There have never been more ways to meet people – online dating sites, dating apps, social media, Meetups, and the old standards of school, work, church, bars, and parties.
Yet it’s never felt harder to meet someone you want to marry.
At least that’s what I hear from the smart, strong, successful women who make up my client base. They’re not exaggerating. There are 1/3 fewer college educated men compared to college educated women these days. And if you are snobby about your partner having a similar caliber education – as I was, once upon a time – it is increasingly hard to find other people from elite schools out in the “real world.”
From the low end (Tinder Select) to the high end (Raya, for celebrities in the “creative industries”), lots of people want to be in an exclusive club. It makes sense. It’s just really hard to pull off effectively.
As a consultant for the online dating industry, creating something both popular and exclusive is sort of the holy grail – one that no one has ever achieved.
There have never been more ways to meet people – yet it’s never felt harder to meet someone you want to marry.
A big, mainstream dating site like Match, OkCupid or PlentyOfFish will have millions of profiles, no exclusivity and low costs.
An expensive matchmaker will cost $20-$60K for 10 dates, but their pool of people will be incredibly small.
Cheaper matchmakers (read: most of them) usually won’t be as “exclusive.”
So what is a smart, strong, successful woman with a six-figure-income, Ivy League degree, and a ticking clock to do?
My best guess is to hire a dating coach, but then, I might be a little bit biased.
Your thoughts, on elite dating sites and the like, are greatly appreciated.