Are Asians The “Most Desired” Racial Group In America?


Last week, we asked “Is Race Just A State of Mind In Online Dating?” This week, we find out how online dating would look if there “weren’t so many white people” inundating the market.

OKCupid analyzed 82 million messages sent by members of their free online dating site to form their conclusions, focusing on their four largest single-race groups: whites, asians, blacks, and latinos.

According to their data: “white people actually prefer themselves the least, but right now there’s just so many of them. It’s interesting to think what things would be like if the shoe was on the other foot; if another race outnumbered whites 19:1.”

Read the article here, and don’t forget to check out the interactive visualization charts. In your experiences, do you agree that race affects both quantity and quality of messages? Please share your comments below.

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  1. 41
    Jayden Fong

    As someone who has had an asian fetish, it is possible that being the most desired group is not a good thing.

  2. 42
    james block

    good conversation!

  3. 43

    whitemen.asiangirl is most desired race forsure

  4. 44

    How many hot white women do you see on dating sites? Good looking white women are the most desired and never have issues meeting men and finding partners and therefore what you’re left with on dating sites are average or ugly white women. Asian women on the other hand, even the hottest ones, have a far smaller dating pool to choose from in the real world. There’s a specific type of guy that is into an Asian chick. Usually nerdy tech white guys (who could never get a hot white woman) or other Asians. That’s why so many Asian woman are on dating sites. But give a white man a choice between a hot white girl or a hot Asian and 99% of men will choose white.

  5. 45

    I am African-American, I am a short guy(5.5). One reason I think Black Women are not prefer is body type. Media is always s shows romantic scenes, with Men picking up the women.   I have primarily dated plus women, I do not feel to be Black women 1st choice. I recently dated a West African women, and always felt we did not connect culturally,(though I am very knowledgeable of African History as a whole). The clash might have been education status.

  6. 46
    I love me

    EVERYONE LOVES A BLACK WOMAN IN SECRET OR NOT. ASIAN WOMEN HAVE BEEN STEREOTYPE HAS BEING submissive. And with so many men becoming metro men and sooo on of course that would look for a weaker woman.

  7. 47

    This is the least thought out “statistic” I’ve ever encountered. Has anyone stopped to consider the demographic of online daters? If a white male who fears rejection is sitting behind a computer screen (on a site like okcupid) looking for “love” (likely sex) he himself is of the least desired group, this would result in him seeking out the most likely mate. I would like to see the results from a more modern site with desirable younger men and compare the numbers.

  8. 48

    I think Asian women of the.continent Asia are beautiful on average and age way slower than White women, especially Filipino women and Thai and can have healthy children even in their early 40’s.

    Hapa/Hafu and Mulatto women ate exotic n beautiful on average!

  9. 49

    Asia, is a big continent. Is this a preference for the mongoloid Asians? or are South West Asians also inclusive?

    Chinese, Vietnamese and mongoloid Asian women have no figures, flat on both ends, unattractive faces. I don’t understand why a white man would choose a figureless/featureless Asian mongoloid over a curvy, caucasian woman with genetic diversity?

  10. 50

    Who cares?!?!? You’re attracted to who you’re attracted to, it’s pretty organic. I have an Asian girlfriend and honestly don’t care what anyone but she and I think about it 🙂

  11. 51

    Does Asian include Indian *(South Asian) and Bangladesh, since they are technically Asians?

  12. 52

    what about arabs?

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