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dating coach for smart, strong, successful women Evan Marc Katz
It would be tempting to say, “because they can”, wouldn’t it?

Really, it doesn’t seem to be that complex. As noted in a Time Magazine article, modern-day men of power – Donald Trump, Bill Clinton, Eliot Spitzer, John Edwards, JFK, FDR, Arnold Schwarzenegger and Dominique Strauss-Kahn – are noted for their serial wives and philandering. No need to get started on the rock stars and athletes who fit the same profile. What do these people have in common?

Three obvious things: Power, money and opportunity, which means access to women and considerable travel.

Cheaters not only think they won’t get caught, they think they’re above the law.

What the Time article also notes is something I hadn’t considered before, the point in life at which unusual privilege was first conferred.

“Members of royal families are born into a world of indulgence and entitlement, and the princelings who grow up that way may never have to develop the emotional musculature that will allow them to show self-restraint. Athletes often start life at the opposite end of the wealth and prestige spectrum, but as soon as they exhibit an unusual talent for swinging a bat or sinking a free-throw they may find that the rules have been suspended for them. They are waved through school and into the pros, and incidents of bad behavior are overlooked or covered up. Any skills they may have been developing for self-control or self-denial quickly wither.”

In other words, if you didn’t “make it” until you’re 40, you’re more likely to have built up some measure of restraint and humility that prevent you from infidelity. The common thread among the rich and famous is that they’re so used to having whatever they want whenever they want – they’re so not used to hearing the word no – that they actually forget or ignore that normal rules are supposed to apply to them.

As I’ve written before, Tiger Woods didn’t take the time to make a pros/cons list before cheating. If he had, he never would have done it.

Pros: Fucking a waitress in a Denny’s parking lot. Very hot!

Cons: Losing my wife and kids, losing all my endorsements, losing a few hundred million in a public and messy divorce, losing the respect of the world, losing my golf mojo and confidence, possibly forever.

Cheaters not only think they won’t get caught, they think they’re above the law.

What’s sad is that, unlike Tiger Woods, they rarely face great consequences for their behaviors. Their wives take them back and other women continue to want them despite their considerable narcissism and character defects. Way to teach ’em a lesson, girls!

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