Why You Should ALWAYS Listen to Your Feelings: Join Me on Lovesplaining

You know my story: First male dating coach for women. Dated 300 women over 10 years. Learned from my many mistakes. Got happily married. Created Love U to show you how to get happily married, too.

But there’s another story you don’t know. It’s that unlike most dating coaches – a mixture of psychologists, influencers, and cute British guys – I was a writer, first and foremost.

I was a writer when I read my journal aloud in Mrs. Youngblood’s 9th-grade English class.

I was a writer when I was the comedy columnist at the Duke school newspaper.

I was a writer when I finished in the Top 3 in Matt Damon/Ben Affleck’s Project Greenlight.

I was a writer when I published my first book in 2004.

I was a writer when I wrote 1000 blog posts on dating and relationships.

Then I stopped writing.

I didn’t think much of it. I just knew that the world had shifted to podcasting and social media and I wasn’t going to get left behind.

So I started a podcast and hired a social media team to cut my videos into 1-minute reels you can find on Instagram, Facebook, YouTube, and TikTok.

It was successful. The Love U Podcast has been downloaded 2.5 million times. I’ve got a few hundred thousand followers on social media. I’m living the dream, happily married, raising two great kids, coaching ten hours a week, and helping women find lasting love.

Then why did I feel so empty at work over the past few years? For the life of me, I couldn’t figure it out.

Fast forward to Sunday, March 12, 2023, when I hadn’t slept in over 48 hours.

Now, I’ve dealt with anxiety before – usually correlated with career insecurity. Panic attacks when I didn’t know what I wanted to do after college. Depression when I gave up screenwriting in my late 20s. Now, here I was, 50, and panicking because the dream job I created had become less enjoyable with every passing year and I had no idea why.

My body was telling me something that my brain couldn’t ignore.

I’m guessing this is similar to what my smart, successful readers feel when they have the home, the career, the friends, the hobbies…yet feel something’s missing from their life.

For you, it may be a man who takes care of you every day and loves you unconditionally.

For me, it was writing. Not writing newsletters where I share client stories and encourage you to join Love U. Writing in my voice. Writing from the heart.

I quit writing because I thought I had to. Turns out I was wrong. I could start again. But if I did, I’d have to write about dating in a way that feels fresh and new.

Enter Lovesplaining

For the past few years, I’ve subscribed to a bunch of newsletters on Substack. These newsletters have become my go-to source for intelligent writing.

I love reading about sports, politics, culture, writing, comedy, and parenting – and can always count on getting incredible insights from writers I like, trust, and admire.

Yet when I checked out all the categories on Substack: technology, music, design, travel, education, fashion, literature, do you know what was glaringly missing?

You’ve got it: dating and relationships!

This is why, today, I’m taking the fire that’s been burning since I stopped blogging and I’m channeling it into a new Substack newsletter called Lovesplaining.

I invite you to join me.

Click here to read more about Lovesplaining and join the community.

Warmest wishes and much love,

Your friend,

Evan