Before I began FOCUS Coaching, I was feeling very alone in the dating process. I knew what I was doing wasn’t working. I was treating going on dates as if it were a business meeting and thought men should like me just because I am this strong, powerful, and successful woman. On some level, I knew that I lacked being feminine, intimate, sexy, and easy-going. I was under the wrong impression thinking those qualities made me look weak. Boy, was I wrong!!
I wanted to understand how other women were getting all the online dates and I was not. I wanted to understand how I could be different in my online profile, and with initial phone conversations. I wondered what 40+ year old men thought about and who better to hear it from but a male dating coach!
From Evan, I learned not to have an agenda Evan and it was the best coaching ever. I feel like when I go with the flow and stop trying to control any given situation, things fall into place. And it’s so exhilarating!
I chose to be cherished and allowed myself to know that I was worthy of love. I changed my thinking and behaviors towards men and began to realize they were just as scared sometimes as I was on the initial date. Then it happened! When I least expected it.
I met my boyfriend of 7 months today. Each day I get to know more and more about myself and learn who I need to be in this relationship. I knew that he was an awesome man through his actions. I was never left guessing or needing information. He was expressive in his communication and let me know he liked me as soon as the first date was over.
I felt amazing. When I let go of my old beliefs about who I thought I was and or how I thought I was being perceived, life changed for me. It was not only the different, risky and uncomfortable actions that I took but the person I embraced and knew myself to be; a beautiful, sensual, tender loving woman.