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My Boyfriend of 5 Years Hasn’t Proposed to Me Yet. What Should I Do?

I’m 42 years old and my boyfriend is almost 48. He was married once before and has two young adult children. We’ve been together for five years. Three years in, I asked about marriage and he told me he wasn’t ready. I was ready to break up with him until he gave me a sweet promise ring and swore that he really does want to marry me, but he just wasn’t ready and needed more time.

Why Short-Term Pessimism and Long-Term Optimism Is The Only Way to Date

You may have heard me talk about short-term pessimism and long-term optimism. I mention it in my Believe in Love program and I firmly believe it’s the only way to date.…

Should I Get More Sexual Experience to Be More Like My Boyfriend?

I am 31 and in an early, but exclusive (5 month) relationship with a wonderful man. He’s 33, good looking, tall, he’s very considerate, generous, loves dogs, gets on with my mother, tick, tick, tick. We have a very, very good sex life too. He’s just the best. There is one thing that I find bothers me.

Before I Get Married, A Shout-Out to All the Men I’ve Loved Before

For some people, life is just a series of dogs. For me, life has been a series of romantic relationships. Maggie Parker would seem to feel the same way. In her New York Times Modern Love column, she pens an ode to all of her exes after she finally got engaged.

I Caught My Boyfriend Looking at Porn on His Phone. Is This a Red Flag?

Very recently, my boyfriend and I were looking at Instagram together on his phone, and when he opened up his photo gallery, I spotted a picture of a woman wearing a bra. I was immediately unnerved and I asked if he could show me that photo again. He acted oddly and said he didn’t want to share the photo and how I’d be infringing on his privacy.

Women Teach Men – It’s About Time!

I think this article by Rose Surnow is…interesting. “Women Teach Men, an $895 July wellness retreat features talks, lectures and workshops taught by accomplished female experts. The speakers ranged from well-known media personalities like Perel to lesser-known gurus like “body poetess” Mari Sierra.

Why Would a Man Dump the “Woman of His Dreams”?

I just read your post on emotionally unavailable men. Mine is a weird story but I’m thinking now that my guy falls into this category. He broke up with me over text, first of all. We’re both in our later years so this, in my opinion, is very rude at any age.

The Best Way to Stop Your Relationship From Getting Stale

“Absence makes the heart grow fonder.” It’s a cliche for a reason. We take for granted the things and people we see every day and we deeply crave what most of us cannot have regularly: a new car, an amazing massage, a fancy vacation.

What Do I Say to a Guy on the Phone If I Don’t Want to Go Out With Him?

Hi Evan, I follow your 2-2-2 rule, which is great, but I’ve had a couple of awkward moments and need your advice: during the screening phone call, if it’s not going well and I decide I don’t want to meet in person, how do I tell the guy without hurting his feelings??