I’m always wary about sharing articles and videos, lest you think that my sharing it is a 100% endorsement of the ideas within them.
When I share something, there’s always a seed of an idea worth discussing. Which brings me to today’s video courtesy of New York Magazine, on a concept known as sexual misperception.
The point is that people shouldn’t take anything in dating too personally.
This is the very observable phenomenon in which men overestimate women’s interest in them. 90% of women have experienced a man who mistakes basic politeness for sexual signals. Yet studies show that this isn’t just a result of American frat-boy culture. In fact, people all over the world deal with the exact same misperception.
Like most things we discuss here on this blog, I find it more important to observe it and understand it than to judge it. As a woman, you may not like every guy who hits on you, but that doesn’t mean you should stop being polite. As a man, you may overestimate how many women are open to your advances, but that doesn’t mean you should be afraid to make a first move. The point is that people shouldn’t take anything in dating too personally. Don’t take it personally that a guy asks you out when you were just being nice. Don’t take it personally when she rejects you for asking her out.
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