Do You Want Your Partner To Treat You Like Royalty?

Have you ever been treated like royalty by a romantic partner?

Have you ever had someone offer to give you a foot massage after you worked out?

Have you ever had someone make you breakfast while you were still sound asleep?

Have you ever gotten a card that made you cry? Or a gift that made you gasp?

What a wonderful feeling, to be loved, appreciated, and honored. This kind of generosity doesn’t happen often, and when it does, it can be fleeting.

But it doesn’t have to be.

So what does it take to have a partner treat you like royalty?

Treat your partner like royalty every single day.

…Treat a guy well and he’s not going to go anywhere.

Simple.

Treat your partner like royalty every single day.

Impossible, you say. You can’t make a partner be as thoughtful and generous as you.

Ah, but you can.

Treat a guy well and he’s not going to go anywhere.

In Why He Disappeared, I outline some of the most common ways that women unintentionally sabotage their own relationships.

Once you learn how some of your thought patterns and behaviors can accidentally alienate men, you can make slight adjustments which will create long-term connections.

If you’re like me, you get along with most people. You don’t necessarily want everyone to be your best friend, but there aren’t many folks that truly rub you the wrong way.

When you look at the few people who do, you’ll probably notice a pattern.

The people that you can’t be yourself around are either:

Self-indulgent, narcissistic, arrogant, and outwardly rude.

Or…

People who make you feel wrong.

Now, none of us like to think that we’re arrogant and rude.

But when it comes to relationships, we often find tiny ways to make our partners feel “wrong.”

Imagine you had a boyfriend who said things like:

“Why don’t you grow your hair longer?”

“Why do you always complain about your job?”

“How come you can never do anything spontaneously?”

“Maybe you should start working out more.”

“Why are you always talking to other men at parties?”

“How come you’re always hanging out with your annoying girlfriends?”

Yeah, guys can be really critical and blunt sometimes. I’m not going to defend their behavior for a half a second.

However, I’d like to point out that you probably do the same exact thing:

See, it’s easy to remember all the minor criticisms you’ve received.

It’s a lot harder to recall all of the digs you’ve taken at the men you’ve dated.

“Why can’t you put away your clothes in the hamper?”

“Would it kill you to make plans with me more than a day in advance?”

“Why didn’t you make a bigger deal about my birthday?”

“How come you’re always running 15 minutes late?”

“Why is watching football with your friends more important than seeing me?”

“Why do you always wear that ratty old shirt?”

See, it’s easy to remember all the minor criticisms you’ve received. It’s a lot harder to recall all of the digs you’ve taken at the men you’ve dated.

But you’ve done it. We all have.

Alas, nobody likes criticism – even if it’s valid.

Your observations may be correct, but your messaging needs a lot of work.

So if a guy told you to lose weight or stop seeing your friends, you’d probably get really angry with him. You’d have every right to, and I can see why you feel justified in your anger.

Because you want to be loved unconditionally. Because you want to be accepted for who you are. Because you don’t want to have to change for anyone.

Yet, somehow you still think it’s fair that your boyfriend should change for you.

It just doesn’t work that way.

True love is about accepting his flaws – not because he’s perfect – but because you want him to accept YOUR flaws as well.

By telling you to accept your man for who he is, I don’t mean that you should start putting up with unacceptable behavior. The man who cheats or lies or can’t communicate or commit is a man that should be LEFT, not changed.

But if you’ve got a decent guy who is flawed (as all of us are), it means offering him more positive reinforcement and less negative reinforcement.

What happens when a man says something nice to you – compliments you on your eyes, or your wit, or your triumph at work? It makes you feel all warm and fuzzy inside.

It works the same way for us.

Positive reinforcement makes a man feel great about himself AND about you.

On the other hand…

Negative reinforcement makes him feel bad about himself and about you.

Why? Because nobody wants to be told that he’s “wrong.”

I can only imagine how you feel about me because I’m telling you this!

Understand, being critical is a universal trait – not just a female one.

The great news is: by being a more supportive and accepting girlfriend, you actually bring a better side out in your man. That’s right.

Most men are used to women telling us what’s wrong with us. When we find someone who accentuates the positive and ignores the negative, we feel like a million bucks.

Want to be treated like a princess? Start treating your men like kings.

My wife is gifted at this.

She has set the bar so high, that I have no choice but to jump it.

It’s hard not to give when you receive as much as I do.

In that way, HER generosity has made ME a better husband.

YOUR generosity will do the same.

You can literally TRANSFORM men just by treating them with more kindness and respect.

This concept works on dates, in business, with family.

Want to be treated like a princess? Start treating your men like kings.

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    GL

    I think you can do nice things and be generous and kind, but maybe it’s looking at what you receive in return. My mother, for example, is a very generous woman, but my Dad is very selfish. I remember watching them both get out of the car with bags of stuff and my Dad wouldn’t even help. He was oblivious! I’d even watch her trip and stumble and my Dad would roll his eyes and not ask if she was OK. Selfish man. Now, this guy I’ve started seeing, I have done nice things for. He likes orange soda so I got him one when he didn’t expect it, little things like that…Well went to the grocery store with me. I didn’t expect anything, but he was so awesome! He offered to pack up the groceries, then he carried them for me to the house. Yeah he doesn’t buy me things, but how awesome I didn’t have to carry groceries! I think you can receive but not get it in the way you expect? Yin and yang, push and pull…

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