"I finally know what it’s like to be relaxed in a relationship. I can only thank you and the women of the Inner Circle."
I signed up for the Inner Circle in a moment of sheer desperation — being tired of being single, being tired of knowing I was doing something wrong and no one to tell me what it is.
You always did tell it like it is. I have to say thank you for believing in me, and giving me confidence I didn’t know I had. Thank you for seeing that there was something to be seen in me, that I didn’t even know existed.
How bad did the doormat thing get? So bad. I was living under his roof, and made every meal. Never repeated a menu item in the 6 weeks we lived together, which was after a year of being together. A year where he was still free to meet other women. 6 weeks of living together where sometimes he didn’t come home. “Gone to Vienna, be back later” And sometimes I could sleep in his bed and sometimes I couldn’t. That wasn’t even the end of it, but those were things I did and totally thought were ok at the time. That is lower than low.
Eventually I ended it. Actually I didn’t. He broke up me with on Valentine’s Day.
It took me time, but I slowly started to realize I had value. Still, something was off. I felt desperate, and when I was out, I was chasing, so masculine and proactive. We get so used to being proactive in our lives and our careers, and that’s just not how relationships work.
I wasn’t finding anyone I wanted to be with, chasing the wrong men. I was tired of being alone, doing it all by myself, and sometimes your girlfriends don’t have the answers.
You seemed like you did. So on a low ebb of a night, in quiet desperation, I joined the Inner Circle. I never anticipated how life changing it would be. I jumped in fully. I read every post in the Forum and Inner Circle, and having the contact with Evan every two weeks and also, the private coaching was invaluable.
My Inner Circle partner became a very good friend, and I have new friends outside the IC that also helped me. I can literally pin point each a-ha! moment and it feels there is another one each time we spoke.
- That I can be the CEO.
- That I don’t have to be the hostess or doormat.
- That I am the catch, and don’t have to chase.
- That men are abundant and I don’t need to be masculine, or worse, desperate.
- That I have value.
- That I have game.
- That I can be myself and still know if a man actually likes me for me.
- That I didn’t have to work so hard – I was working so hard before for so little, and now I can do so much less and get so much more.
And most importantly, that I am worthy of love and will find it one day — it was just a question of when. Now, I have a boyfriend who is the best friend I love to make out with. For the first time, I know what it’s like to be relaxed in a relationship.
For all of that, I can only thank you and the women of the Inner Circle. You changed my life.
From the bottom of my heart,