Relationships Shouldn’t Feel Like Work
If yours does, it’s probably not a good relationship.
- Relationships
Chellie is 32 and has had a boyfriend for almost a year. The first 3 months were electric. But as time went on, her boyfriend became increasingly critical, selfish, and distant. They have great chemistry and have taken a few trips together, but he hasn’t said he loves her and never talks about their future. Chellie wants to know how to recapture the magic from the beginning of their relationship.
Faith is 41 and desperately wants biological children of her own. Her boyfriend of 7 years swears he loves her and also wants a family, but he lives in a different city and doesn’t have a sense of urgency about proposing. Faith is panicking about her fertility and wants to know what she can do to make her boyfriend step up to the plate.
Maddie is a 54-year-old, divorced, single mom who is insecure about relationships in general. Her boyfriend of 5 years is also divorced, admits he’s gunshy about commitment, and while he treats Maddie as his life partner, he’s mistrustful of the institution of marriage. Maddie wants to know how to improve her relationship so that he changes his mind.
You could say that these are sad stories – and you’d be right.
They’re also the most common stories I hear as a dating coach for women.
They beg the question: Why do women who have everything – looks, intelligence, success – accept relationships where they don’t feel secure?
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