When I started following Evan and applying his suggestions, I had been divorced for 8 years and had only had one serious relationship that ended 5 years ago in that time. I’ve raised my son to tweendom, improved my health, built a six-figure business and seen both my mom and my best friend through cancer and their subsequent passings. I felt that romantic relationships were hard work and draining; that I didn’t have the time or energy to devote to a man. I didn’t have much respect or appreciation for men nor did I feel that I needed one.
I needed to figure out why I was getting plenty of first and second dates, but no boyfriend. I later learned it was because I wasn’t being soft, fun, receptive and open. I also needed to learn why I was attracting the wrong men (and later learned that I was actually accepting the wrong men).
I learned that men want to be appreciated, respected and listened to. Most of them love physical touch and affection. That you can’t do the wrong thing with the right man. I also learned how to have fun, what a first date is for, how to date multiple people until one stands out by his actions, and how to leverage the sexclusivity conversation.
Today I am dating the man I expect to spend the rest of my life with. We are both self-employed and work from home, so we spend plenty of quality time together and take one day off per week for a day date. We make love daily (best sex of my life), he brings me coffee in the morning, does the dishes after I cook for him and we are planning on moving in together soon. I feel that I can truly be myself with him and that we can talk about anything. He adores me and has so much patience with me. He has let me know exactly where I stand and how he feels about me since Date 1 and he tells me every day how lucky he feels to be with me.
I feel like I finally ‘get it’. I was discouraged by the fact that everyone would tell me I am a great catch and then ask why I am single. There are wonderful, amazing, committed and kind men out there and I just needed one and I found my ‘one’. It feels amazing knowing that I no longer have to look, date, or decide anymore (other than continuing to date my man). He makes me feel cherished every day and tells me how happy he is. He loves to make ME happy. That’s what makes him happy. I feel the same.
I tell every single woman to follow you, Evan. I mention your blog at least once a week to someone. Women need you!