Invasion Of The Sperm Snatchers

Several online articles have appeared recently regarding “sperm snatching,” including this one on Big Think. It cites a column in the Daily Mail by Liz Jones as well as another post on Big Think about sperm for sale. The author tackles the concept of Dynamic (or Time) Inconsistency as it relates to rising number on deceptive pregnancies: it is the economic concept that preferences can change over time. What may seem like the optimal choice in period one (not wanting the father’s money or support during pregnancy, for example) is not necessarily the optimal choice in period two (after the baby is born).

According to the Daily Mail article, a 2001 survey showed that 42% of women would lie about their contraceptive use if they wanted to get pregnant and their partner did not. Author Jones describes how, over the course of two relationships, she snuck into the bathroom in the middle of the night in order to inseminate herself using sperm rescued from condoms, despite the fact that both men had made their unwillingness to become fathers very, very clear to her. She tried to sperm snatch, but was unsuccessful.

In Big Think’s related article E-Sperm For Sale: Man Not Included, writer Pamela Haag discusses the sperm trade, and how children are “the new spouses,” the emotional and romantic anchors of many a modern family, NOT men. She ultimately advocates for effective male contraception since sperm snatching is becoming more rampant.

I’m disgusted by this concept of sperm snatching, but hey, I’m not a woman trying to get pregnant. Would love to hear your reactions below.

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  1. 1
    Lisa

    I read this article recently and am also disgusted.  The author tries to act like this is something women routinely do-steal sperm.  That’s her own craziness- most women are not this deluded and self-entitled.  I’m so glad her plan didn’t work.  I can only imagine the poor child who would have to live with such a selfish woman.  No sympathy here.

  2. 2
    Suheil

    I believe it’s completely unethical and selfish to do such a thing.  42%… really? Have women gone mad?… what happened to respecting other people’s choice not to want to have children with you? I think these people are crazy

  3. 3
    Antonia

    Honestly, I think about this phenom all of the time. Nearly all of my friends, have had children due to some sort of “accident.” These friends, most of whom ended up married, are all young professionals. At 32 years old, I have NEVER once had a pregnancy scare, which had led me to wonder how so many women get “accidentally” pregnant and then married.

    However, “forgetting” to take the pill and failing to mention it to one’s partner is a whole different ball park than siphoning sperm from a used condom. Stealing sperm is fraudulent and horribly unfair to the father and the potential child. Seriously, go to the sperm bank.

    I do think that concsiously getting “accidentally” pregnant is deceptive and generally unfair. However, I think it has increasingly become a method for how my generation starts families. I am not advocating it nor am I condeming it. It’s just that our culture’s emphasis on careers and indepedence, coupled with increasing school debt and the stagnant economy, has left many of us in a position where we don’t have the time or resources to have a child. On top of that, the divorce rate scares a lot of us and makes us apprehensive to get married or at least apprehensive to have children once we do get married…
    Considering all of these factors, it often does seem like getting “accidentally” pregnant is the only way that many people would have ever settled down and started a family.

    to the father and to the potential child.

  4. 4
    Tina

    Obviously these woman are mentally ill and also have no concept how hard it really is to raise a child married or alone. Men better start flushing their used condoms fast.

    1. 4.1
      VictimOfSoullessGreedyWhore

      Raising a healthy & happy child isn’t the goal. It’s about obtaining resources without earning resources (through welfare, child-support and alimony.) Through deceitful manipulation (i.e. whimsical divorces/deliberate “accidents”/lying about paternal identity) and the threat/initiation of force (i.e. government guns/garnished wages/imprisonment). They could care less about the well-being of their children, it’s their own damn self-interest that is the #1 priority!

      And this is how MOST single mothers are, sure, some are widowed, but most are shamelessly evil. They have kids to enslave a man for the next 20 years. Society will call them brave, righteous and strong for all the suffering they cause.

  5. 5
    Tanya

    42% of women?! That is shockingly high. I think “sperm snatching” is despicable. 

  6. 6
    Erinlee

    This is sick.  Even if the woman says she ‘doesn’t want his help’, and could afford the child on her own, the child isn’t ONLY HERS.  Maybe that man wants to be a part of his children’s life and isn’t ready to committ the time required to have them right now.  Maybe he wants his children to all be from the same mother and one that HE chooses.  Now, he’ll be forced to pay for and make time for a child that he will surely love, but he will have been forced into it.  This is not a way to treat anyone, and any woman who would do this to a man DOES NOT deserve children, or a good man!!!  This woman obviously can’t make responsible decisions as an adult, especially ones that affect other’s lives just as much as her own.  Any man in his right mind would not choose this woman to be the mother of his children or his wife, I’m sure this lacking in moral character would shine thru in other areas of her life, which would be noticeable to anyone considering her as a long term partner.  Good riddance . . .

  7. 7
    ValleyForgeLady

    I really question the 42% figure.  However, sperm catching is stupid and unethical.  But then so is having sport sex….something that too many men feel entitled to have.

    If more men and women kept sex in the boundaries of monogamous exclusive relationships much of this and other problems including STDs and unwanted pregnancies would not occur.

    There are more men tricking women into sex than women  tricking men into fatherhood!      

    1. 7.1
      carl

      What..? Men are not jumping into bed with nearly as many Women especially for sex? Check around your facts, theres not many guys willing to associate withfemales much less fornicate?

  8. 8
    Deannie

    Ewwww! And yes, women who would do this are mentally disturbed. I have observed the aftermath first hand and the child is forever scarred.

  9. 9
    JoAnn

    I find it hard to believe that number of 42%.  A figure of, maybe, 2 percent sounds possibly credible.  This comes across as just one more media fed fear tactic, i.e., only the crazy makes the news. 

    1. 9.1
      carl

      Id say its higher, Women will go to any extent for what they think they want!

  10. 10
    Anne

    The woman considering this morally bankrupt form of deception might want to take a leaf out of Evan’s book, and before acting, seriously consider how, if this could be done to women, how they would feel were it done to them.  I suspect these women have a negative image of men in general as conscienceless and incapable of love, the logic following that a conscienceless man won’t mind how many children he has, so long as he doesn’t have to care for them….  If my guess is correct, and that is their belief system, they’ll see nothing wrong with stealing a man’s child.  But, wait…. if they honestly believed he wouldn’t mind, why not ask his permission….. 

  11. 11
    Shay

    Not hint on the sample size? And what is the demographics?

  12. 12
    KS

    Sounds like a sensationalist, one time story, that makes people think this is happening much more often than it really is.
    I just can’t see any woman planning this much to go through with this would not also take into account other inheritable qualities of the man.

  13. 13
    Rosie

    In a society where men are increasingly becoming commitment-phobic, and single women being told not to talk about their desire to start a family for fear of “scaring” a man away, these behaviors come as no surprise.

    Men want it all. The love and commitment of a beautiful intelligent woman, yet they are reluctant to give anything of real lasting value back. (I mean marriage and babies). Today’s dating situation is like the prostitution “girlfriend experience” but women are paying the price in the form of wasting their most fertile years (hope, love and self-esteem) on men that won’t commit.

    We are being told not to expect anything from a man: good looks, high salary, intelligence, height, athleticism, family-values… Even when we ourselves posess these qualities.

    When a tall, handsome, intelligent, athletic man comes along, even when commitment-phobic, I’m sure the temptation (for those women driven to desperation by the aforementioned factor) becomes overwhelming.

    Would I steal sperm? No, I couldn’t deal with the guilt of such an immoral act. When the time comes, I will buy sperm, as I can afford to support a family (and nannies) on my salary. However, would I refuse an abortion if I were to accidentally get pregnant? Absolutely not.

  14. 14
    Fleur

    I’ve been a sperm catcher. This is my side of the story.

    I am not “stealing” anyone’s baby. For god sake, it’s a few drips of cum that lands on my backside or wherever during sex! Once it’s on my body or in my mouth, it’s mine. A few drips of body fluid after you’ve worked for his orgasm is hardly a freaking baby!

    None of my children have been products of this potential method of fertilization, but if they had been, I’d hardly characterize them as “poor” children of an “entitled” mother. I LOVE my kids, am a pillar of motherly good character in my community, and my kids think I’m awesome. I’ve known friends who’ve had real “accidents” and then resent their accidents and complain about them and can’t wait until they grow up and can get rid of them. I’ve known incredibly entitled type A career women who literally don’t even have time for sex with their husbands and scheduled appointments with their expensive fertility doc to get pregnant when there was no good reason to do so other than it worked better in their schedule and they wanted to try to force a gender (something about spinning the sperm a certain way before insemination). How is it possible that the woman who simply wants a child but hasn’t the money or luck for a real accident is any less of a good mom than the others?

    Men these days are more commitment-phobic than ever. Many need a good push to get married and be a dad. There was a time when I was all idealistic in my 20s and thought I’d never manipulate a man to impregnate me or marry me. My friends tried to convince me otherwise, but it took a ton of bad relationships until I realized that trying to move things along didn’t make me an immoral terrible person. I was dealing with the cards I was dealt.

    Personally, I never sperm dove to hook in a man. I just wanted the baby in a no strings way, but I don’t judge the woman who is in love and wants to at least try for a family before she’s too old. Being a mom is the best thing in the world.

    I was the product of love at first sight, sex the first night, and a somewhat scandalous marital beginning. Did my mom manipulate my dad to get pregnant? Did my dad manipulate my virginal mom into having sex when she was super enamored and not ready? Who cares? It’s none of my or your business. They are still together 44 years later. If one gave the other a little nudge forward, I’m glad to be alive and happy for their happiness together. It’s not for me to judge. 
     

  15. 15
    Christina

    Yes, this is totally despicable and I also question the 42 percent figure. The Daily Mail is kind of known for shoddy “science” reporting. 

    That being said, I do wonder about the many women who have “accidents” and claim they were on birth control. At 42, I’ve been on the pill since 21 and never even had a scare. Ditto for my friends. Besides, the pill has super-high reliability, when used correctly. I realize there are some women who can’t take it, but in this day and age, there are numerous other good options.

    I also wonder about women who would willingly become single moms. It just seems so hard, and it’s usually not the best thing for the child, either. I guess for some women, the urge to have a baby is so strong they really can’t think straight. 

  16. 16
    Bets

    First of all, women who do this need a serious ass whipping, right down to the nervous hospital.  This is SICK.  Attention whores do NOT make good mothers.  Secondly, nothing scares me more than this type of woman, as I am a mother of 3 gorgeous boys who are doing quite well with their lives.  My (hopefully) saving grace is that I have pounded into them that yes, there are tons of deceptive woman out there dying to get you locked in for good, via babies.  BUT there are also great woman with good heads on their shoulders who know a good man when they see one and know how to keep them HONESTLY.  So far so good!  They are VERY particular in who they choose to date and, thankfully, don’t seem to be very slutty themselves.  🙂  Gentlemen, dispose of all your used condoms immediately!  

  17. 17
    Margo

    This is simple, Evan. The women who do this are obviously disturbed.

  18. 18
    Craig

    Very interesting subject and good post. It seems that so many women now think that a kid can fix a relationship which as a theory is in itself extremely flawed. This is certainly a topic that has guaged a good bit of interest as partners are not willing to look at themselves as the cause for the fault of the relationship.

  19. 19
    AQ

    It is sad for the kids. 

  20. 20
    Trouble

    I just don’t think there is any justification, AT ALL, for this behavior.  If you want a baby, and don’t have a baby daddy, get thee to a sperm bank and get artificially inseminated.  If you can’t afford to do that, you probably can’t afford a kid.  The lack of respect in this act horrifies me.

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