How to Up Your Game At Parties

young people having fun at party


I do a lot of online dating stuff because it’s hard to create a social life from scratch when you’re 35-60, work in a small office, and most of your friends are married.

But that doesn’t mean I don’t see the great importance of real-life interactions.

My Love U course has an entire week on Meeting Men and another week on Flirting. And yet, I’m always on the lookout for other resources that can help you up your game.

As per usual, my favorite resource, The New York Times, lives up to its billing as “All The News That’s Fit To Print,” with this handy-dandy guide to being better at parties.  

I’m not going to attempt to do it justice but encourage you to click on it and consider how many tiny ways there are to improve your social skills, with just a little bit of planning and forethought.

Where are you headed when you walk into the room?

What’s your goal for the evening?

Do you have anything interesting going on in your life right now to discuss?

Are you a hugger or a handshaker?

Party skills are dating skills, people. Learn them and thank me later.

Do you naturally smile or do you have to remember to do so?

Are you naturally inquisitive and do you ask interesting questions?

Do you hold eye contact and make people feel important?

Party skills are dating skills, people. Learn them and thank me later.

Your thoughts, below, on the linked article, are greatly appreciated

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    No Name To Give

    I’m too much of an introvert for parties. I need alone time to recharge.

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      I’m guessing you didn’t read the linked article? It address being an introvert and learning how to manage your energy at a party.

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    I thought the article covered a lot of what I’ve learned and tried to apply over the years. One thing new I picked up was to go with a goal in mind. I like that idea because it takes the pressure off. In a world where I’m looking for a partner, my goal might be to “successfully” flirt with three available men. In my case, success means that I don’t look away as soon as a good looking guy looks at me (conquering my poor self worth); it doesn’t necessarily mean that I give him my number or that I even have a good conversation with him.

    For the socially awkward among us, another piece of advice I heard was, “Look for someone else who looks as uncomfortable as you feel (and there ALWAYS is someone). That’s who you go talk with.”

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    Hey all:  Ahh.. what the Hel-? Okay — I tried the meetup,com groups.. the happy Hours or mixers.. Good Grief- for singles.. I had to go alone.. and didnt know anyone. So a lot of them- brought a pal to drink with- I reallhydont have anyone to ask. THIS IS SUPPOSED TO BE A GROUP TO MEET NEW PEOPLE-?

    ugh-! THEN they all bring a friend- I am 50 and single- Yes I know how to mingle- or I used to be able to handle this- I sat there and bought my own drink- then had to ease drop and interject into others convertsations- YUCK>

    I used to Bartend- and entertain- and had a lot fun- does anyone have any thing to say about this? I live in Boulder- all healthy- seems all upper class and snotty- I dont have anyone to take- I tried and tried to make female friends to the point of being bothersome- the women my age-? what- if they are single no they dont want to go to the bar- happy hour. Once in while I can ask a male friend- and then its stupid- if he will want then to talk to other females at the bar-

    WHAT WOULD YOU DO?  lIKE THE REST OF THE WOMAN- IN THE WORLD- IT WAS SO MUCH EASIER WHEN WE WERE YOUNGER- and of course – the online – crap is that at 50- the 40 year males want to date except I dont know if I want to date someone so much younger- Or else super old- fat double chin- beard- bald- and fat.

    thanks for letting me vent a bit.!

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