, healthy relationship choices on your own for the rest of your life.
And that’s what I CAN guarantee — that by the time you graduate Love U in one year, you will feel more confident, more self-aware, and more in control of your own destiny. You will no longer wonder why men do certain things. You will no longer take off years from dating out of fear. You will no longer stay in bad relationships for too long. You will be able to create your own love life from scratch, carry yourself with confidence, and attract a commitment oriented man — if not during your time in Love U, then inevitably afterwards.
I’m sorry but there are no refunds in Love U Live. These were the terms you agreed when you originally enrolled.
However, if you’re in a crisis that will make it impossible for you to participate in Love U (i.e. a loved one is seriously ill, not “I’m struggling at work and am too busy to date”), you can email us at [email protected] and we will evaluate things on a case-by-case basis.
We endeavor to be fair and ask you to honor your original commitment - not to us, but to what you shared with us the day you enrolled; that finding lasting love is a top priority and you will do what it takes to persevere through trying circumstances.
It would be hard to render services if we were penalized for doing our job too well! So, when we enroll you in Love U, we spend a good amount of time explaining that Love U is a one-year commitment - for both of us. Which is to say that we will continue to provide world-class content, coaching, and support for you, regardless of whether you take advantage of it. We have three months of content (Understanding Men, Relationships and Commitment) on how to evaluate and maintain a relationship. Even if you really like a guy, it’s tricky to navigate your incompatibilities and decide if he’s really “the one.” So we're thrilled if you’re happy with how quickly you found a man, but your journey isn’t done when you take down your profile and we don’t stop payment or offer refunds because we were successful together.
While Love U is a video-based curriculum, I’ve discovered that you get the best results when you can ask questions, get support, and have me hold your hand through this process. Which is why I give you:
One calendar year of live coaching calls, where you can meet other smart, strong, successful women who are going through the same Love U process. Whether you or not you ask questions on our live sessions, you will learn tons from our epic Q&As.
If you have a work conflict or are in a different time zone that prevents you from attending, each coaching call is posted privately inside Love U the next day so you can watch, listen, and take notes.
One calendar year in my Love U Community, where you can get assistance from me and hundreds of other smart women. Seriously. Ask a question about the guy you just started dating and dozens of women (and I) will give you a Love U approved perspective - so you don’t have to rely on your mom or your friend who gave up on men for relationship advice.
Combine the videos and exercises with the coaching calls and community and you have a first-class version of Love U.
Oh yes, you will.
Whether you speak or not, you will learn immeasurably from the calls and the community.
Unlike private therapy, where a doctor asks you questions that slowly lead to your internal revelation, good coaches don’t work like that. We work much faster.
You want to know what you’re doing wrong and what to say to make it right? I’ll TELL you, point blank, so issues can be resolved in a few minutes on Zoom, instead of spending years in therapy wondering why it’s so hard to meet a good man.
I’ll be your best guy friend, your cheerleader, your biggest fan and your truth-teller, who reinforces what you’re doing right and kicks your butt if you need it.
And that doesn’t even begin to assess the value of the other women in the community. Read their posts, listen to their questions, for they are asking the exact same things that are going through your mind. In their struggles, you will get a window into your own issues.
It sounds ironic, coming from a guy who likes to hear himself talk, but you don’t learn ANYTHING when your mouth is open. You only learn from listening.
Love U Live is a great opportunity to get a ton of personal attention AND to listen and learn in a meaningful way.
Love U is 26 weeks of videos with 26 weeks of exercises.
Exercises are generally written reflections that will take you no longer than 5 minutes, and they’re designed to reinforce or expand the lessons in the videos. They’re fun and interactive, and I really don’t think you’ll find them a burden.
As for the group coaching calls and the community, remember, what you put into Love U is what you’ll get out of it.
Some women go to the gym and just want to use the treadmills; others use free weights, swimming pools, personal trainers and Zumba classes.
I’m giving you the option of utilizing all of these resources as you see fit; they are not mandatory.
I think you’ll find our weekly coaching calls beneficial — especially since they’re your chance to ask questions so that you can feel confident you’re making smart relationship choices every step of the way until you meet your guy.
So while yes, you can easily spend as little as 5 minutes a day in Love U, don’t forget the end game — it’s not to invest as little time as possible; it’s to find lasting love.
Presuming you give 40 hours a week to work, I sincerely believe any woman can give 2 hours a week to one coaching call which will lead to your ultimate happiness.
No big deal. Every call is recorded and uploaded the next day for easy access at your leisure. By the time we’re done, we will have spent nearly 100 hours together on Zoom, reinforcing best practices that allow you to be the best, most confident version of yourself with men.
I sure hope so!
Scores of my former clients have gotten together in “real life” — in New York, Los Angeles, San Francisco, Portland, Dallas, Chicago, Washington DC, and London.
I love getting engagement and wedding photos, but I am just as happy getting pictures of my Love U grads connecting and becoming friends outside the course.
You’re going to be on Zoom with me for a year of group coaching sessions during which you have an opportunity to get personal coaching (generally 5-10 minutes per question) from me. When there are 50-100 women on a call, I obviously can’t answer your question each week. However, even if I don’t, chances are, someone else has a similar question from which you can learn. Same goes for the Love U Facebook Community, where you can share day-to-day details of your dating experiences and get instant feedback from me and the other women in the Love Universe.
If you want me to write your profile, log into your dating site with you, listen to your text messages, and have me tell you exactly what to do the next time you’re dating a great guy, I offer two different options. Both are serious investments with limited availability because, as a happily married man who tries to be available to his wife and kids, I only coach 3 hours a day, 3 days a week.
In both Love U Masters Coaching and Love U Elite Coaching, I offer you access to everything in Love U Live, PLUS intimate group coaching calls on Wednesdays, monthly private coaching sessions, unlimited email access, and, eventually, free entry to one Love U live retreat.
However, the only way to get into Love U Masters or Elite Coaching is to enroll in Love U Live Coaching first. If, at that point, you determine you need more 1:1 time, you can book a time to talk with me and we’ll figure out if you’re a good fit for private coaching.
Yep. In fact, it’s the primary purpose of the program. My belief is that you are wonderful the way you are. It doesn’t mean you can’t stand to learn things like how to write a great profile, how to flirt, and how to communicate effectively with men. But it does mean that the primary reason you have struggled in love isn’t YOU, but rather, your choice of men. When you graduate from Love U, you will quickly be able to weed out the time-wasters and identify the keepers.
Yes. The first month on Confidence is extremely important, because if you don’t have confidence, it’s hard to make healthy relationship choices. And the last three months are exclusively focused on relationships: Understanding Men, Relationships, and Commitment.
Furthermore, apart from the week about online dating, you’ll be pleasantly surprised how relevant a lot of the dating stuff is to your relationships. Confidence matters. Past Baggage matters. Flirting matters. Courtship matters. And if, for god knows what reason, your relationship doesn’t work out, you have the dating tools to get back out there quickly.
Some women come to Love U with boyfriends and learn to communicate better and strengthen their relationships. Many more discover during the first module on Confidence that their boyfriend is not the man they need him to be and gather the strength to break up, heal and move on to a healthier relationship - one that doesn’t require a dating coach.
I know there are different challenges for a 60-year-old woman than a 35-year-old woman. But believe me when I tell you that 95% of dating and relationship advice is the exact same. We’re talking about men and women. Dating and relationship dynamics. Communication. Commitment. Confidence. Self-awareness.
You need to understand all of those things — at any age — if you’re going to succeed.
I have helped many women in their late 50’s through their late-70’s find husbands, and I have no doubt that if you have a particular question that is not covered by the videos, I will be able to answer it on our Love U Live coaching calls or in the Love U Facebook Community that I moderate daily.
My belief is this: 95% of all relationship dynamics are universal – in other words, they are relevant regardless of age, color or religion. This is not to say that 20-year-olds and 60-year-olds are the exact same or that African American women and Caucasian women are the same. It’s only to point out that most of what determines relationship success is not based on the 5% – it’s based on confidence, self-awareness, healthy communication skills, boundaries, optimism, warmth, and being able to assess your partner’s compatibility in the long run based on what’s important in a partner. Thus, I don’t have specific modules for blacks vs Asians vs. Hispanics – that would be impossible. I have, however, successfully helped women of all ages, colors, and religions understand men and find love since 2003.
Half of Love U members are between the ages of 35 and 50...with 25% younger than 35 and 25% older than 50. You WILL meet someone like you in Love U.
I bill myself as a coach for smart, strong, successful women and I can’t help who hires me. I will say, however, two things:
1. I get a lot of clients from cultures with parents who frown upon dating (Asian, Indian), and I have proven to shorten their learning curves due to their relative inexperience.
2. I have a LOT of clients who are simply too shy, private, or embarrassed to put up their face on my site. For every face you see on my website, there are probably 50 who have written me emails thanking me for helping them find love.
Love U does not treat abuse and PTSD directly. This is a comprehensive and easy video curriculum that tells you how to gain confidence, set boundaries, date and navigate relationships with joy and ease. I do think you can benefit from it, but your condition may require therapy that goes above what Love U provides in its videos.
The way I see it: no matter who you are and what your baggage, it’s my job to help you make the most of what you’ve got. So have I helped other women who dealt with abuse fall in love and get married? Absolutely. Do I have anything in the course specifically targeted to abuse survivors? No, I do not.
Love U is a base of knowledge. Nothing more, nothing less. By joining now, you get lifetime access to this material whenever you see fit. Confidence, Meeting Men, Dating, Understanding Men, Relationships, Commitment. Is it more relevant if you’re actively dating? Possibly. But since neither you nor I are going to pick up and move tomorrow, all we can do is make the best of your current circumstances. Listen, I helped a woman in the Yukon find a man from Minnesota on Match who moved up to be with her. So I don’t think anything is impossible if you’re serious about finding love.
Ultimately, your success is more about how you use Love U than it is about the number of men in your small town.
In other words, somebody gets happily married in your local area. Why shouldn’t it be you?
Love U is a comprehensive program that spends the entire first month on Confidence. And, not to give away the ending, but the goal of this portion of the course is to allow you to let go of your ex-boyfriend. Not change him. Not get him back. Not to fix his problems and make him treat you better. But to cut him loose, wish him well, and move on to a relationship that is simply healthier and easier.
So can Love U Live “help get your ex-boyfriend back?” No. But I hope it can convince you that you don’t WANT your ex-boyfriend back.
What Love U Live WILL do is help you heal, grow, and find both a better man and a better long-term fit for your life.
Maybe you haven’t met the right guy. But, I’d maintain that it’s entirely possible that you wouldn’t even know Mr. Right if you saw him. I know it sounds ludicrous, but if every guy you thought was Mr. Right has turned out to be Mr. Wrong, perhaps your picker is a little bit off.
I’m not putting you down — for 35 years, I also invested my energies in the wrong women and was blind to what was truly important.
In other words, I came this close to passing up my own wife. So isn’t it possible that, like me, if you’re single, you’ve been choosing the wrong men? I think so.
To view it from another perspective, do you have any girlfriends who you could tell me EXACTLY why they’re still single? But as a close friend, your job is to be supportive, not critical, right? Well, your close friends probably have a good idea about what you could be doing wrong, but they would never tell you.
I don’t have that problem. Love U tells you what you need to hear, not what you want to hear.
The education you get in Love U will set you free and completely change the way you choose your partner in the future.
And remember: it is a choice.
You don’t have to change your personality to find love. You do have to choose better men than you’ve chosen in the past. I will help you do that.
As your dating coach, I’ll hold you accountable, show you a uniquely male perspective and give you access to other women on the same journey as you. In other words, if you’ve been frustrated with men your entire life, I will not let you fail. Your success IS my success. That’s why you invest in coaching.
It’s easy to think that you already understand men based on all of your life experience. But I’d ask you to reframe this in another way:
Do you think that most men really, truly, understand YOU?
Of course not!
So why do you think that you really, truly understand the motives of men?
I have no doubt that there are plenty of instances that you did know exactly what happened. He was a cheater. He was a player. He was a commitmentphobe. He was emotionally unavailable. Those guys are the worst and there’s nothing either of us can do to wish them away. You can’t make cheaters stay faithful. You can’t force a commitmentphobe to commit. You can’t open up an emotionally unavailable guy to the beauty of vulnerability and trust. There’s literally NOTHING to learn when it’s entirely the guy’s fault and he’s too messed up to be in a healthy relationship.
What you CAN learn in Love U is why the GOOD guys might disappear — the ones you WANT to keep. As a man, it’s my job to let you know what we’re REALLY thinking — even when it’s not pretty.
Not only will you be surprised at what you learn, but you’ll be empowered to connect with men in a way that few women EVER do.
I’m not, for one second, defending men who have mistreated you in any way. I’m not defending guys who sleep with you once and never call again. I’m not defending guys who only communicate by text message and booty call. I’m not defending guys who string you along for five years without proposing. I’m pointing out that those men will ALWAYS exist, no matter what I say or do.
The reason you should apply to Love U Live is to learn how to identify these men and break away from them BEFORE they do their damage.
Once you avoid the unhealthiest of men, the NEXT question is how to make the healthy ones — the millions of men who DO want to get married — choose to stick around.
Great. It’s a much lower bar to jump and therefore, much easier to help you. The first four months, in particular, will be of great value to you: Confidence, Meeting Men, Dating, and Understanding Men.
But I would also point out to you that if you don’t want a husband, it’s probably because you have a negative association with marriage from either your parents’ divorce or your own divorce. What if I told you that you could be HAPPILY married the rest of your life? Does that change how you view marriage?
I completely understand how you feel. I’ve been there personally and I’ve coached thousands of women who were equally burned out on men, dating and relationships.
We definitely agree that there’s no one way to rebound from a break-up. There’s no set amount of time one should take a breather from men. There’s no one perfect way to get to the other side of your negativity and start your quest anew.
Just know that the first month of Love U is all about healing. “Why Bother Syndrome,” “Past Baggage,” “Confidence,” and “Take Action” are the first four weeks…
So it’s certainly not my place to tell you that you’re ready to date yet. You have to take care of yourself emotionally. But please remember two things:
1. Just because Love U is a six-month course doesn’t mean you have to use it all in six months. You can pace yourself as you see fit. Need to take a two-month breather? You can always go back to watch the videos later. You have LIFETIME access to this stuff.
2. Love U Live offers one year of coaching and community - to help you shake off the pain from your last relationship, heal properly and take actionable steps to finding lasting love. The question is whether you need that one year after your break-up to delay the inevitable and get back out there.
As John Lennon said, “Life is what happens when you’re busy making other plans.” So sure, you can put off this incredible opportunity to attract and connect with a quality man. But why would you?
If you are satisfied with the status quo, don’t apply to Love U Live.
If you feel really confident that you understand men, don’t apply to Love U Live.
If you feel you can effortlessly navigate online dating, texting, sex, dating multiple men, and create and maintain a lasting loving connection, don’t apply to Love U Live.
Personally, I’d be shocked if someone who hasn’t hasn’t experienced a healthy, easy relationship would know how to do all of this on her own, but if you are that rare woman, more power to you.
If you want to spare yourself a lot of frustration, confusion and heartbreak, this is an incredible opportunity to apply and discover if Love U Live is a great fit for you.
Because, after going thru Love U Live, you will never again make ANY of the same mistakes you’ve made in the past.
Listen, no man is perfect, much less perfect for you. But if you can stop investing your time in selfish heartbreakers and start investing your time in kind men with strong character who believe in commitment, you can manifest that relationship you’ve always wanted. But it all starts with you.
The reason to invest in Love U Live is because you’re ready to break from the pain and confusion of the past and create a new relationship with men and dating.
You’re done dating the same frustrating, emotionally stunted losers.
You want to learn how to make the winners stick around.
Perhaps the best thing about Love U Live is that I’m not just offering you an eBook and telling you to go at it yourself.
I’m giving you a path that offers knowledge and support and all but guarantees success.
The only question is whether you really want success or whether you’d rather stay exactly where you are right now.