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I don’t speak for all men. But I try to speak for the most desirable ones: smart, successful, confident, driven, honest, experienced, sensitive, and marriage-oriented. If you want to be in a relationship with a man like that, please read every single post below to get a better sense of how we think. Knowledge is power.
In the never-ending gender wars that take place in the media (and on blogs), I think it’s important to continue to gather more information and listen to different voices. As a reader, your perspective is largely limited by your own gender and experience.
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If it ever sounds like I’m beating the same drum over and over, that’s because every year it seems there is new research that validates conclusions drawn by this blog over the years.
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So, I was dating a guy for two months and things were going pretty great in my opinion! However, he started to do the slow fade after spending the night (no sex). I recognized what this was early on, and just let it be!
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FiveThirtyEight and WNYC partnered with SurveyMonkey for a nationwide survey of 1,615 adults who identify as men. We asked respondents to reflect on their ideas of masculinity, workplace culture and intimacy, among other things.
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Bret Weinstein (@BretWeinstein) and Heather Heying (HeatherEHeying) are husband and wife evolutionary biologists and former professors at Evergreen State College. He was fired from his position for having the temerity to question the…
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“Among other attempts at self-healing, I have tried: casual sex, dating apps, uppers, downers, day drinking, and sobriety. I also tried somatic healing, boxing, Buddhist meditation, Ayahuasca and finally, because…
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My fiance and I have been together for three years. About 2 years ago, I quit my job to work with my fiance and his business. Things were decent,…
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Thursday posts are always links to other articles and while I tend to lean on first-person stories or scientific reports written up in mainstream publications, every once in awhile, I’ll…
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I read your article about why men look at other women and tried to get my head around it. I understand the whole cavemen instinct, but what I don’t understand…
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Every so often, I receive an application from a woman who wants private coaching who is torn: invest into finding lasting love or freeze her eggs to potentially have children.…
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You provide a reality check and remind me that everyone has doubts and there is no one "normal" response to love and commitment. I think your insight and perspective is incredibly accurate - you seem to understand the plight/perspective of the working, successful urban woman over 30.
The result of giving up the search for “why” is losing the worry, the wringing of the hands, the wondering if he will call, and all the stress and sadness that goes with the worry.
He makes me feel special, goes out of his way for me, doesn't keep me guessing about whether I'll hear from him, gives me his full attention.
Here's the deal. I read your blog - I devour your newsletters. I've learned so much about men (and myself) through the process.
I learned from you something revelatory: men want to make women happy. Sometimes they don’t know how to do that, but my boyfriend really wants to make me happy…
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