I’ve had a long history of staying in relationships well beyond their best before date.

I was working from the belief that men didn’t really know their own minds and if our attraction was strong enough and I was attractive enough, sexy enough, whatever enough, there was a chance they’d change their mind.

The most important lesson was to pay attention to how a guy behaves. Yes, the words are nice, but he’ll behave his way to my heart, or he won’t, and that’s all that counts.

This may not be a big deal for others, but for me it was huge. I was able to walk away from a relationship that was going nowhere after 10 months. Previously I’d hung in from anywhere from three to 11 years.

Ten months was a major victory for me. It was still too long, and I really knew about four months in, but I did it! And I’m so glad I did. I know what to look for next time and I’m confident I won’t be wasting time on fantasy relationships.