I am 44 years old and entering the dating scene again for the first time in 25 years. Where do you go to meet someone at my age? I am not doing the online singles sites…that is just scary to me. I don’t go to church. I am new in town, with a few happily married friends.I have four grown who are trying to set me up (I love them, but what a nightmare!!). What do single people do at 40 and over? So much of my time was taken up with caring for someone else that now I just don’t know how to fill that time. Any suggestions?
Thanks for highlighting an important principle for women over 40 seeking love:
You will not find it unless you do something differently.
You said it yourself. You’re new in town. Your friends are married. You don’t go to church. You won’t date online because it’s scary.
It’s about attracting men, understanding men, and making them want to stick around forever and ever. That’s what I do for my clients every single day.
What do you expect me to tell you? No, really. What?
Every day I get emails from women who want one-on-one dating coaching but don’t want to try online dating. I tell each one the same exact thing:
“If you’re dating a few men right now and can guarantee me that you’ll have at least one date a week for the duration of our time together, we can start coaching. If not, what exactly are we going to talk about for 12 weeks?”
They usually come back with a “Well, I thought, as a dating coach, you’d have some ideas on meeting men. Isn’t that what dating coaching is all about?”
No, that’s what articles in Marie Claire are all about:
“The Ten Top Spots to Meet Hot Guys!”
Here, I spared you the trouble of Googling it: The 14 Best Places to Meet Eligible Men
Without giving anything away, Loriann, here are the actual places that have been recommended by a site called AllWomensTalk: the bar, the market, online, church, the water cooler, newspapers, college, friends, the gym, restaurants, work, vacation, parks, airplanes.
Where does this leave you? Apparently, it means standing around a lot, hoping that a cute, age appropriate, interested single guy happens upon you at the bar, the market, college, the gym, restaurants, parks, and airplanes.
So if it’s not already abundantly clear, dating advice is not about WHERE to meet men. It’s about attracting men, understanding men, and making them want to stick around forever and ever. That’s what I do for my clients every single day.