We’ve never met or chatted but thank you. Today I am the happiest girl alive and you are a huge part of the reason why!
After just over two years of dating, I got engaged two days ago at Christmas dinner with my now-fiance’s family. A few years ago, this incredible moment felt like an impossibility. I’ll skip the sob stories but after years of not knowing how to date and feeling like I could write the book on how to drive men away, your blog, programs and books helped me remake myself into a calm, attractive and highly marry-able lady! I want to give back to you somehow for all the help you’ve given me by telling you what most helped me, in the hopes that this will inspire you to invest in Evan’s programs. I know there are lots of women like me out there searching and searching for the help they need dating and I want to pay it forward
I really want to emphasize that while other coaches I’d read talk about abstract concepts or give advice that only helps during the early days of dating, your wealth of practical examples and advice along with your uncanny ability to address all stages of relationship have been incomparably helpful for me. It may sound weird but I truly felt like I was getting help from a loving older brother (and his wife too!). Even your tough advice is delivered in a straightforward way that’s easy to understand and hard to challenge — great for a smart girl who’s maybe a little too smart at times
The most helpful tool for me was the 30 Date Challenge in Believe in Love. By then I’d quit being a victim and was starting to learn how to be a good dater, and this challenge solidified me in the critical art of choosing from the men choosing me. I can’t underscore enough how much learning to say yes to men I didn’t feel that instant spark changed my life. Without it, I never would have said yes to a first date with my fiance! That feels so weird to say NOW but back then, I had a checklist and all sorts of requirements for men and he might not have made the cut. And he is a wonderful, attractive, successful man! You taught me how to guide myself by the feelings I wanted rather than the checklist. How foolish I would have been without your help! He was number 12 in that challenge. I hope you don’t mind, but I’ve decided not to finish the challenge!! 😝
Believe in Love helped me SO MUCH. So so much! After a confidence-shattering spiral of worse and worse non-relationships, this book convinced me that I am worthy of love. I went from feeling hopeless to feeling like love was only a matter of time. What could be more powerful than that?
Through your programs, I learned how to invest in myself and that is a lesson that keeps paying off as my relationship deepens. I still read your blog every few months to refresh myself on the basics and add continual depth to my knowledge. Your guidance has helped in every step of my relationship from first date to engagement ring, and I know it will help me for the rest of my life.
So, even though we have never met or talked directly, thank you Evan. Thank you for being you, and sharing who you are through your work. I really don’t know how I would have ever learned what I needed (and need) to learn without you. I appreciate you more than words can say.