I signed up for Match.com but found little success and honestly logged in very little. I decided to get a little more serious and had been reading your blog and receiving your newsletter for a couple of months already. I was overjoyed when you offered Finding the One Online at a bargain price and purchased it right away. I listened, laughed, considered, and (honestly) did very little with your advice. I thought my essay was already pretty good and made some minor revisions, but not much. The one thing I postponed was an appointment to take new photos. I did not follow your advice to take down my profile and just let it sit there.
Surprisingly, around Thanksgiving a man wrote me an email. He did not fit my “type,” but I found his essay to be intriguing. I heard your voice in the back of my head tell me to take a chance with a man that is outside my usual “type.” I decided to write him back using your advice on writing emails. I commented on something he wrote in his essay with humor and asked a couple of random and fun questions. Wouldn’t you know…it worked! He wrote me back almost immediately.
The other rule I followed was your 2-2-2 suggestion. Huh – that worked too! He wrote me on Match then offered his personal email. We communicated via email a couple of times then he offered his phone number to me. I told him that was sweet but “girls don’t call boys” and offered him my number. He called right on time on the date arranged. We spoke on the phone twice and I knew we would get along and agreed to see him.
So back to the fact that he wasn’t my “type.” Turns out – he’s the sweetest, kindest, most generous man I’ve ever dated. I was immediately attracted to him as a person. Our first date lasted almost 6 hours! My history has been, of course, dating men that display opposite behaviors. I noticed a definite physical attraction after the second date. We have so much fun together and he makes me laugh. He has even taught me how to snowboard. He’s into me!
Seriously…everything you described would happen, happened! He emailed me, he called me, he asked for a date, he called back, he contacts me every day, he took down his profile first, he stopped dating the other women he was dating and asked me to “date exclusively” because he wants to focus on getting to know me better.
All I did was say yes. And now we’re married!
So, while I didn’t have the opportunity to rebrand my profile, I did want to share with you how powerful your advice has been for me. I have truly enjoyed dating and have found a great man. Turns out my “type” is someone who is genuine, honest, loving, and cares about me. For that – I thank you.