It was a last-ditch effort. After being divorced for 15 years, dating probably 8 men over that time, I decided that I’d make one more investment of time, money and emotional energy. Men don’t flock to me, so it was really a last attempt to see if I could find the right guy. I’d heard you on Katherine Woodward Thomas’ webinar and really liked what you had to say despite the fact that I’m almost old enough to be your mother!
I learned from you something revelatory: men want to make women happy – the right men, the good men. Sometimes they don’t know how to do that, but my boyfriend really wants to make me happy. When it doesn’t happen, it’s only because he doesn’t know how. You also showed me that what I was looking for was not the right relationship for me. I am the CEO of my own life; I don’t need to be in a relationship with another CEO.
Since working with you, I am happy, content, less anxious, more compassionate, more understanding, more patient, loving. My sense of humor has returned.
We are now co-habiting and celebrating two years since we first met. He disconnected after we’d been dating about 8 weeks and I told him that this was not working, but he called again after 3 weeks and asked if we could try again. So, the debate over dinner last night was — is our 5-year anniversary in January or March? I think it’s January; he thinks it’s March. The compromise is that we’re celebrating both. Thank you, dear friend.