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Saw this video on a friend’s Facebook page and wanted to share it with you.

It made me think two things:

1) While we can quibble with the messenger, the message is pretty spot on. Much of it – apart from the appearance stuff – can be read in Why He Disappeared, in fact.

2) I should start making YouTube videos that get 100,000 hits.

What do you think of this guy’s “rules” and are there any with which you disagree?

(By the way, comments that list the equivalent rules for men and what’s wrong with men will be summarily deleted. That’s not the point of this post. —The Management)

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1
Fawn

In one word, fantastic – and very entertaining! I am totally on board. Thanks for sharing, Evan!

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Maeve

I think he could have summarized most of it as “do unto others as you would have others do unto you,” but if it pays his bills, more power to him.
Sole quibble with #7: shaving isn’t hygeine, and this is far from a universal preference among men, though pop culture certainly wouldn’t have anyone believe so.

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MsV

I’m not much of a commenter on blogs, but I’m a avid reader of your blog. The rule that had me looking at the woman in the mirror is number 2. The more I think about it I rarely compliment the men in my life, be it guys I’m dating or just friends However, I regularly compliment female friends. I guess I always assumed women need to hear compliments more than guys.
Note to self…

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Steve

While we can quibble with the messenger

I thought the delivery was great.   All of that laughing emptied my lungs out.

I should start making YouTube videos that get 100,000 hits.

Correction 100,001 hits.   I had to vote that video up.     Funny and full of useful information.   Great choice EMK!

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starthrower68

The delivery of the message was colorful.

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Foolingmyself

LMAO! THAT WAS GREAT!!!

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Matilda

He is great!!! I laughed a lot! Funny reminder of some basics. “Ladies, Keep yourself fresh and brush your teeth!! LOL!!! Same piece of advice for men…guys you tend to sweat a bit more than girls.. Keep a deo with you. 😉

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Rene

Thanks Evan! He was awesome, honest, blunt, and very entertaining!! I love it!

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9
Lea

I like it.
I agree with everything he said and the way he said it. Funny but honest.

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10
Susan

Interesting but wouldn’t be necessary if guys followed half of this advice themselves!

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Jane

I don’t care— I thought this vid was fabulous! I love straight talk for one. And, I think the dude was right on. I didn’t agree with everything like @Maeve regarding shaving but overall props to this man!

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Tina Carlson

Can’t he say a complete sentence without foul swear words?

I can’t hear the message over the delivery system! If I hear anyone, male or female, talking like this I walk away and write them off.

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mslove

This is a PERFECT video. And yes, you should do youtube videos.

Thanks for posting this!

maria

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The InBetweener

@ Tina Carlson #12

He probably could, but then he probably wouldn’t have as many ‘you-tube hits’. It seems to be effective for him (not to mention humorous). 🙂

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JB

@Maeve and Jane…You’re right he doesn’t speak for ALL men.I hate shaving,waxing etc… as do a lot of my friends.We love au naturel as long as it’s clean.You can do the armpits though…lol

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Julianne

so funny! … but what does….”don’t pop up” mean??!

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Venus

LOL! That was a little too colourful but very funny!

I accept most of his points but was wondering about the one where he said that women talk too much. I don’t think its asking too much to for a guy to engage in some conversation with his partner. Or is he perhaps saying that women complain too much. Now that’s a different matter.

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Margo

Overall I agreed with the video. There was one rule that I agrreed with in spirit, but I won’t be doing anything sexually that I find distasteful. I think it’s every person’s right to say no to something that makes them feel uncomfortable.

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Bridget

I wish I would have seen this sooner. What a pep talk, now I feel really sorry for not have complimented my man more, and it may be too late now.

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Margo

Julianne, “don’t pop up” means don’t show up at a guy’s house unexpectantly.

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