It’s easy to become negative after years of disappointing relationships and awful spells of intense online dating. So it’s not that you’re “wrong” for feeling your feelings; it’s that it’s ineffective in helping you connect with men and get lasting love.

In this Love U Podcast, we explore the five ways your negativity shines through on first dates, as well as five ways that women might feel more negative about dating than men. It would sound like it’s a negative podcast, but, really, it’s a call to optimism, ending in a beautiful love story that can one day be yours. Stick around.

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