I am 25 years old and have never been in a serious relationship. I am a very attractive girl and I tend to meet guys easily and go on dates mostly every weekend. My problem is that it never leads to anything more than that. I don’t know what I’m doing wrong, but the date will go really well and things tend to either move really slow, I won’t hear from them after our date for a week or so, or not at all. My friends all have boyfriends, and I’m really looking to settle down. Can you help me? By the way, it never gets farther than kissing with me. I realize that if they don’t stick around because I won’t have sex with them, then at least I know. It just seems that’s all they are looking for. It seems that attractive girls only get guys that want to sleep with them.
Why can’t I meet a guy who sees me as more?
Today, I’m going to take a controversial stance. I’m going heap some sympathy on the pretty girl.
Does the pretty girl have the same issues as the fat girl? No. The pretty girl never lacks for attention. Heads turn when she walks into the room. Men leap to attention and whisper to each other before approaching. Yes, the pretty girl has more dates than she needs and probably has a waiting list a mile long. What could possibly be wrong with this scenario?
By being singled out for being attractive, you’re never, ever considered “normal.”
Well, if you’re a pretty girl or you know a pretty girl, you know exactly what’s wrong.
You’re an object to men.
You never know why someone likes you.
You can be intimidating without trying.
You can come across as aloof even if you’re just shy.
You’re instantly hated by a lot of other women.
You’re assumed to be dumb by many men.
You may be insecure, but people have trouble believing it.
You’re given things by men for no reason (Free dinners! Vacations! No speeding tickets!), which creates an odd power dynamic.
You’re catered to so frequently that you may lack some kindness, empathy or social grace. When you’re constantly put on a pedestal, it’s hard to be in sync with “normal” people. This is the same thing that afflicts celebrities, by the way. Except they get to claim “diva” status. You’re just known as a bitch.
That last one is just my observation about beautiful people and doesn’t necessarily apply to you. But the point is, by being singled out for being attractive, you’re never, ever considered “normal”…