Become the Woman that No Man Can Ever Leave

Become the Woman that No Man Can Ever Leave

I’m still buzzing from the email that I got from my former client, Michelle. And let me say, that Michelle is one of my favorite clients ever.

Always good-humored, always confident, always present — and, most importantly, always coachable, Michelle saw instant results in working with me.

She attracted a man who was different than her previous boyfriends — and that’s exactly what she needed. After all, Michelle will be the first to tell you that she’s a bit of a handful. And after dominating (and losing respect) for her last guy, she craved the attention of a man who was a little more alpha.

Men don’t stay with women who treat them as incomplete projects — they bond with women who make them feel good.

She got him — and she got all the problems that come with being with such a man.

She couldn’t tell him what to do.

She couldn’t make him say that he loved her fast enough.

She couldn’t ensure that he wanted to stick around for the future.

Although Mark treated her great, he was still very much a MAN. Early 50’s, successful, busy, a divorced father of a teenaged son, he felt very fortunate to have landed a 33-year-old stunner like Michelle.

All of the stories that Michelle told me reiterated how much he valued her, and at the time that she gave me this testimonial that’s on my Private Coaching page, she was in a great comfort zone with Mark.

He treated her well, he told her he loved her, he put up with her self-proclaimed “brattiness,” and he alluded to a future together.
But all relationships have their challenges, and Mark and Michelle were no different.

The elephant in the room for this couple was that Michelle very much wants to have kids, while Mark never really anticipated that he’d be a father again in his 50’s.

While I was coaching Michelle through the first four months of their relationship (and intermittently in between), I cautioned her to NOT put any pressure on him about getting married and having kids. While theoretically, she could be “wasting” her time with him, my advice was to let him fall in love with her.

If he did, she would have a lot more leverage when the baby talk came up, as opposed to trying to extract an answer out of him in the early stages of the relationship.

This worked like a charm. Because really, it was no secret that Michelle wanted to be a Mom, and since Mark was a man of integrity, he wanted to do right by his girlfriend. He agreed, last July, to be the future father of her children.

Then he changed his mind a few months later.

No matter how much he loved Michelle, Mark just couldn’t pull the trigger on a second round of fatherhood, and they tearfully parted ways.

True love will find you sooner rather than later – as long as you prioritize your love life.

I was sad for Michelle, but very proud at how she handled herself. Despite her high-maintenance tendencies, she became better at understanding Mark’s needs and point of view, and created the healthiest relationship that she’d ever had before.

Every time she wanted to criticize him for how he handled his relationship with his son, or his ex-wife, or his boss, she remembered that men don’t stay with women who treat them as incomplete projects — they bond with women who make them feel good.

Most importantly, from our work together, Michelle knew that her future husband wants to be a dad, and thus, she had no regrets about walking away when she did.

That was the last I’d heard from Michelle. Until today.

Turns out that her breakup only lasted for one week.

Mark loved Michelle.

Her playfulness, her sexiness, and yes, even her attitude and mood swings. After spending a year and a half together, Mark realized that he couldn’t imagine life without her. Which is as it should be.

And while I give Michelle credit for becoming the woman that no man can ever leave, Michelle actually gives ME credit. Here’s a snippet of her note to me:

I asked him why he had a change of heart and finally came to this conclusion.   He said because he’s in love with me.  

I can’t tell you what this has done for me in this relationship.   I feel so relieved and at ease with it all.  

Evan, you taught me to be playful, lighthearted, patient, kind and compassionate.  

You’re an AMAZING (THE BEST) dating coach!

Thank you.   ”¨



I love Michelle and I love this story.

A confident, successful, attractive woman in her mid-30s finds a masculine, confident man, wins him over with her feminine energy, and makes herself so indispensable to his life that he can’t imagine being without her.

I’m attending their wedding this summer in San Francisco and I couldn’t be more excited for the both of them.

Know that this is within your grasp and that true love will find you sooner rather than later – as long as you prioritize your love life like Michelle did.

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  1. 141

    Evan, I’m 29 and happily engaged with a child on the way. I doubt you can brand me a “hater” or jealous of Michelle in any way…

    Yet I have to say perhaps it is not rocket science that a 50+ man liked a 30 year-old woman, I don’t think she could have done much wrong to deter him per se, and if she had to use some specific tactics to hang on to that guy, it just makes me sad for how screwed over we still are as females in this society.

    Your defensive responses make me lose some respect for you, reading them it seems like you feel superior to your readers and don’t much value their input unless it is 100% positive and validated your ego…

    I think more self-awareness, humility and maturity would really make your attitude much more attractive to readers. Not sure if I’d be coming back here to be honest after seeing how you bully your commentators into submission.

    1. 141.1
      Evan Marc Katz

      Michelle is still happily married five years later. You are free to get your advice anywhere else on the Internet if you don’t like me. Happy holidays.

  2. 142
    Me me

    wow wow wow.   I have recently been dumped by a guy who I helped through his divorce (shoulder to cry on, been there for him in every way ) for him to tell me he wants a younger woman.   He’s 43 looks 33.   For a matter of fact he was looking before we split up.   Actually caught them in bed because he was to much of a coward to let me know and told me he had to have the overlap to help him get over me and give him the strength in time to walk away from me.

    At 46 I guess there is no hope for me.   I may as well just throw in the towel now   in the relationship departmwnt because what most men really want is a 30 year old.

    1. 142.1

      Recently the same happened to me (I’m your age) and I spent the rest of the summer getting picked up by guys age 21-34 and having fun fun fun.   Men in their 40s to late 50s are all obsessed with 30 year olds.   Ego! I’ve suspected this for some time.   Younger guys adore older women.   Too bad its taboo for us to marry younger men as women.   So I’m career focused and fun focused now.   Who has a real relationship these days anyway?   How can a 50 year old relate to a girl his daughters age? He’s masterbating his own ego.   That is not an intimate passionate relationship.   I feel sorry for these younger women marrying old men.   That must SUCK!   Viagra sex is not as good as the real thing!!!!

  3. 143
    The Whole Truth

    With so many women sleeping around these days then how in the world would they be able to commit to just only one guy?   I doubt that.

  4. 144

    So basically she settled because shes not getting kids

  5. 145
    Bernadina Uzoh

    That was great and convincing.I lost hope on men after all I went through in life with men.Showing then love and spoiled everyone I ever had relationship or children with,but all turned to be night mare and turn around wanting me back.

    If only I can find anyone like the one on this page,who will love and spoil me,I wouldn’t mind giving it a try and marring him and making sure he is the best man anyone who ever loved and make him happy and unbearable in all his affairs and business.

    Am 61lonely poor black women but blessed and beautiful all the way

    Thanks for your services helping amending broken 💓 all over in the name of the Almighty Father

    Remain blessed 💞👍

  6. 146

    I am 46 and was dating a 27 year old. Everyone around me was chastising me for falling for someone so much younger. Yet nobody blinks an eye when a man 20 years older than his girlfriend marries her. I find it so sad that women over 40+ are tossed aside like yesterday’s trash.

    1. 146.1


      FWIW, no disapproval here. I’m not about to tell anyone who they should love. That’s between the two people involved. If you love each other, go for it, age difference or not. By the way, one of the more respected long time male posters here is married to a woman 16 years older than he is. I’m dating a woman 24 years younger than I am. I don’t believe either of us (or you) are doing anything wrong.

  7. 147

    GROSS!!!   He is old enough to be her father.   And he is the one who wasn’t sure?   She’s going to end up being his nurse before she buries him.   And when that happens she will be in her mid-fifties and likely have another 30 to 40 years to live alone.   If she really were the type of women men “can’t leave alone” she’d dump the old man and find a hot young guy her age whose career is on the fast track and who is ready, willing and excited to start a family!   No ex wife and kid drama dating age appropriate men.   Hello?   What’s wrong with these young girls?   It sickens me to see old codgers dating girls their daughters age.   I am so happy I date men my age and younger and never take anything too seriously.   Eye roll.

    1. 147.1
      Evan Marc Katz

      Hello! What’s wrong with someone who can’t respect another woman’s choices and happiness?! Eye roll.

  8. 148
    Sugar Baby Dating - RichMeetBeautiful

    Great Post about Dating. Thanks for sharing.

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