Dating brings up all your insecurities. Am I attractive enough? Young enough? Smart enough? Am I worthy? When those thoughts are running through your head, it’s hard to be the best version of you. What IS the best version of you? Well, after listening to Selena Gomez on Smartless talk about her mental health issues that stem from being in the public eye, the only word that came to mind was AUTHENTIC. So today, we’re going to talk about why you must stop caring about what men think and start focusing on what YOU think.
There Is No Going Back
If you’ve ever tried to rekindle a relationship with your ex, you’re aware of how powerful the allure can be. There’s a deep love, a deep understanding, a deep friendship that you don’t want to let go of. It seems much more comforting to go back to someone you love than to try your hand at meeting strangers online. Yet there’s a reason there’s a book called “It’s Called a Breakup Because It’s Broken.” It’s because you and your ex are incompatible. That’s why you broke up in the first place and why you’re probably going to break up again. In this Love U Podcast, I share the story of a client who can’t seem to kick her habit of returning to her exes. I hope you can learn from her experiences.
Avoid the Overcorrection
If you were in a relationship without passion, you’ll look for passion your next partner. If you were with a financially unstable man, it makes sense to seek a man who is much wealthier. But sometimes, when you’re trying to correct a problem, you end up OVERCORRECTING. And when you swing too far in the other direction in reaction to your last relationship, you just end up making a different set of mistakes. Listen closely to avoid overcorrecting in the future.
Do You Act on Red Flags – Or Ignore Them?
You may go months or years without a strong connection with a guy. When you find it, you want to preserve it at all costs. But what if you discover, sometime in the first month of dating, that there are major obstacles to a long-term relationship? Do you act on them? Or do you sweep them under the rug because it feels so good to be with him. If you’re like most of my listeners, you sweep them under the rug. If you’re like my clients, you know better and get rid of any man who is incapable of being your future husband. You won’t want to miss this one.
Are You Following Your Core Values in Dating?
Dating can throw you off your axis. Whether you’re getting rejected by strangers online or being treated poorly by someone who claims to care about you, it’s easy to become anxious, confused, or angry. What I’m advocating for in today’s Love U Podcast is anchoring yourself in your own core values.
Inspired by the book Master of Change by Brad Stulberg, this episode will remind you of who you are, what’s important, and why you should never veer from it – no matter who you’re dating.
Is it a Problem or the Fear of a Problem?
When you’ve been burned by men, it’s easy to see danger lurking around every corner. He’s friends with his ex? Probably a cheater. He’s unhappy at his job? Clinically depressed. He texts multiple times a day? Either needy or a lovebomber. In this Love U Podcast, we zoom out to ask an important question: is this a real problem or are you just afraid that it WILL be a problem? You may be surprised to learn that you’re worried about things that will never actually happen.
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Reframing Your Frustrations With Men
It’s been said that happiness is the gap between our expectations and reality. In reality, no man is going to do exactly what you want, when you want it. This doesn’t mean that no man can ever love you; only that you need to close the gap between who you want him to be and who he is. Once you discard the men who are incapable of making you happy, how can you learn to understand and appreciate the good men who really are doing their best?
What To Do When You Don’t Have the Same Sex Drive
Sex is important in a marriage, especially since you’re only going to be having sex with one person for the rest of your life. What happens when your libidos change over time and you’re not on the same page any longer? How do you handle the gap between your sex drive and his sex drive. My wife and I are lucky to have grown together on this issue but that doesn’t mean we agree each week. On this episode, I’ll share a personal story of how my wife and got through an argument about this common problem – one which is hard to talk about openly.
Are You Complaining Too Much?
You’re not alone if you feel like the world’s on fire. But the type of complaining I’m talking about is the day to day stuff – the normal indignities of 21st century living. If you’re a smart, successful woman, you may have just about everything going for you but still stay in a negative space over half the time. That’s what we’re covering in this week’s Love U Podcast. Because negativity, while often justified, is rarely an effective strategy for solving problems or connecting with people – two very important things if you’re looking for a lasting, romantic relationship.
The Value of Conflict
I often mention that good relationships should be easy. It’s true. But that doesn’t mean there should never be conflict. Conflict is normal between two free-thinking adults; the key to your relationship is how you resolve that conflict. In this Love U Podcast, I share a small story from my marriage that is indicative of how two people who are deeply in love can still talk past each other, even after 15 years together. I hope you see yourself in the story and can use it to bring healthier conflict resolution to your relationships.
